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Do you get along with them better now than when u were kids? Do some of the old issues still remain?
kids tend to fight a lot and its normal usually. just normal sibling rivalry- as long as its not physical. why dont you tell us how u get along with ur siblings?
all I can say is that must be extremely painful. Being that I am a very large and prominent member of my close family i can imagine how tough that can be.
I feel bad for you, Goq. Everyone should enjoy the wonderful relationship I have with my older brother – better than when we were younger.
I am sorry, Goq, for the type of relationship you have with your older siblings. I can’t imagine how difficult that must be. Thankfully, I get along with all my siblings, and we all need to, because otherwise, I’m sure one of us would have suffered mentally to the point of no return because of my father.
GOQ -“my mom is having some health issues and there are times when she has to go into the hospital”
You can’t change people. When you find out about it, go visit her in the hospital. Just ignore your sibs, they aren’t worth the time you are investing in them.
well…… not to well i feel like my siblings spouse loveeeee drama its crazy they will make a big deal out of evrything …….it got to a point that i stoped talking to my siblings bec of that ……i feel like evryone has so much pressure in life work kids etc. ….. that pointless drama is realy not needed …..but for now its quiet …..till the next holiday …..il let u no in a month lol
Unfortunately my only sib, my brother, passed away 10 years ago on 23 Av. We did not get along well as adults. He had a chronic illness that affected his personality. He was extremely argumentative, particularly with me. Still, in spite of that, I do miss him and will say kaddish for him next week. I am the only left of my immediate family so I say kaddish for everyone – and I do it with love.
my siblings and i are still all really kids, but we have b”H a good relationship with one another even though we have our MANY differences. We do have our arguments once in a while but in the end we just laugh and we know each other very well. But there are those siblings who i get along more with more than the others..
i hope in the future we’ll have an even better relationship with eachother b”H 🙂
Minyan gal, I’m sorry for your loss
Goq, their behavior is very hurtful. Do you generally keep in touch with them?
I find that I too miss out on (less) important information, particularly when our contact wanes. It’s hurtful to me. I feel left out when I find out from my parents about an event second hand, like when they were being honored by their shul, or when a graduation passed (how did I not know!?! (an aunt).
I care about my family and I know that if I want contact that I must reach out and initiate it (I’m the outgoing one in the family).
What has affected me, and I know this sounds terrible, is that I was the one who wanted someone very frum and yet my siblings married, B’H, very frum men, and I’m tzintering about the frumkeit in my home. That makes it very hard for me to be close, not just with my family, but with friends. I don’t feel so sad about my life if I don’t see the brachos that other people have (frumkeit, parnasah, children, etc).The problem is, the only way to shield oneself is to pull away, and then you get the flip side of missing the contact.
I’m sorry, I got sidetracked. In response to your question, although we’re not very close, I think we get along better now. We were very different personality wise as kids, but I think not just adulthood, but good marriage has brought out the best in personality and minimized the moodiness that existed in youth.
One sibling. We are very close.
The Wolf
Health how can you say that your sibs are not worth the time you invest in them, family is one of the most important things we have and every minute spent trying to better a relationship with your sibs is a minute well spent
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