I feel like I am drowning in my tolerance level and respect for others!! HELP. I need to get back on track fast i feel like i’m drowning in my middos.. I want to be able to treat my future husband with respect and dignity, and i feel that ever since I finished seminary I’ve seaped lower and lower. And now I feel I need to learn FAST!!! HELP(again)!! Please don’t mention shiurim! ’cause I listen to them already, but I feel I need more for this particular area.
Geshmake MENSCH is a girl?
y not part type sem or pick up a chessed
if you are in Brooklyn, go to listen to Rabbi Shlomo Brevda, he speaks at Young Israel on Sunday night (Ocean Avenue and Ave. L) And if you are not in Brooklyn, he is online on ravbrevda.org. You may find help there. Hatzlacha!
Be careful who you are friends with. When I hang out with friends who believe sarcasm is funny (it’s passive aggressive) it influences me. Check that your friends are respectful, soft spoken women who are careful with their speech. It will influence you to be the same.
Check out “nefesh Chaya” by Rav Shimshon Pincus, zt’l. He writes about the role of women. It’s an easy read, enjoyable, and inspirational. It’s filled with information that will inspire you to be a better person.
I can see that from a string of posts that he/she made
Make sure to treat your husband better than your cell phone which you should use for phone only. Make him #1 and not your friends.
Start talking to God…wherever u r..whenever it is..Just talk everything out.
I’m sorry but you cant be the most perfect wife because I’ve married her already. (she’s looking over my shoulder).
Being a perfect spouse is surely common sense. Be a mentch. Do to them what you like to be done to you and put them as number 1. Always. End of. Nothing else to add.
Don’t try and be perfect that always is an instant depression. Pick one thing you find easy to work on and stick to it no matter what. That will automatically lead to other stuff.
Be the best person you can be. It is easy when your spouse does the same.
There is no such thing as perfect…we all have our shortcommings. Just try to be the vest you can be
Be natural. Not selfish. I have a relative who once said that “She wanted to be the perfect wife”. Things, unfortunately (Nebech) turned out to be 180o (Opposite, Punkt Farkert.) from the stated goal. BTW. That person (Relative of mine) blames her (Former?) husband for the present (and past) state of things.