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  • #599313
    workinonit
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    my friend went to Israel this year and im dying without her.. i cant stop thinking bout her and its ruining my life.. how do i just get on with my life?

    #808262
    tro11
    Member

    That’s why in the more religious circles they look down upon inter-gender mingling before one is of marriagable age. I guess if you are still available when she comes back you can still date her.

    #808263
    golden mom
    Member

    make yourself a great year so when she comes bk u cna compare ur adventures….

    know that ur preparing urself for life when ur best friend will not be stuck at ur side forever i”yh u will both marry and have ur own life but will keep in touch like this yr

    #808265
    yoyo56
    Member

    TRO11::

    i believe that workinginonit is a girl if im not mistaken!!

    #808266
    real-brisker
    Member

    tro11 – HUH?

    #808267
    aries2756
    Participant

    You can “choose” to wish her success and keep in touch with her via phone, email or letters and just be happy for the opportunity she was given and through that accomplishment work on making a new friend. Choose NOT to waste your energies on what you can’t do, and put them into what you can do. You can choose to make a decision to stop wasting your energies and efforts with all the negativities in your life and try to either look for the positives or create positives in your life. Your life and happiness truly are not conditional on what others do and what others choose. They really depend on the choices you make in your own life.

    #808268
    reba
    Member

    This is real obsession. The psychologists say you have to make a conscious effort to think about something else all the time. You cannot think about 2 things at once – so have a back up thought to fall back on every time you start to obsess and then you will get out of the habit of thinking about her. You also have to fill your life with meaningful activities to make you fulfilled and then you won’t need her so much.

    #808269
    workinonit
    Member

    ya im a girl…haha.. so reba- ur right it is an obsession, which psychologists r saying that i have to have a backup thought? can u find me an article on it?

    #808270
    reba
    Member

    I know both Rabbi Twersky do and also Rabbi Pliskin.

    I’ll try and find an article

    #808272
    workinonit
    Member

    thanks! u dont know how much torture ull save me from if u can help me out with this! 🙂

    #808273
    bein_hasdorim
    Participant

    tro11; That’s low! I feel bad for you.

    #808274
    tro11
    Member

    tro11; That’s low! I feel bad for you.

    What?

    #808275
    workinonit
    Member

    reba- pleaaase try to find the article or anyone else that can help! thanks 🙂

    #808276
    aries2756
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    workinonit, I am trying to help you, but you don’t seem to want to hear me. There is a book I ask all my clients to read. It is called “Choice Theory” by Dr. William Glaser. You can get it on Amazon. You might try reading it. It will help you understand one’s ability to make the right choices for themselves and not allow the circumstances around them trick them into believing they have no choice. Or allowing others to control their choices for them. He gives examples through the book by following a few of his cases.

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