DEAL BREAKER: Wicker furniture
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September 28, 2017 10:10 pm at 10:10 pm #1373840
If living amongst wicker furniture is a deal breaker, what’s the best way to go about ensuring you’re not paired up with your wicker furniture opposite?
Should you list being anti-wicker furniture on your shidduch resume?
Do you inform the shadchan before meeting him or her?
Do you bring it up to the bochur during the first date? Or screen him in a pre-date phone call?
Thank you 🙂September 28, 2017 11:23 pm at 11:23 pm #1373870
It’s not a deal breaker for anyone. If one spouse has wicker furniture and the other hates it, they could live in a home that has room for both of their interests, and the wicker hater need not step foot into the wicker room.September 28, 2017 11:36 pm at 11:36 pm #1373880
Key word: *DEAL BREAKER*
… What you speak of, RebYidd23, is compromise.
What I’m saying is deal breaker. He demands to live with wicker in his home. For all purposes here, I’m deathly allergic to wicker.
100% of couples in such absolute wicker deal breaker cases, where the two people decide to go through with the wedding, have failed marriages. Of those failed marriages, 100% of the couples divorced within 2 years of marriage.
Thankfully, I don’t need facts to convince me of staying away from wicker lovers. I have my first two divorces to thank for teaching me that there is no compromise when it comes to weaved furniture.September 28, 2017 11:54 pm at 11:54 pm #1373887
I’m saying it shouldn’t be a deal breaker because you don’t have to participate in the wicker.
He could even spray the wicker with a thick layer of sealant so that no wicker dust gets out.September 28, 2017 11:55 pm at 11:55 pm #1373888
For the record: https://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/pre-yom-kippur-request-from-the-helige-coffee-room-posters#post-1373873
This thread is not serious. For one thing, I know of no wicker facts. I made those up for the sake of this topic
I’ve also never been married, let alone divorced (B”H for the latter).
Also, RebYidd23’s idea of compromising here is a fantastic one! ☺
Okay… just so you’re aware, I’ll be going back into wicker mode in the next posts.
And quite honestly, I really am allergic to wicker furniture. I pray that, if my beshert, really likes wicker, he’ll give it up completely for us go live with shalom bayis.
I’m extremely allergic to dust mites, and even vacuuming wicker doesn’t remove all of the dust and allergens that accumulate within the woven seams.
When I worked a side job as an interior designer, I learned how dangerous wicker was to my health. The combination of cats, dust, and wicker were near lethal; and I wish that I was exaggerating more here.
Thank youSeptember 28, 2017 11:55 pm at 11:55 pm #1373890JosephParticipant
Can you clue is innocents into what wicker furniture is that it is such a huge issue?
I’m too lazy to Google, so forgive me.September 28, 2017 11:58 pm at 11:58 pm #1373894☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
Why don’t you look it up on wickerpedia?September 29, 2017 1:08 am at 1:08 am #1373899
Joseph: You submitted your post before getting a chance to read mine.
To sum it up, for someone with severe dust allergies, wicker is a big trigger. I also don’t fabric furniture. Unfortunately, I have one upolstered fabric chair at home that I cannot wrap in plastic. When I had fabric-cushioned dining room chairs, I covered them with Contact Paper. And yes, it was not a sightly look. Eventually I just got rid of them.
The secret to my home furniture is that it’s discreetly covered in plastic. Only after the plastic, do I then disguise the pieces with machine washable fabric covers.
RebYidd23 mentioned spraying the wicker, which may still result in a bumpy texture. Bumpy furniture has more nooks for dust mites. Perhaps paper mache made from plastic would smooth it out before taking the task of painting the wicker. That’s a lot of work.September 29, 2017 1:09 am at 1:09 am #1373900
Ooops sorry Joseph! I misread your post.
You know those pieces of furniture that look like baskets?
Whether it is a chair or a table, or whatever, the frames are commonly woven pieces of palm, like rattan. Some wicket furniture is made of woven plastic pieces.
When I think of wicker, I picture Miami interior decor, in the 1980’s. I don’t know of its totally accurate, but in my life experience, wicker shows up in outdated beach hotels and old tv shows feature.
BUT… there is also contemporary wicker furniture. Wicker is frequently used for outdoor furniture, and seen in island interior design as well.
Anyway, hope that helps. ☺
You’ve certainty seen wicker before.September 29, 2017 7:38 am at 7:38 am #1373913CTLAWYERParticipant
He needs education……………
Real wicker furniture (not the imitation garbage) belongs on the porch, in the yard or around the pool. It can be cleaned by hosing it off and goodbye dust.
It is not appropriate for indoor use, just as bubbe’s velvet love seat with the silk tassels doesn’t belong in the yard….unless waiting for bulk pickup daySeptember 29, 2017 8:53 am at 8:53 am #1373918hujuParticipant
If Joseph does not know what wicker furniture is, he (or she?) must still be living in rural Poland.
As for CTLawyer’s inside/outside rule on wicker, yes, that is the custom, yes it’s practical, but it is not Halachah. And in parts of the US, mostly the Old Confederacy, that velvet couch goes on the outdoor porch when it’s too beat up to keep inside, but still comfy. It’s a good place to drink home-made untaxed whiskey.
As for Lightbrite’s deadly wicker allergy, it doesn’t matter when you stop dating the wicker lover. If it kills you, don’t marry him. And that’s probably Halachah.September 29, 2017 9:03 am at 9:03 am #1373931JosephParticipant
It’s a Mitzvah to be a buki on fabrics?September 29, 2017 9:33 am at 9:33 am #1373944
Lightbrite, enough layers of sealant spray and the bumps go away.
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