HaKatan:
I have our point of disagreement:
You believe that someone’s husband dancing with a pole in private for his wife will make the wife think of an exotic dancer.
I believe it will make her think of her husband.
I agree if it make him/her think of the worker then it should not be done.
You agree(?) that if it doesn’t, then it is Kadosh.
Shalom Al Yisroel!
P.S. The Steipler in his Iggeres for Chassanim basicly says that those simanim in SA are not applicable in this day and age. I’m not disagreeing with the point of “Kos Acher”, though.