January 13, 2014 1:50 am at 1:50 am #611836
I would like to share a novice’s perspective and possibly get an experts opinion. On many support groups and forums I talk about ways in which the society and people have wronged me.
But one of the main parts of Teshuva and spiritual growth is realizing that I have sinned against G-d and wronged people. In secular life and on my resumes I have to brag about my virtues, but recognizing my faults is a very important part of spiritual growth.January 13, 2014 2:35 am at 2:35 am #998274147Participant
How about studying Sefer Aleh Shur by the venerated Rav Shelomo Wolbe ZTKLLH’H who says that one shouldn’t knock oneself down, because s/he shall simply become more trodden and stop performing Mitzvos.January 14, 2014 12:29 am at 12:29 am #998275👑RebYidd23Participant
So are you for or against sin>January 14, 2014 2:44 am at 2:44 am #998276147Participant
rebyidd23:- I’ll get back to you with an answer after Yom kippur, or better still, come to my Shul on Yom Kippur, and I’ll let you know on Yom kippur.January 14, 2014 3:14 am at 3:14 am #998277ShishiMember
Lost1970, you are right! In essence when we sin towards a person we are saying ” hey God, see your kid over here, I don’t care about him.” What greater pain can you bring to a father than hurting his beloved child!January 14, 2014 3:14 am at 3:14 am #998278
Most criminologists believe that most criminals suffer from very high self esteem.
I have some talents but my observance level is low. I mostly observe Sabbath and say part of the daily prayers, and buy only kosher food (we do not have kosher dishes).January 14, 2014 3:23 am at 3:23 am #998279ShishiMember
You need to try your harder to be the best that you can be. Connect with a rabbi and he’ll help you take correct baby steps to be the “best you” possible! Good luck!January 14, 2014 3:50 am at 3:50 am #998280👑RebYidd23Participant
There’s more than one kind of criminal. Some commit crimes out of need or desperation, some for revenge, some just to get something they want but don’t need, and some who do crimes seemingly for no reason. adjustments madeJanuary 14, 2014 4:46 pm at 4:46 pm #998281oomisParticipant
and buy only kosher food (we do not have kosher dishes). “
How wonderful that you are taking even the “baby steps.” Each step is worth the effort. Is it possible in your household for you to cook your own food with separate pots and utensils, and serve it with disposable silverware and paper goods? If you already have kosher food available, it’s not so big a leap to using kosher utensils for yourself, so maybe your family would get on the bandwagon with you. If not, speak to a Rov as to how you could use your oven in a kosher way (i.e. double wrapping your pans first), whether that would be permissible to you, given your circumstance. Or perhaps you could get yourself two inexpensive toaster ovens one each for dairy and meat. In either case, don’t give up. You are motivated, and it is praiseworthy of you.January 14, 2014 5:20 pm at 5:20 pm #998282yichusdikParticipant
I second Oomis in applauding your efforts. R’Noach Weinberg, zt’l whose yahrzeit was yesterday, if I am not mistaken, said that we grow closer to the Almighty with the merit of even one mitzvah, and our tradition tells us that even the intention to do a mitzvah is meritorious, so kol hakavod.
I also wanted to mention that in Judaism, when we are not focusing on that wich we have done right, we focus most on the concept of averah – transgression, rather than cheit – sin. Why? Well, because of the concept of personal teshuvah, which differentiates us from other religions, the idea of transgression, “crossing over” to wrongdoing, allows us the ability to “cross back” or “return” – Teshuvah. Sin is a word which has been essentially abducted by the christians and imbued with meaning specific to their misconceptions. We don’t see it as a “state of being” so much as a transitory designation before it is withdrawn through sacrifice in the time of the Beit Hamikdash, or prayer and Hashem’s mercy nowadays.
Hatzlacha on your journey.January 14, 2014 10:13 pm at 10:13 pm #998283
Thank you. My first priority is to keep observance at least at present level.
At least I am learning Torah almost every day and keeping contact with the Jewish community.January 14, 2014 10:33 pm at 10:33 pm #998284
A really big problem is that I almost have no human contact except for my family and Internet.January 14, 2014 11:55 pm at 11:55 pm #998285yoseMember
The internet isn’t human. How many family members are you in contact with?
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