music that was specifically intended to be sensual is clearly not something for a Jewish neshamah to imbibe and assimilate.
In all fairness, why not?
Everything has sparks of Kedusha (a Chassidish concept). There is no reason why “sensual” music can not be used towards service of the Ribbono Shel Olam.
(Personally, I agree with those (Sam2) who say you are way out of line. It is also my personal opinion that dancing with poles or similar should not be done in public (nothing to do with Tznius, see my earlier posts in this thread). However, in private with one’s spouse then Tavo Alehem Bracha. It is no different than the Takanas Chazal regarding perfumes.)