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Ur boss doesn’t appreciate the work you do for him but pays you 75,000 versus an appreciative boss who pays you 50,000 which one would pick?
haha. If someone pays me, that is the greatest appreciation.
are you for real?! in a perfect world maybe someone would have such a decision to make. in the real world appreciation does not pay bills and you are talking a huge difference in salary. grin and bear it and smile as you pay your bills.
Without a doubt, the boss that pays 75,000 and doesn’t appreciate my work. Now if it was 35,00 vs. 36,000, that might be a different story.
A better question- Considering that the boss isn’t abusing you, what amount does your wife appreciate more?
75k. Appreciation cannot pay your bills. 25k can.
That would depend on how badly I needed the extra 25K, and how the lack of appreciation manifested itself. Is the unappreciative Boss A merely unappreciative or does he make work a living gehennom? Hostile work environments shorten our lives. BUT – if that money is needed desperately, you might be able to suck it up and smile all the way to the bank. It’s bad not to be appreciated, but that is not the same thing as having someone rag on you all day. Plan B is to get Boss B to up the ante, so I could stay with him/her. BTW, I LIVED this scenario, and almost quit. But I could not afford to.
Depends how much money I need.
Appreciation is nice, but it won’t pay your landlord.
I choose the Money; appreciation doesn’t feed my family or pay my kids tuition…..
The truth is that it would depend on my financial situation. If I needed the extra 25,000 in order to pay my gas and electricity, and to put bread on the table, I would work for an unappreciative boss, knowing that my happy husband and kids would give me the satisfaction that appreciation brings. However, if it wouldn’t be absolutely necessary, I would work for less, but want to feel appreciated. I think I would find it too hard to work for someone who takes what I do for granted.
I was in a similar quandry and took the lower paying job because if you spend an entire day feeling begrudged to your boss, you’ll never feel good and it will ruin the rest of your life, including family relations, friends…
Depends how much I need the money. Also depends if I feel I can handle it without letting it get to me.
You are lucky if its a choice! In the real world, most people need the money, so they would stick it out. When it gets to the point of “hazardous to your health” then the choice isnt really there anymore either. I know a family that lived on $200 a month at one point because the father was getting ill from the torture and had to quit.
Both scenarios have their problems.
Depending on your budget, act accordingly.
Hatzlacha!
That all depends on the circumstances. Obviously if the appreciative employer was truly sincere, and you could afford to hold out, you can both work together and grow together and he can show his appreciation in the future monetarily as it becomes possible. If his game is to be appreciative so he does NOT have to pay out, you won’t feel appreciated for long.
On the other hand, if you need the money, you most likely will use that job as a stepping stone to keep moving forward so you will be using your boss in the same way as he is using you. You won’t appreciate him and he won’t appreciate you and you are only there to make the money until you can move on.
One cannot answer the question without first experiencing no appreciation. If lack of appreciate comes with along with covert emotional abuse then like koillel101 said, the lower income is better. And the reason why he knows it is because he experienced it.
Trust me, all the ones who said appreciation doesn’t pay the bills, experience it and then get back to us.
take the money and dont think about your pride.
The job with the boss who doesn’t appreciate the work being done may be very short lived. Ultimately, the worker may never see the 75K he’s “banking” on.
There’s also a difference between working for a boss who doesn’t appreciate the work and a boss who verbally “mouths off” about his lack of appreciation for the work. The boss who’s silent about his feelings and continues to pay shows that for the time being he accepts the status quo. That may be tolerable. Working for a boss who’s verbally abusive in the way he shows his lack of appreciation might be more difficult to tolerate long term.
It depends. If my boss paid me really well, but didn’t appreciate me, I could live with that. So I don’t get praised, or thanked, it’s not a big deal. But if he paid me well and treated me like dirt, I would not work there. I don’t think any job is worth the money if your boss treats you like dirt. It affects you very deeply and it would ruin your day, make you crabby to your family. But like others said, you gotta pay the bills, so it really is a tough decision. I hope no one has to go through such a thing.
What better and truer expression of appreciation could there be than paying a person more? If you boss didn’t appreciate you, he wouldn’t pay you anything. Businesses, particularly small businesses cannot afford to pay folks that they don’t appreciate.
Ideally, there should be both. Some praise for the work you do and a comfortable wage. But, ( as some of the previous posters have said) there is a difference between a demonstrated lack of appreciation and abuse. If your boss is verbally abusive, the amount of money that you are temporarily earning isn’t worth the erosion of your health by working in a corrosive atmosphere.
thinkfirst; pleasure!
I did not write here earlier as this question has a different answer for everyone, if you have healthy high self esteem and need the money that is your answer,
BUT,
if you have a low self esteem and were gonna take advice from us anonymous posters seriously
Definitely take the lower pay/higher praise!
HATZLOCHO, we all know how hard some decisions are.
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