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    Bramo
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    if a boy doesnt go to a out of town yeshiva or israel is that a reason to be concerned and will he have a hard time gettting married

    #1132945
    Joseph
    Participant

    No.

    #1132946

    No

    Every boy is different and some don’t feel mature enough to become independent to go out of town for Yeshiva. Others want to stay local for other reasons. How many reasons can you think of why today it’s more popular for boys to stay local then it was 20 years ago?

    #1132947
    Holala
    Participant

    Not at all just the opposite

    #1132948
    CTLAWYER
    Participant

    No.

    In fact as a parent I prefer that boys be where their parents can keep a proper eye on them.

    #1132949
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    It’s not such a big deal. He can just marry a girl who didn’t go to sem.

    #1132950
    👑RebYidd23
    Participant

    It’s silly to be the person you don’t want to be in order to get married to someone whom the person you want to be wouldn’t even like.

    #1132951
    WolfishMusings
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    I didn’t go out of town and I didn’t have any problem finding a wife. In fact, had I gone out of town, I would not have met her.

    The Wolf

    #1132952
    technical21
    Participant

    There are many boys who don’t go to E’Y for one reason or another. It does not usually affect their shidduchim.

    #1132953
    Hashemisreading
    Participant

    Especially now, with all that’s going on there, many mothers are scared to send their sons, as it is with girls not going to seminary.

    #1132954
    technical21
    Participant

    Hashemisreading- that’s true. Lol if a boy is entering shidduchim and someone has a ???? about the fact that he didn’t go to E’Y, he could just say, “My mother was scared of the situation there” 🙂

    Seriously, though, I know of plenty of people, boys and girls, who didn’t go for that reason.

    #1132955
    Hashemisreading
    Participant

    technical21: its seriously a valid reason! im dying to go visit and im not even doing that!

    #1132956
    longarekel
    Member

    if the boy stayed home and was happy about it that tells me he has a wonderful family. definitely a plus for shidduchim.

    #1132957
    technical21
    Participant

    Well, let’s put it this way: B’H I am engaged to a boy who never went to E’Y. It did not affect his shidduchim:)

    #1132958
    TRUEBT
    Participant

    To Technical21:

    B’SHA’A TOVA U’MUTZLACHAS!

    TIZKI LIVNOS BAYIS NE’EMAN B’YISROEL!

    #1132959
    stopthehate
    Member

    everyone should do whats best for them as a person.

    #1132960
    technical21
    Participant

    TRUEBT- thank you so much! Amein!

    #1132961
    funnybone
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    It says something about the boy’s personality. If his friends have all gone and he doesn’t go, the question is why. Does he lack independence? Self confidence? Or his he very conscientious about pleasing his mom?

    #1132962
    The Queen
    Participant

    Or maybe he simply has a mind of his own and isn’t so hung up about doing what “everyone” does.

    #1132963
    technical21
    Participant

    funnybone- there are many, many reasons which could cause a boy not to go to E’Y. In my chosson’s case, I am aware of the reasons, and there is nothing negative involved.

    Not including my chosson’s reasons, though, use your seichel- there is one very prominent reason that a boy might not go to learn in E’Y.

    #1132964
    writersoul
    Member

    Guys often have very little supervision in EY, much less than girls do. (Much much less.) The year in EY can often be a huge waste, if not handled well, while staying in the US can mean staying in a more structured place, being more focused, and getting life moving more quickly.

    #1132965
    kfb
    Participant

    Why would a boy go away for yeshiva?

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