Do Married Women Help Out Doing the Yard Work and Car?

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  • #599519
    shlishi
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    While the other discussion was raging as to whether married men help out with the laundry and dishes, I began wondering whether married women help out doing the yard work and fixing the car.

    Wives?

    #1074674
    ha ha ha ha
    Member

    i think someone mentioned something about mitzrim and giving men ladies work and ladies men work…..

    #1074675
    shlishi
    Member

    That was me.

    #1074676
    zahavasdad
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    Gardening is becoming more and more taken up by women and likely the majority of garderners are women

    #1074677
    adorable
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    NO!!!!!!

    #1074678
    TheGoq
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    You seem very defensive shlishi u must not help out alot

    #1074679
    shlishi
    Member

    I’m so hurt by that unwarranted slander Goq. I hope you ask mechila before RH.

    #1074680
    apushatayid
    Participant

    How many frum men do you see changing the oil in their car or replacing sparkplugs? 🙂

    #1074681
    ha ha ha ha
    Member

    so whats your view on this???

    #1074682
    TheGoq
    Participant

    I am sorry if you took offense shlishi but again you seem very defensive about these 2 threads methinks he doest protest too much!

    #1074683
    Obaminator
    Member

    Good wives help with car and yard and good husbands help with the laundry and dishes.

    #1074684
    apushatayid
    Participant

    We leave the car to the mechanic and the yard to the gardener.

    #1074686
    Queen Bee
    Member

    I would help out with the car. That’d be fun. I have changed the chain and seat on my bike. I fixed my computer when it crashed. I help out with the garden. I shovel the snow sometimes. I think there shouldn’t be set rules whether a man should do this, or a woman should not do this. Unless something is halachicly forbidden, I believe men and women can do whatever they wish. I actually enjoy doing more of the “manly” things. I enjoy some of the “women” things, too.

    #1074687
    shmoel
    Member

    We leave the dishes to the dishwasher and the laundry to the laundromat.

    #1074689
    Peacemaker
    Member

    I actually enjoy doing more of the “manly” things.

    Are you a tomboy?

    #1074690
    Queen Bee
    Member

    Peacemaker, I’m not sure. As a kid I loved to steal my brother’s LEGO and play with it. I was very wild–I hung off the banisters in my house. I liked playing with trucks and action figures. But I also loved playing with my Barbie dolls. I’m not crazy over sports or cars, but I don’t like makeup, doing my nails, jewelry or shopping. I do like to cook and bake, do needlework. I loved sewing clothing for my dolls as a kid. The video games I like are kind of “guyish” I guess, but I do enjoy some of the girly ones, too. So what does that make me?

    #1074691
    flyer
    Participant

    I’ve mowed the lawn and planted flowers. I don’t fix the car but neither does my husband. I have taken it to the mechanic a few times.

    #1074692
    minyan gal
    Member

    Queen, it makes you a well rounded, multi talented and multi faceted person. You must be very interesting to talk to because you are well versed on a wide variety of subjects. Many people who may seem critical of you are probably just envious.

    #1074693
    mewho
    Participant

    i throw out the garbage most of the time, i know how to fill the car up with gas, check the fluids, add air to the tires.

    does hubby do laundry or dishes? nope.

    for the record, all women should know that men can help fold the linen…they all know how to fold a talis so they should be able to do other square or rectangles

    #1074694
    Queen Bee
    Member

    minyan gal, thanks so much! I think almost any subject interests me (except politics. I can’t stand it). Although I enjoy many different things, I don’t think I’m 100% invested in any of them. My interests change like the weather.

    #1074695
    aries2756
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    Goq, I agree with you, you are right on the mark.

    In answer to the question, how many men have gone off to work leaving their wife to take the car to the mechanic?

    Here is a better answer. That is a very foolish question. Of course women do yard work, and of course they take care of the cars. And of course your chauvinism is showing and is quite offensive. What is the purpose of your question? Its Elul remember? Are you trying to kick up some dust?

    #1074696
    missme
    Member

    Let men be men, and let women be women. Let the men do the men’s jobs, and let the women do the women’s jobs. When we start giving men women’s jobs and women men’s jobs, we start having problems. And lest anyone say there are no such things as men’s jobs and women’s jobs, don’t forget what the Egyptians did to us. They forced us to work the opposite genders job as a form of torturing us. Lets not volunteer to do what we were previously forced to.

    #1074697
    Toi
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    aries- the point of this thread was in defense to another bashing men for not doing work that generally falls to women. and in response to a previous post- my wife asks me to fold all tableclothes cuz my tallis-folding skills are quite honed.

    #1074698
    twisted
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    There are people male and female, for whom yard work, and its gentler subset, gardening, is in their blood, or as the pithy (npi) Israeli description goes, yarok banefesh. It does not, and should not have anything to do with marriage.

    #1074699

    my father taught me how to boost a car when i was about 16. that count?

    #1074700
    am yisrael chai
    Participant

    Marriage is not about keeping score.

    (At least it shouldn’t be.)

    #1074701
    Sam2
    Participant

    How do you determine what is a men’s job and what is a woman’s job? 150 years ago everyone on Earth would have said that earning money was a man’s job. Now if you say that in Lakewood… well, you can finish that sentence yourself. So obviously what is considered men’s and women’s jobs can change with time. So why can’t who does the laundry or who fixes the car change too?

    #1074702
    shmoel
    Member

    Sam: Are you suggesting that today fixing the cars is the women’s job and doing the laundry is the men’s job?

    #1074703
    Sam2
    Participant

    I am suggesting that maybe nowadays there are some jobs (in which I would probably include laundry) that are considered to be either men’s or women’s jobs and not specifically just a job of one gender.

    #1074704
    shmoel
    Member

    Sam: So what exactly do you still consider purely a woman’s job? Or have they been emancipated from such ancient chores?

    #1074705
    tryinghard
    Member

    Sorry that I’m carrying you away from this topic for a quick moment… I don’t know how to open a new Subject.

    I tried clicking on the link on the left (about Sholam Rubashkin) but I don’t see where to sign the partition. Thnx much for your help! Tiska L’mitzvos.

    #1074706
    chanie
    Member

    Shlishi: I think your first question should have been, who in B.P. even has grass on their property? ???

    #1074707
    aries2756
    Participant

    Sam2, if someone is trying to pick an argument then they would start such a post. There is nothing wrong with men helping at home even if women don’t go out to earn the big bucks. And there is nothing wrong with women helping their husbands with what is normally their chores to do if that is what works in their marriage. Obviously you are an intelligent person and you realize this. However, others who wish to tell people what to do, or be a bit smarmy wish to define what women should expect and NOT expect their husbands to do because after all women would NOT do “these” jobs…

    Again, what works in each individual marriage defines what works in each individual marriage and it is no one’s business to butt into what works for others. So maybe because it is chodesh Elul the mods might consider closing this foolish thread.

    #1074708
    TheGoq
    Participant

    The purpose of my thread was not to bash but for the men to take stock and realize all that is being done for them i am single and have to do for myself i do everything take a moment and say thank you.

    #1074709
    Sam2
    Participant

    Shmoel: That’s not for me to decide. It is most likely a societal and communal issue.

    #1074710
    aries2756
    Participant

    Goq, I understood that and it would lovely if all men would understand that and do that. It certainly would fuel any marriage in a very good way. And of course vise a versa.

    #1074711
    Joseph
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    bump

    #1074713
    👑RebYidd23
    Participant

    I would say that giving birth is exclusively a woman’s job and men shouldn’t.

    #1074714
    TheGoq
    Participant

    Here is the thread that started this discussion

    http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/do-married-guys-do-laundry

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