November 1, 2011 3:06 pm at 3:06 pm #600288
a friend of mine is on the market (for a while already). She has very thin hair. So thin that you can see her entire scalp. Even when she wears a pony you can see her ‘bald spots’, as she refers to them.
It’s bothered her already for a while but she came to me yesterday seriouslly thinking of doing something to ‘add hair’.
Anyone have any suggestions or hair secrets to share?November 1, 2011 3:19 pm at 3:19 pm #1001517charlie brownMember
is a very natural looking shaitel an option?November 1, 2011 3:26 pm at 3:26 pm #1001518
every shaitel is very natural looking….thats the issue with them.Tell her to get extensions or loook on the internet.November 1, 2011 3:31 pm at 3:31 pm #1001519BTGuyParticipant
Has your friend ruled out any light medical conditions relating to thyroid or hormone concerns?November 1, 2011 3:42 pm at 3:42 pm #1001520A Heimishe MomParticipant
There are medical treatments available.
Hair pieces can be tricky if she doesn’t have much in front to blend it in.
Hopefully she will find someone who doesn’t care what is (or isn’t!) under her sheitel.November 1, 2011 4:02 pm at 4:02 pm #1001521
Charlie brown: no, she doesnt want that. but thanx!
astrix: arent extensions just extending your hair?
BTguy: she has gone to some sort of doctor and so far no results. she’s using a special cream/oil (dont remember what it was) and shampoo. She didnt mention anything about thyroid or hormone concersn though. Her family does have thin hair, all of them.November 1, 2011 4:07 pm at 4:07 pm #1001522Pashuteh YidMember
Astrix, pardon me? What are you saying, she is not allowed to wear one? Even married women are allowed according to Reb Moshe.November 2, 2011 12:58 am at 12:58 am #1001523ilovetheholylandParticipant
extensions can be used to give the hair a fuller look, not always a longer look.November 2, 2011 1:15 am at 1:15 am #1001524
A know a couple of people with this problem who got extensions – as ilovetheholyland said, you don’t even have to necessarily go longer.November 2, 2011 1:52 am at 1:52 am #1001525GumBallMember
She shud wear extensions prob.November 2, 2011 1:24 pm at 1:24 pm #1001526
Thanks everyone! Before i mention this to her, do you know of any salons that do their job well and can make it look very natural? anywhere in ny is good.November 2, 2011 4:26 pm at 4:26 pm #1001527yungerman1Participant
What about volumizing shampoo?November 2, 2011 4:57 pm at 4:57 pm #1001528pumperMember
2 places in Brooklyn that do very good extensions are
Bensimon (on ave. P)
Hadass (on east 4th off of ave. P)
Good luck!November 2, 2011 6:08 pm at 6:08 pm #1001529mommamia22Participant
I would suggest you tell your friend to call upscale expensive salons in the city to inquire about suggestions/treatment options before she chooses a method or place (have her go for a consultation). The fee will probably be minimal, or free. She can then choose to go elsewhere to have the work done, if she so wishes. No salon will turn down a customer who is ready to plunk down money and asks for something specific (as though they know what they want and need, and the salon goes with that). Have her ask them what are her choices. Try the “John Barrett salon” in Bergdoff Goodman(New York City).. They are true professionals and have probably seen everything.November 2, 2011 6:14 pm at 6:14 pm #1001530jewishgirl09Member
regular extensions will make your hair look thicker and longer. those clip into your hair and will not help much for bald spots on your scalp. however there are places where they will sew the extensions into your scalp/hair and those look more natural. they are very expensive but i have friends who have them and they look amazing.
you may be able to google where to get those. ben simon and hadas only have clip in onesNovember 2, 2011 6:21 pm at 6:21 pm #1001531adorableParticipant
blowing hair makes it thin very fast. that is number one!November 3, 2011 1:50 pm at 1:50 pm #1001532
Thank you all! i will start making calls so that i can give her all the info i know otherwise she may be wary. she wants to do something to ‘add hair’ but i dont know how she’d respond to extensions.November 3, 2011 2:24 pm at 2:24 pm #1001533
This is response to Pashutayid…..
