August 15, 2016 4:50 am at 4:50 am #1166718
Mashiach Agent, you wrote that it is upsetting when the mods don’t let posts go through. That is what Coffee was referring to, I believe.
In any case, bottom line is that there are people who get insulted, and there is no toeles to posting other people’s insults. I am talking about things like Reuven criticizing Shimon’s grammar. If Shimon finds it offensive, it should not be posted. If Reuven is upset that his post criticizing Shimon’s grammar was not posed, then Shimon is the one who has issues.August 15, 2016 5:00 am at 5:00 am #1166719
lilmod ulelamaid – i agree. they shouldnt be posting stuff that offenses others.August 15, 2016 5:00 am at 5:00 am #1166720LightbriteParticipant
Imagine Shammai and Hillel in the CRAugust 15, 2016 5:58 am at 5:58 am #1166721Little FroggieParticipant
If I may mix in my three pennies:
One- there are other sins to be aware of, besides of Lashon Hara, namely onaas darar, hurting another through words. Includes any pain, anguish, discomfort etc. one causes another through communication.
Two, as mod?? pointed out earlier, a lot of posters know each other. Some lurkers also know posters. (I’ve received many phone calls about stuff that goes on here. And now I’m gonna get another…)
Three, people are somewhat connected to things they write, or to their s/n. Saying something like “Little Froggie, you’re a dunce” is quite likely to cause me slight discomfort.
Four, let me take this opportunity to thank the Mods. They are doing a FANTASTIC job of modding, filtering and keeping this place safe for a Frum person to spend some time. I’ve had the user end of their modding staff too (actually many times)… still they’re doing a most wonderful job, and if I recall they’re doing it without any monetary compensation. So again I LOUDLY applaud the tireless Mods!!!August 15, 2016 6:11 am at 6:11 am #1166722Mashiach AgentMember
you misunderstood me. when something is not posted, its not the mods not posting it that upsets me, its the act of dishonesty & corruption of the mods that upsets me, cause the post written is not how they like it etc… & therefore not posted but in truth there’s no hatred or curses written in it. thus that is pure dishonesty & corruption. THAT IS WHAT BOTHERS ME, & EACH TIME IT REMINDS ME OF WHAT A CORRUPT WORLD WE ARE LIVING IN TODAY. YES YIDDEN ARE ALSO CORRUPT R”L not only others.
would you want to have a business partner that is not honest & can’t be trusted? perhaps if you do maybe i can find you someone but he probably will keep %90 of the business profits for himself R”LAugust 15, 2016 6:38 am at 6:38 am #1166723takahmamashParticipant
it [Facebook] has caused thousands if not millions of divorces & intermarriages.
Please prove this by citing any reliable journal or research article. Otherwise, stop making up things to promote your worldview.August 15, 2016 8:31 am at 8:31 am #1166724
Sparkly – I had you in mind when I wrote my post because I know there was someone who insulted you.August 15, 2016 8:35 am at 8:35 am #1166725
Hillel and Shamai didn’t criticize each other’s grammar.August 15, 2016 8:38 am at 8:38 am #1166726
Shkoyach Little Froggie!!!
Kol Hakavod Mods!!!August 15, 2016 9:00 am at 9:00 am #1166727
This whole thread cracks me up. Oysh it stinks to be on a different time zone than everyone else. 🙁
The mods don’t write why every post is deleted because it would take up a LOT of time. I suggest all the newbies should read the rules of the CR twice more.
By joining an online forum you are subjugating yourself to it’s rules. It likes going to a high school after reading the takanon then complaining about it. I know there is no other “high school” but still, then don’t go on a forum at all.
edited!August 15, 2016 10:30 am at 10:30 am #1166728
i have a surprise for you.
it doesnt bother me at all the fact that you know something about me in the coffeeroom thats the fake me & not the personal me so it doesnt bring upon me even %1 embarrassment & it shouldnt bother you either IN REAL LIFE WHEN YOU GO AWAY FROM THE COMPUTER (to work or anywhere for that matter)
So the real you isn’t getting upset, only the fake you?
Does this mean you aren’t tocho k’baro?
I’m actually happy now that people here (except for Joe of course ;)) can’t put on a show in the CR it shows emesAugust 15, 2016 10:43 am at 10:43 am #1166729
“edited!” lol! Was the post really edited by the moderators? if so, why?August 15, 2016 10:46 am at 10:46 am #1166730
coffee addict: “Does this mean you aren’t tocho k’baro?
I’m actually happy now that people here (except for Joe of course ;)) can’t put on a show in the CR it shows emes”
good point! His whole point was that he’s complaining about a lack of truth!August 15, 2016 11:39 am at 11:39 am #1166731
Additionally you are the one who shouldn’t have Facebook
You would be the bully that has kids commit suicide by making fake accountsAugust 15, 2016 12:51 pm at 12:51 pm #1166732Subtitle pleaseMember
Sparkly: How do you know that Sadgirl is really who she makes herself out to be?
