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    bygirl93
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    wat thoughts?!?! we are allowed to have thoughts?!? – sry i have this teacher who says that we shouldnt think about boys or how they look or anything!!!! all that counts is their middos- and while thats true you still have to have some sort of attraction-

    #746230
    RedNails19
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    bygirl93- yes it is VERY imprtant he has good middot bec @ the end of the day wen ur married 2 the person all other materialistic things can/will fade…money, looks, charm… and you dont know what the future holds and u need those middos to pullu through whatever may come ur way.

    BUT, ont he other hand (speaking as a girl) U NEED 2 b attracted to him- im not saying u should be drooling, and you cant breathe bla bla bla…but there is a concept where looks/lust brings you to a certain area of attraction thereby growing, and getting to know the person, (if its of real quaity) respecting them and then truly loving them.(but after a while the smoke screen of looks and charm fade and you can see them for who they really are and if they have no real qualities or middot then you can walk away- before its too late)

    so yes, attraction is important- BUT NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT THING!

    And dont be fooled by looks either! It goes both ways!

    #746231
    bygirl93
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    rednails- i know that! but someone has to tell my teacher that!!

    #746232
    0710
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    No one mentioned this, but confidence is a big one for me. Aside from middos, and looks, confidence is pretty important.

    #746233
    RedNails19
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    maybe people should start thinking for themselves instead of blaming teachers…all systems arent perfect…but their mistakes should be your victories..meaning, u c something wrong with the way your learning- change it…but no one is gonna go over to the countless ranting teachers…just do wat you gotta do- and be the best u can!

    #746234
    goldenkint
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    dont let looks blind you to character defects, but on the other hand if you cant stand the way he looks now how will you face him aCRSS THE DINNER TABLE FOR THE NEXT 50 TO 70 YEARS. YOU HAVE TO NOT HATE THE WAY HE LOOKS AND THINK HE’S AT LEAST KINDA CUTE. AS U GET TO KNOW HIM HE SHOULD BECOME BETTER LOOKING IN UR EYES. BUT MASKE SURE HE’S KIND, PATIENT, POLITEA ND RESPONSIBLE. WORTH WAY MORE THAN LOOKS IN THE LONG RUN

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