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Would you say that parents of a good Bais Yaakov girl offering a Shadchan $10,000 for a zivug is:
1) Average
2) Above average
3) Well above average
4) Extravagant
Also, any comments?
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Asking about the girl or the parents?
I would say SMART PARENTS!!!
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Go on a Jewish Dating Site, and give $9,982 to feed the needy over Pesach. Note:- I subtracted $18 to cover your registration fee onto the Jewish dating site.
offering, or paying shadvhan fee.
For that price, you can donate $10,000 to the needy for Pesach and register on craigslist. You may not find your soul mate you were looking for to build a bayis neeman beyisrael, but you’ll probably have fun. Or you can deal with a real person that actually knows what both sides are aiming for in life. The fact that their goals match on paper means nothing. All five people to describe yeshivish, and you’ll get five different descriptions. A search engine just doesn’t cut it.
Regarding 147’s comment: My wife and I met on JWed (back when it was still Frumster). We are still happily married ten years later. It was a lot less expensive than $10,000.
Paying Shadchonis gelt is customary and all fine and good, but the amount gives the impression that there is something wrong with the girl.
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Really? It depends if the family is in one of two mindsets
A) This shadchan and only this shadchan will bring their shidduch (aka Avodah Zara)
B) This is part of their hishtadlus to show Hashem they are trying their best. (Pretty extravagant but understandable, shidduchim is a hard parsha)
Also, what does 10,000 dollars get you? A meeting? A promise to “keep you in mind”? A guaranteed marriage? At least 10 yes’s from guys? A date that will at least get to 5 dates?
What are you paying for?
You left out choice ‘E’ – insane
I agree with the guy who said Jwed or even singles weekends/functions.
I met my wife more than 30 years ago on a july 4th weekend at one of the hotels in the mountains. Many many more couples met that way.
Barry maybe they want an 8 cow son in law, if you are not aware google 8 cow wife.
It isn’t any worse to pay $10,000 for a shadchan than to pay $10,000 for a wedding ceremony.
I think you should offer more, due to the shidduch crisis.
The Gog: Exactly the point. If the girl was worth the 8 cow s-i-l they wouldn’t need the offer. If she is not and someone takes the offer, how good a marriage will it be if they are on vastly different levels?
It says more about our society that about the quality of the individual “offered.”
Makes me sad.
Individual being offered? Money is being offered.
Oh, DY… You can look at it both ways. Why a critical eye?
What do you mean?
“apushatayid: Offering to pay. I’m not sure what you mean.”
Meaning. Are they bribing the shadchan with $10,000 to find a shidduch, or are you asking for opinions on a $10,000 shadchan fee.
Lets hope it wont be making up for something
You don’t see the difference between a fee and a bribe?
A shadchan works for each match that’s made, 80% don’t work out. So u are paying him for much more than the 1 Shidduch.
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