I’m not insinuating anything but it pays to be cautious.August 15, 2016 1:29 pm at 1:29 pm #1166733
lilmod ulelamaid – thank you for that.
coffee addict – yes it does:)August 15, 2016 1:41 pm at 1:41 pm #1166734MenoParticipant
Just read this whole thread. I’m happy I didn’t read it on Tish’a B’av, because it ended up being very entertaining.August 15, 2016 1:49 pm at 1:49 pm #1166735YW Moderator-29 👨💻Moderator
Glad to hear you say that because I was feeling a bit bullied.August 15, 2016 2:02 pm at 2:02 pm #1166737popa_bar_abbaParticipant
I feel bad for all the posters who are being forced to post here against their will. I hope they get married soon.August 15, 2016 2:03 pm at 2:03 pm #1166738zahavasdadParticipant
Surprisingly I rarely get censored or edited, I would have thought I would be censored more, but I am not. . The mods dont censor as much as people think they do. The only posts I ever get censored are ones where I suspected before I posted them that were a bit iffy.
Posting here you need to think a bit before you post and if you think a bit and dont rush to post, and post from your head and not your heart, you should be OKAugust 15, 2016 2:04 pm at 2:04 pm #1166739
29- 🙁 I’m sorry to hear that! It was nice of you to post those posts considering they were so insulting to you!
I once heard a quote (I think in the name of some great Rav, but I can’t remember who), I can’t remember the exact quote, but it was something along the lines of “A leader who has no enemies is not a leader.”
If a leader has no enemies, it shows that he must be giving into everyone all the time, and that would make him a follower, not a leader. A true leader has to be able to be strong enough to act against the tide and do things that are not popular!
I am happy to hear that there are people who are upset that their posts were not posted! Although I’m sure it’s hard for you. You have a great schar awaiting you!August 15, 2016 2:11 pm at 2:11 pm #1166740
MA, it’s not corrupt for them not to post someone’s posts. I’m sure they have a reason, but as Shopping pointed out, they can’t explain each time. The bottom line is that THEY and only THEY have the right and the responsibility to decide what to post, and it has zilch to do with deceit and corruption. It is their forum, and they can decide to post or not post whatever they want!
Also, the fact that you see nothing wrong with your posts does not mean that there is nothing wrong with them. I have seen so many posts that went through that were problematic although apparently the people writing them did not realize. So apparently, there are members who write posts that they think are fine but really aren’t. Often people don’t realize that something they are writing can be offensive to someone else. This happens in real-life all the time, but is much more common online. That is why we need moderators to decide what should be deleted.August 15, 2016 2:16 pm at 2:16 pm #1166741MenoParticipant
You’re doing a great job Mod29.
Being a Mod is like being the Gabbai. No matter what you do, everyone thinks it should be done differently, until you ask them to do it.August 15, 2016 2:34 pm at 2:34 pm #1166742
popa_bar_abba – what do you mean against our will? if i didnt want to post i wouldnt so its NOT against my will.August 15, 2016 2:40 pm at 2:40 pm #1166743
Sparkly, I think he was being sarcastic, although I didn’t quite get the joke either.August 15, 2016 2:45 pm at 2:45 pm #1166744absanParticipant
I am a psycholagist and i know whoever you realy are is whats gonna come out of you ..So even you feel you are just acting and its not your name ..no one knows you..you will still act or say whats on your mind..not whats on mine mind cause that is what i will say…in other words you cant run away from yourself..you might cover up or act sometimes.. but along the line the real you will uncover…thats one of the reasons if you write anything that can hurt someone it will hurt!!!! and here i appericiate ywn for not printing any stuff thats painful lushen hora or against halucha..
ywn please stick to it …many times i was upset on news you would print which was against halucha..you and me and all of us must follow the tora..chufetz chaim teaches us what may or may not be said.although you have a big challange when you have exciting news to share and it will shake up the croud but still halucha stays halucha….August 15, 2016 2:48 pm at 2:48 pm #1166745
absan – just because your a psychologist doesnt mean you know EVERYTHING. its VERY easy to become a psychologist no offense. you dont need to be that bright. Also as long as i know maybe your making up that your a psychologist and really your not maybe your still in high school or a teacher or something else?August 15, 2016 2:50 pm at 2:50 pm #1166746
Go mods, you rock! When I first came here I also got upset a lot. It takes a while to learn the ropes and figure everything out…
Of course my first post wasn’t edited. The mods did that as a joke. actually it was In any case the mods do so much work, they edit long megilos and save people from hearing loshon hara.
