How do I stop thinking about….
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October 26, 2011 2:58 pm at 2:58 pm #600185
I recently ended a Shidduch with someone I really liked. I ended it for logical reasons as opposed to emotional ones. However now I can’t get him out of my head. I know it will happen with time and all but I need advice how to quicken the process cuz it’s so frustrating!
And don’t just say to keep busy cuz I work basically 12 hour days between work and college and internship so I can’t be any busier then I am ATM (at the moment).
Ideas smart people of the coffee room???
Please??October 26, 2011 3:16 pm at 3:16 pm #821218bptParticipant
Date (and eventualy, marry) someone else. That will make the prior person a non-entity.October 26, 2011 3:22 pm at 3:22 pm #821219mos yumosMember
“smart people of the coffee room???”
Says who?October 26, 2011 3:25 pm at 3:25 pm #821220miritchkaMember
time heals…happened to me and it takes time, or your bashert, to erase it.October 26, 2011 3:31 pm at 3:31 pm #821221BTGuyParticipant
I wish there were an easy fix to suggest to you. Matters like this are not strictly based on logic, which was the basis of your action. Logically, you wanted to end it. Emotionally, it is not over. Hmmmm. You need to speak to someone because sometimes, in time, people get out of your head, othertimes, they dont, which is one reason why we dont like to date around and do things like the others in the world. Also, IMHO, a decision based purely on logic may have some presumptive or predictive components to it. Not all logic is always so logical when it comes to human nature and emotions. I hope that helps; although I am not sure it did.October 26, 2011 3:40 pm at 3:40 pm #821222A Heimishe MomParticipant
Re-evaluate your “logic”? Discuss it with someone objective?October 26, 2011 4:14 pm at 4:14 pm #821223sheinMember
Did he end it or did you end it?October 26, 2011 4:18 pm at 4:18 pm #821224
I did discuss it with someone objective (cuz my parents def are not! :)) and they supported my decision.October 26, 2011 7:20 pm at 7:20 pm #821225hockaroundtheclockMember
I don’t have any ideas for a girl but if you’re a guy who got dumped try going fishing. It really works.October 26, 2011 8:14 pm at 8:14 pm #821226bptParticipant
“I don’t have any ideas for a girl “
You’re on the right track though. Instead of fishing, insert shopping.
Fishing, huh? Exactly what were you hoping to catch?October 27, 2011 12:00 am at 12:00 am #821227
So shopping is not exactly the most relaxing experience for me..
Unless I actually get something that I like, then its great..
Sorta like shidduchim…
which brings me full circle..
LOLOctober 27, 2011 1:17 am at 1:17 am #821228RABBAIMParticipant
Daven to Hashem to help you get over it!October 27, 2011 2:27 pm at 2:27 pm #821229
Thanks you all for words of wisdom.
I like having practiclAnyone have practical advice??
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