June 20, 2011 4:02 am at 4:02 am #597494
I walked into a room the other day and saw a friend on their laptop, and the screen was of the coffee room where they had obviously just posted (you knw when it’s yellow?) They quickly changed the screen and I pretended not to see.
Should I leave them to their anonymity or confront them?
Im pretty sure I knw who they are on here though they have no idea who I am…June 20, 2011 8:06 am at 8:06 am #779556SabziMember
go talk about it… maybe you could take the coffee room outside the digital world and discuss topics in real life?June 20, 2011 1:33 pm at 1:33 pm #779557gefenParticipant
baab – just like u probably don’t want them to know ur screen name, they prob don’t want u to know theirs (even if u think u do).
it’s not like they were doing something illegal that needs to be confronted.
of course u could bring up the topic of the cr (w/o letting them know what you saw on their laptop) if they feel like telling you they post, fine. if not, also fine.June 20, 2011 2:40 pm at 2:40 pm #779558mewhoParticipant
you must immediately confront this person and also be sure to make a tshirt that says i caught you on yw cr.
at the same time why dont you post your own name since you dont think your acquaintance has a right to his/her annonymity.
my goodness……yentasJune 20, 2011 2:47 pm at 2:47 pm #779559abcd2Participant
FYI if you are posting this here, then Mr. or Miss whomever you saw will probably realize or at the very least think it is them you are talking about.Assuming you saw correctly then they are an active coffee roomer. How many people in the CR in the past few days quickly had to adjust their screen because someone suddenly saw them posting? If it is a friend then it really is not the worst thing in the world, however they might have liked their cloak of anonymity. If you don’t want your friend to find out ask the mods to get rid of this threadJune 20, 2011 2:55 pm at 2:55 pm #779560
I doubt she’ll figure out who I am.. But your right I have no business taking away her privacy. I just thought it was so funny that she was also a CRer… Took me a few minutes to get my mind around it 😀June 20, 2011 2:56 pm at 2:56 pm #779561Pac-ManMember
BAAB: I can’t believe you did this to me. Now I will have to change my longtime SN.June 20, 2011 3:04 pm at 3:04 pm #779562mewhoParticipant
live and let live i say!!June 20, 2011 3:11 pm at 3:11 pm #779563ZeesKiteParticipant
OK Busy, I’ll change my name (and mind)June 20, 2011 4:34 pm at 4:34 pm #779564on the ballParticipant
busted oh no!June 20, 2011 4:49 pm at 4:49 pm #779565I can only tryMember
Busy As A Bee-
Unless there’s a constructive purpose (e.g. they’re revealing personal info), the answer would be a strong “No”.
In all likelihood, you’ll just embarrass the person.June 20, 2011 6:15 pm at 6:15 pm #779566
Wow I didn’t knw I had so Many friends!!!
Thanks guys 😀June 21, 2011 1:25 am at 1:25 am #779567SabziMember
hmm… seems like i’m going against the flow on this one… but what “privacy” are yall talking about? … i surely hope that you aren’t suggesting that this space is being used to speak about things would never be spoken about aloud… what’s there to be embarrassed about?June 21, 2011 8:35 am at 8:35 am #779568I can only tryMember
“…what’s there to be embarrassed about?“
It’s not whats said or posted that’s embarrassing, it’s that many posters are shy and would prefer to remain incognito.June 23, 2011 1:13 am at 1:13 am #779569kapustaParticipant
I would want to know if someone knew who I was. Think of it this way, if you were talking to someone, wouldn’t you want to know if there was someone else listening in to the conversation?June 23, 2011 4:13 am at 4:13 am #779570StuffedCabbageParticipant
i think you should tell her before she spills her life story out on this site…..and then she’ll be really embarrassed….June 23, 2011 4:51 am at 4:51 am #779572basket of radishesParticipant
The proper halachaicly thing to do is ask them if they want to talk about the coffee room on ywn and if they do you can ask them what name they post under, if that is to be something you will share with them including disclosing your identity. That you saw their open screen is no crime and it is a prelude to a conversation. If they want to be discrete that is not the place to do so. But that said, if they are not a friend of yours and you do not regularly have conversations, it is not your place to “confront” another person about his anonymous postings on the internet unless of course it is inflammatory and clearly it is the same person. So best wishes.
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