Haven’t been to the CR in a couple of days, sorry if my responses are a bit late.
TAOM- The reason we overwhelm friends are age is because we pick the wrong people to talk to. Once you find people going through similar experiences, you will find that they can listen to anything. I found a couple of friends like that, all of whom were from different groups and very different personalities than me, but now we are such close friends. I’d suggest if you don’t have someone older to talk to, find someone close to your age who seems to be going thru something hard too.
OUTORAH- Your advice to embrace someone works if they can overcome their issues. It is never recommended to forgive an abuser and try to come close to them. Normal rules of getting rid of resentment don’t apply here.