September 11, 2011 2:31 pm at 2:31 pm #599313
my friend went to Israel this year and im dying without her.. i cant stop thinking bout her and its ruining my life.. how do i just get on with my life?September 11, 2011 5:57 pm at 5:57 pm #808262tro11Member
That’s why in the more religious circles they look down upon inter-gender mingling before one is of marriagable age. I guess if you are still available when she comes back you can still date her.September 11, 2011 6:13 pm at 6:13 pm #808263golden momMember
make yourself a great year so when she comes bk u cna compare ur adventures….
know that ur preparing urself for life when ur best friend will not be stuck at ur side forever i”yh u will both marry and have ur own life but will keep in touch like this yrSeptember 11, 2011 6:51 pm at 6:51 pm #808265yoyo56Member
i believe that workinginonit is a girl if im not mistaken!!September 11, 2011 7:15 pm at 7:15 pm #808266real-briskerMember
tro11 – HUH?September 11, 2011 8:00 pm at 8:00 pm #808267aries2756Participant
You can “choose” to wish her success and keep in touch with her via phone, email or letters and just be happy for the opportunity she was given and through that accomplishment work on making a new friend. Choose NOT to waste your energies on what you can’t do, and put them into what you can do. You can choose to make a decision to stop wasting your energies and efforts with all the negativities in your life and try to either look for the positives or create positives in your life. Your life and happiness truly are not conditional on what others do and what others choose. They really depend on the choices you make in your own life.September 11, 2011 8:20 pm at 8:20 pm #808268rebaMember
This is real obsession. The psychologists say you have to make a conscious effort to think about something else all the time. You cannot think about 2 things at once – so have a back up thought to fall back on every time you start to obsess and then you will get out of the habit of thinking about her. You also have to fill your life with meaningful activities to make you fulfilled and then you won’t need her so much.September 11, 2011 9:16 pm at 9:16 pm #808269
ya im a girl…haha.. so reba- ur right it is an obsession, which psychologists r saying that i have to have a backup thought? can u find me an article on it?September 11, 2011 10:26 pm at 10:26 pm #808270rebaMember
I know both Rabbi Twersky do and also Rabbi Pliskin.
I’ll try and find an articleSeptember 11, 2011 11:25 pm at 11:25 pm #808272
thanks! u dont know how much torture ull save me from if u can help me out with this! 🙂September 11, 2011 11:42 pm at 11:42 pm #808273bein_hasdorimParticipant
tro11; That’s low! I feel bad for you.September 12, 2011 1:20 am at 1:20 am #808274tro11Member
tro11; That’s low! I feel bad for you.
What?September 12, 2011 2:06 am at 2:06 am #808275
reba- pleaaase try to find the article or anyone else that can help! thanks 🙂September 12, 2011 2:42 am at 2:42 am #808276aries2756Participant
workinonit, I am trying to help you, but you don’t seem to want to hear me. There is a book I ask all my clients to read. It is called “Choice Theory” by Dr. William Glaser. You can get it on Amazon. You might try reading it. It will help you understand one’s ability to make the right choices for themselves and not allow the circumstances around them trick them into believing they have no choice. Or allowing others to control their choices for them. He gives examples through the book by following a few of his cases.
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