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What would you suggest as a good segulah that other people could do to help people that need to be blessed with children?
I can only tell you that my daughter-in-law went to the Mikvah as she entered her ninth month of pregnancy(which is a popular segulah in our neighborhood for an easy delivery), and a childless young woman was the next woman to go into the Mikvah after she came out (which is another segulah that is popular here), and within two months, the childless woman was expecting and delivered a healthy baby later that year. She had been trying for a while with no success. We coordinated the two tevilos to coincide with my DIL’s beginning of the ninth month and the childless woman’s specific leil tevilah. Whether or not this segulah is an accepted one by the frum velt at large, it certainly had two great outcomes, an easy delivery for one and a pregnancy for another woman. Both women delivered boys.
Aside from this, daven with all your heart for the childless women you know. Take two childless women and ask them to each daven for the other one and they will B”EH both be answered.
I think in the binah magazine they recently had an article a woman wrote about being barren for many years. She heard about a rav, if you Daven by his kever,, it’s a segulah for having children. She went and poured out her heart and within a year, I think, gave birth. She then went for her best friend, who was also barren for many years, who then also gave birth within a year. I’ll try to find out more info, bli neder.
lighting shabbos candles
My parents were childless for 10 years, with no physical possibility of having kids. My uncle was also childless and asked my father if he wanted to join him in contributing money to help a talmid chacham (not yet ‘famous’) publish a sefer he was writing. He did,and they are mentioned in the “thank you’s” of one of The Steiplers volumes. My father and his brother had 12 kids between them!
tefilla. tefilla tefilla.
Several months ago, I posted a “prayer” in YWN CR, for others to be Mispallel on behalf of childless couples. It can be found at :
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/time-to-daven-for-childless-couples
As great as it is to Daven for others its even greater if the one in need Davens him/herself. See Rashi in Vayeira perek 21 passuk 17.
The main thing is for any Tefillah to be answered it has to be sincere and heartfelt and with tears. A Tefillah with tears is worth many many tefillos without tears. If you can’t cry to Hashem you haven’t even begun Davening.
There are two Segulos from the Medrash thaat comes to mind. Shluach Hakein and to pay tuition for someone. The Medrash says of the latter, every Mitzva that you do is with what you got from Hashem. Therefore, you are never really giving Hashem anything, you are merely giving Him from what He gave you. But when someone without children brings children to Chinuch, Hashem says, I owe this person something, and gives him children
3 segulos that I know for childless couples that WORKED are
Donating ‘Chai Rotel’ in Meron La”g Be’omer
Being Chassan Kol Ne’orim
Getting Maftir 1st Day Rosh HaShana (about Chana)
Two women I know joined together to give Chai Rottel for Lag Baomer (or Lag Laomer… Sorry I’m harping back to a thread I once began) for 2 relatives of theirs to get engaged; one of whom has since married. Around half a year after Lag Baomer, one of the women told the other that she was expecting a baby. She replied that she was also! And they both gave birth within days of each other… ten months after Lag Baomer!!!
The two most effective Segulos are Davening and seeing a fertility doctor.
HaLeiVi: Where does it say that shiluach haken is a segulah for children? The Torah says straight out that it will give you arichas yomim.
Sam2- those are regular expected hishtadlus, not segulos ?
but, hey, if they work….by all means!
Driving carpool and making challah are at the top of my list — someone who was fairly diligent with these had success after 8 years. They had exhausted all infertility routes. Many people were davening for them of course, and they were kvater at several brissim also.
As with everything, we need to do enough so that Hashem’s hand can be somewhat hidden … what was effective … could be any of several things.
Feif, it’s a Medrash, coming off the words, Vehabanim Tikach Lach. You don’t think children take away from Arichas Yamim, do you?
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I can only recommend what worked for the Avos and Eemahos…
– prayer, prayer, and more prayer.
My uncle is the executive director of a frum day school. He one time got a check in the mail for $3,600 from someone who had never given before. He called them up to thank them and asked them why such the big amount. They replied that they had tried for many years to have children (both of them doctors actually) and could not but maybe giving that money to a jewish day school would be a merit for them. Very soon after that couple had twins. (double chai) Of course my uncle joked to them maybe they should have given 5,400 and had triplets. So they did give the $5400 and soon after also had triplets!
