T613t,
I did not say it was ethical (my previous post was facetious, in response to popa). I think it is UNethical.
I was only disagreeing with the degree to which it is wrong, assuming the other person wasn’t being hurt. Still, I think it is a lack of respect for the other, unless the motivation is purely to save them from hurt feelings (which it isn’t). So although I disagree with it, I don’t think it defines the person as selfish.
If the other person is being hurt, I think it’s a horrible, selfish thing to do.