And most have a sense of humour too. 🙂
I beleive it says in the rules that if your post was edited or rejected, do not ask why because they don’t have time to explain. Sometimes when I am really annoyed at the mods I email them. 🙂
I have yet to get all the mods emails…but I have a fewAugust 15, 2016 3:04 pm at 3:04 pm #1166747
Shopping613 – do they email back?August 15, 2016 3:06 pm at 3:06 pm #1166748HealthParticipant
MA -“YES YIDDEN ARE ALSO CORRUPT R”L not only others”
Unfortunately I’ve experienced some of this corruption!
But I’ve learned most people won’t believe you and the ones that do, aren’t the power brokers in the Frum community!August 15, 2016 3:08 pm at 3:08 pm #1166749absanParticipant
sparkly…who ever said i know or need to know everything……
and why are you predicting that i am lying?August 15, 2016 3:13 pm at 3:13 pm #1166750
absan – not saying that your lying just saying i dont know who you really are.August 15, 2016 3:17 pm at 3:17 pm #1166751
coffee addict – yes it does:)
What does?August 15, 2016 3:20 pm at 3:20 pm #1166752
Coffee Addict, I think she meant that for Subtitle but I’m not sure. I was wondering about that myself.August 15, 2016 3:25 pm at 3:25 pm #1166753
coffee addict – saying that the real me does get upset when someone on here insults me.August 15, 2016 6:33 pm at 6:33 pm #1166754
Of course you would because the only thing here that’s fake is your name, I do it too!
I’ve given out lots of information about me that people who know me would know it’s meAugust 15, 2016 8:10 pm at 8:10 pm #1166755
Yes they do answer back. 🙂August 15, 2016 8:12 pm at 8:12 pm #1166756HappygirlygirlMember
Subtitle please…..aha so who am I?
And sparkly it’s not so easy to become a psychologist it’s hard work and years however you are right it’s like randomly I keep on hearing how so many people on this forum are mental health professionals it’s like they’re so excited to scream it out…well at least theyre #proudtobeAugust 15, 2016 8:33 pm at 8:33 pm #1166758popa_bar_abbaParticipant
Oh, you’re posting of your own choice?
Then quit whining. This forum is what it is. If you don’t like it, go away.August 15, 2016 9:15 pm at 9:15 pm #1166759
popa_bar_abba – i chose to post no one forced me.August 15, 2016 9:34 pm at 9:34 pm #1166760
Thank you. Just thank you.
It had to be said, I just hadn’t the strength to say it.August 15, 2016 10:59 pm at 10:59 pm #1166761Subtitle pleaseMember
Sadgirl: You might be a Catholic priest in Rome, a Buddhist monk in tibet or even Kim Jong Un, who knows?August 16, 2016 2:04 am at 2:04 am #1166762
From all the people here (besides myself because I know myself), I would guess that Sadgirlygirl is the most likely to be what she says she is.
But it’s true that precautions are always in order. It would be very easy for a predator to come online and claim to be someone he is not in order to worm his way into someone’s life… so I think that giving out emails is not a good idea, just in case…August 16, 2016 3:24 am at 3:24 am #1166764HappygirlygirlMember
Lol i have no problem telling any of u my name or giving my email or showin a pic….but I’m afraid you’ll laugh at my orange face and moppy bleached hair and my desire to rule the USA..oops I think I spoke too much…..now everyone knows that I’m not who I claim to be. Sparkly beware!!
Seriously though if you wanna know who I am just ask. Want my social security too?August 16, 2016 3:38 am at 3:38 am #1166765
I’m just wondering. Wouldn’t a psychologist be able to spell ‘psychologist’?August 16, 2016 3:40 am at 3:40 am #1166766YW Moderator-29 👨💻Moderator
If they aren’t fluent in English? Not a given.August 16, 2016 3:43 am at 3:43 am #1166767
Happygirlygirl – no thanks. girlygirl is what i came up with even if it may not be my name on here has anything to do with that. but happygirlygirl and sadgirlygirl both use my favorite nick name.
lilmod ulelamaid – i agree. you unfortunately never know in this world.
Happygirlygirl – ive taken the majority of the psychology classes that are needed for that major loved all of them and aced them b’h thats why i consider it easy and fun.August 16, 2016 3:50 am at 3:50 am #1166768
If they’re not fluent in English, I apologise completely and unreservedly.
And if English is their first language, as I assumed, then I don’t feel as terrible for perhaps calling out a prevaricator. I just sometimes get a little irritated at some of the stream-of-consciousness onslaughts that invariably confuse and disrupt, especially when it’s inconsequential and possible false.August 16, 2016 12:24 pm at 12:24 pm #1166770
NeutiquamErro: I know a psychologist who is terrible at spelling.August 16, 2016 1:24 pm at 1:24 pm #1166771
lilmod ulelamaid – okay. so?
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