I also heard from the Strupkover Rebbe that a zechus for sons is to:
1. Make Kiddush on red wine 2. Light 2 candles after havdalah (peru uh revu) and 3. Eat warm bread and a warm drink for melavah malka.
Rav Moshe Turgeman also told me that we should work on being mekabel ol malchus shamaim and accept with love what Hashem gives us. From there is the source of all bracha.
The Gra wrote a recipe that involves garlic which he said helps with infertility. He says that raw garlic is bad for you, but if you cook it all the way it loses the part that helps. He describes exactly how to prepare it.
There are organizations that can help with the medical parts. Bonei Olam is great. Even if you don’t need the money, they know all the best doctors and can tell you who is the best for your specific case.
If you’re chassidish, you can reach out to A TIME also.
tdsdart- Wow, what an incredible story that was(with your uncle)! thanks for sharing!
who is the Strupkover Rebbe? I never heard of him.
Forty women taking hafrashat challah with the couple’s full name and their mother’s names.
Davening at the Shotzer Rebbe Z’TL Kever in London at Enfield Cemetary on a Friday before Chatzot.
I read an article in Hamishpacha, that Rebbetzin Kanievsky A’H, leaving her home on the way to her Mother’s (Rebbetzin Eliyashav’s A’H)levaya, asked someone to call a yungerleit who had no children for many years to do the mitzvah of Shiluach Haken. It is reported that the family had a child after doing this great mitzvah.
Chai Rotel on Lag B’Omer in Meron.
Taking kvater at a bris.
Making a bracha party and saying all the brachot and everyone answering AMEN loudly.
Davening, davening, and more davening!!!!!!
tzaddiq: The Strupkover Rebbe is a grandson of the Satmar Rav (pre WW2). He lives in Israel but travels all over the world. Strupkov has always had close times to Satmar and Sanz
There is a sefer in hebrew called “Haba Li Banim” which is all about segulos for having children.
Saying ????? ??? after lighting Shabbos candles.
Taking care of the eiruv (so you can “carry”).
Note: Going to Shotzer Rov’s kever on Friday requires to take upon yourself a ??? ???.
If you’re chassidish, you can reach out to A TIME also.
If you’re not chassidish, you can reach out to A TIME also. They’re not going to reject you. GUARANTEED!!
tryinghard, unfortunately, I’ve heard otherwise from many people.
i know one of the founders of A Time and she is not chassidish. a person does not need to be chassidish to go to A time.
commonsense: No, you don’t even have to be Jewish to GO to A TIME. But I’ve heard from numerous people that non-chassidim are not treated nearly as well by them, and things were said by people in high positions to some people who had gone to them.
Rama Mipano says: If a woman thinks that she is equal to that of her husband, they will not have children. The sun and the moon could not rule together as equals. The Rabbis ordained Wednesday as the day for marriage because Wednesday was the day that the sun and moon were placed in sky; a woman, who lives for her children gets married on Wednesday to inspire her to be like the moon, and just as the moon was minimized and then merited many stars to serve it, so too, a woman, who minimizes herself in respect to her husband will merit many children.
I know someone personally who had a friend who was married for a while and did not have any children. She and a group of friends decided to learn Shmiras Haloshon at 9:00 pm via conference calls. They finished the the sefer twice. On the last night of the second cycle at 9:00 PM they got phone call that this person had twins. If only we would know how powerful it is to guard our tongue (not to sound holy or anything).
HaLeiVi -“There are two Segulos from the Medrash thaat comes to mind. Shluach Hakein”
I’m pretty sure this Segulah works. I had the opportunity to do this Mitzva because one of those Kosher birds had eggs in my tree, but I knew s/o who didn’t have kids and wanted him to do it.
But my neighbor wanted to do it since he saw I wasn’t doing it, but I told him I don’t give him permission because I want a childless man to get it. He said he didn’t care and he was going to do it anyway if the guy didn’t come soon. B’H the guy came soon and did it. Not long after they had a kid (a girl I think).
I don’t even know if they had any more kids!
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