I don’t beleive that 18 year old know EXACTLY what they need and that’s why I never suggested anyone should do anything on their own . However if the parents are selfish (sorry maybe most of them are not, but a lot of parents want kovod, a knakedige shidduch or what they want in a marriage partner for THEMSELVES not what their child needs) then one should talk it over with a wise adult. The best thing is that the wise adult should be a person the parents would listen to like this is no hard feelings develope between the parents and child (provided the parents are only selfish and not meshegoyim – then nothing can help the parents feelings shouldn’t become bruised.)
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