Im well aware that Rav moshe gave a heter to wear a sheite,my mother wears one and my sister wears one.The point is besides the heter,think for yourself..Men look at women in shietels more than they look at women in tichels.Its a sad truth.November 3, 2011 4:24 pm at 4:24 pm #1001534Sam2Participant
Astrix: And Rav Moshe couldn’t think of that? Obviously either you or Rav Moshe are misunderstanding the purpose of covering hair. If I had to guess, I would say that Rav Moshe isn’t the one who did.November 3, 2011 5:21 pm at 5:21 pm #1001535
Im sure Rav Moshe thought of that but maybe he didnt realize that soon women will start to dress more and more provocative.November 3, 2011 7:12 pm at 7:12 pm #1001536dntzrMember
Shampoo cannot help keep or regrow hair.
I can recommend an excellent physician who I go to who is a top doctor in the US for just this issue. I bh have seen fantastic results. I started going to him as a preventative measure. My hair started getting thinner and I got nervous. H-shm decided that I should have this issue and I will go to this physician and follow his instructions until this no longer is an issue or iyh until I get married. (If I want my hair to look a little fuller when I go out, I wear one or two layers of clip in extensions from ben simon. Sew in/glue in extentions can cause further hair loss.)
He is expensive but I look at this as a health issue. It is just a fact in the US that women need their hair. Your friend should not feel like she is vain for wanting to do something about this issue. She will be doing what she is meant to do in this situation. Tell your friend that I recommend that she doesn’t wait because it is easier to keep the hair you have with medication than to regrow hair which may require surgery. My doctor told me about a recent development with laser therapy that regrows hair as well.
His name is Doctor Michael Lorin Reed and his number is (212) 888-2260. He has a website and a book about women’s hair loss and you or your friend can google him.
He is a fantastic shaliach and I couldn’t be happier.November 3, 2011 7:36 pm at 7:36 pm #1001537
To clarify: they don’t stitch the extensions in, they glue them with special medical-grade glue. The glue lasts for several months, but eventually it loosens and you have to get them replaced. It’s a relatively non-invasive procedure, though.November 3, 2011 7:58 pm at 7:58 pm #1001538
Astrix: You seem to be saying that since sheitels can be worn in an un-tzniusdig fashion, they should preferably not be worn at all. To my mind, that is the same as saying that since clothing can be worn in an un-tzniusdig fashion, women should preferably dress in hijab. I’m not sure that this concept shtims with the tznius philosophy.November 3, 2011 10:02 pm at 10:02 pm #1001539
No thats not what im saying.Im just saying that we have to be careful of the sheitels that are worn and what women are wearing them with.The real problem is that sheitels make a girl look single.If a girl who is 24,25 who is married and is walking around but without her kid/kids….and her sheitel is done right she can look like a single girl which could be a problem.
Some women look like models in sheitels and some look like good girls.
Peeace.November 4, 2011 2:13 am at 2:13 am #1001540
Astrix: Very true. Didn’t mean to doubt you. May you have a long life. 🙂November 4, 2011 3:02 pm at 3:02 pm #1001541
dntzr: thanx! i really appreciate it! i tried to do research on the extensions and i’m not so excited aout it and i dont think i can reccommend it to someone if i dont feel comfortable with it. I will definately give her the dr.’s number and we’ll see what happens!
Thank you!January 31, 2014 4:07 am at 4:07 am #1001542jessieabbotMember
Proper medical treatment and hair care can help her to regrow her hair. Then there is hair transplant that can also be done for her thin hair. Or the most easiest way is to use hair extensions to hide the thin hair and also add volume to the hair till her real hair grows out.February 2, 2014 10:23 pm at 10:23 pm #1001543RisingSun613Member
maybe she should use extensions or add hair another way, but they should be the Same length as her hair, just used to fill in the gaps.. and make sure her hair will still be Tznius with these added extensions.February 3, 2014 4:51 pm at 4:51 pm #1001544👑RebYidd23Participant
Fellow women who are unmarried should also wear shaitels.
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