Nevertheless, I wouldn’t do it because I believe shidduchim come from Shamayim and my hishtadlus is to always tell the truth and not mislead people. In this case, this would cause me some wasted time, but that’s worth it for me to be a person who is honest.
But I agree with DY that it is not really unethical, and I wouldn’t judge someone else who did this.
Dishonesty is inherently unethical, unless you have a very good reason for it. If shiduchim are all from shamayim, etc., then why would lying to facilitate them be justified?
It’s interesting that there are two distinct groups of responses here. My hypothesis is that if you ONLY do shidduch dating, you think that this is an okay thing to do.
I am not yet dating, but I plan on using the shidduch system exclusively when I date.