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If a Choson (or Kallah) C”V loses a parent right before his wedding, how does it impact his a) wedding and b) sheva brochos? Do either (or both) of them ever have to be postponed?
How is it treated if it R”L occurred:
a) Within 30 days of the scheduled wedding (shloshim)
b) Within 7 days of the scheduled wedding (shiva)
c) The day of the wedding –
1) If the parent was buried, 2) If the parent wasn’t buried yet
d) At the wedding itself (after the Chupa)
(“d” actually happened to someone about 2 years ago)
If instead of a parent, it is one of the other 7 close relatives (brother, sister, etc.), how does that affect things?
If instead of it happening to the Groom or Bride, it C”V happens to a parent of the Groom or Bride, how does it impact things?
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I know of a situation that a parent was sitting shiva. He was required to get up from shiva and go to the wedding.
I know someone who’s father died as they were dancing their way back from the chupah. She and her chosson continued as usual with sheva brachos… but the rest of the family couldn’t partake in a lot of things.
I don’t know why they would NOT be allowed to partake because they were in a state of ONEN, but they probably did NOT feel like partaking or were in shock.
aries, They would be an Onen until the end of the Chasuna, but not for the week of Sheva Brochos (which is what mischiefmaker seems to be referencing.)
My father sat shiva when I got married. (Makes me sad to think about it.)
He was allowed to attend my wedding with certain limits and Halachos. My Sheva Brachos he wasn’t allowed to attend until Shiva was over.
My heart really went out for him.
My mother, AH, was niftar 3 days before my scheduled chasuna. The mesader kiddushin paskened that the wedding could be held after sheloshim and that it was permissable to have a band.
These are terrible stories. I can’t believe how hard it must have been for those posting here. May you only have simchas and no more tzaros.
My mother, AH, was niftar 3 days before my scheduled chasuna. The mesader kiddushin paskened that the wedding could be held after sheloshim and that it was permissable to have a band.
The wedding was postponed until immediately after shloshim?
My father sat shiva when I got married. (Makes me sad to think about it.)
He was allowed to attend my wedding with certain limits and Halachos. My Sheva Brachos he wasn’t allowed to attend until Shiva was over.
What limitations did he have at the Chasuna?
Grand- I do not recall exact details. But he did have to attend in non leather sneakers. He couldn’t eat at the meal.
Dancing he was only allowed if someone shlepped him in to the circle.
A relative of mine got married while her father was sitting shiva. Both uncles and aunts were told that they were allowed to go to their nieces wedding even though they were in middle of shiva. They were allowed to go for the chupa and then had to leave afterwards.
Another relative of mine got up from shiva 2 days before her wedding. The wedding was not pushed off and e/t went on as normal. I don’t know about the siblings of the kallah though, what their limitations were.
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