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So I’m starting to get into *that* part of my life (read: the Dating Scene) and I’ve been searching online for ideas of how to put together my shidduch resume’. Now, considering that I’m a “computer geek” through and through I turned to my Source of All Human Knowledge: Google. While I did find many articles about girls’ resume’s, funny resume’s, exaggerated resume’s, etc. I found no serious guidelines for what a guy should put on his resume’. Yes, I know I could actually go and _ask_ someone, but I thought I’d get more diverse answers if I asked here.
So… How do I design my shidduch resume’? (Remember, I’m asking seriously, so please don’t say ‘what tablecloth do you use?’ 😉 ) Thanks!
Name
Address
Dob
Hight
Schools attended
Current occupation
Breif disrciption of urself
Type girl ur looking for.. Family, backround, personality etc.
Names of ur parents and occupations
Name Siblings and where what they are
references: people whom they can call and ask about you. Can be a friend, Rebbe,co worker etc.
Hope this helped
Dor Yeshorim number
I would leave out the description…
You can include summer camps, and who siblings married if relevant.
Where you daven. (and if you don’t have a set place, PICK ONE, ASAP) as that will enable people to see you in your best setting. Especially, if you’re still in yeshiva, as when anyone goes to scope you out in the BM, you are among 100+ guys just like you.
At this point in life, you want to be the focus of attention, not part of the herd.
Personally, I would scratch “height”. Its (IMHO) irrelevant, both on your part and on hers. Weight, you can (to some extent)control, height is a fact.
Height can be important because a boy who is short(5′ 5″) can be a little awkward with a 5’9″ girl.
Nothing. You don’t need one. You will rarely if ever be asked for one.
dont. makes you sound like a showoff. to me at least
Chaimss
Are you kidding me? You finished shas mishnayos and gemara and are only Shidduchim aged?! (low 20s) Wow Im very impressed if its true (regardless of your age) although I am surprised someone like that has time to waste on the net.
Stick only to the basic facts. Your DOB/height may serve as immediate disqualifiers. As will your parents’ names. Therefore, it will save time to have it on the resume.
The description, what you’re looking for, etc. can be discussed verbally with the Shadchan.
Hatzlucha!
Sample Resume:
Name
DOB
Height
Yeshivas attended
Occupation
Parents’ names & occupations
John Smith, Baker
Jane Smith, Homemaker
Siblings’ names and yeshiva/occupations
Jeff Smith, Attorney
Jerry Smith, 17, Yeshivas Coffee Room
Judith Smith, 15, Beis Yaakov Coffee Room
Shul
References
(list married friends, Rabbi, maybe a single friend from Yeshiva)
Lol…reminds me of this one:
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/help-how-do-i-make-a-shidduch-resume
reminds me of this one:
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/help-how-do-i-make-a-shidduch-resume
Hee hee.
That one I wrote there is really funny. I’m impressed with my month and a half ago self.
Is he always quiet on date, or are there cases where he is interested in the girl and is still quiet?
I think he needs some therapy in how to make a conversation, the art of, if you will.
He can ask her some quesitons, what does she do, what sort of things she likes, her family, where she grew up, school, etc.
there can be a list of things he can ask. Each question will generate a response and possibly a question from her.
Other areas of interest, travel, politics, learning, reading.
Perhaps he should keep the first date short, perhaps 90 minutes.
So he won’t run out of points on that list.
If there is interest a second date should have some activity be it a lecture, a shiur, etc. so they can discuss this.
If the interest proceeds further I believe he should tell her that his is not comfortable with conversations like that and let her decide how to take that.
By keeping his secret it won’t help.
Hatzlacha, it sounds like this is solvable.
Adams,
I think you posted on the wrong thread.
popa: A friend of mine posted that on an email group to a whoooooole bunch of girls. We all found it funny. (Hope you don’t mind) 😀
Chaimss – Why don’t you just ask your shadchan what is acceptable for your shidduch resume? Alternatively, ask your friends to see theirs.
write what you would like to see when you get a resume from a girl
and attach a picture
and pls dont do ur resume in question and answer format it is very weird and annoying to read
Mothers: I just heard from my Rav this Shabbos saying that just like Shifra & Puah got their names for doing a small thing like mothering Moshe Rabbeinu & that is what makes a gadol
You should never feel embarrassed to put on the resume that your a homemaker! never try to run away from real instincts!
of course, paransah is important…
moms maiden name is important.
height is important. weight not necessary.
machatunim- if any
yeshivos that u learnt in.
and basically what you would like in a girl.
l’vush.. weekday and shabbos.
these are the details any shadchan would ask you..
Maurice85 ,very smart
chaimss: Wow. You only started thinking and getting into shidduchim 10 months ago and now you are already married a few months. Nice and quick!
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