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  • #665455

    anonymisss
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    hmm, moish, about being a lawyer, I’m seriously considering it as a wonderful idea for you.

    ~a~

    #665456

    i go with 6 or 7

    #665457

    qwertyuiop
    Member

    4 and 8(only because mod72 voted for it).$ hope this doesn’t sound like gaaveh but on shabbos someone in my shul had a pretty ugly vest, and has hard as it was for me i told him he had a nice vest.$

    #665458

    asdfghjkl
    Participant

    qwertyuiop: that was so nice of ya!!! ha ha

    #665459

    kiruvwife
    Member

    Wondering if anyone agrees that ayin tova has qualities that are all encompassing when it comes to the above suggested middos to work on. (and more)

    #665460

    moish01
    Member

    we’re not looking for an “all encompassing” one. one millionth of that is hard enough – can’t you see?

    #665461

    qwertyuiop
    Member

    ames: we are all very proud of you.$

    #665462

    asdfghjkl
    Participant

    ames: i’m so proud of ya!!!

    my good is that i listened to my mommy today!!!!! yay me!!!

    #665463

    beacon
    Participant

    asdfghj- so you finally put away your toys on time? Don’t forget to take your mitzvah note to show morah tomorrow!

    #665464

    moish01
    Member

    me? i welcomed aMEs even though i wasn’t in a very welcoming mood.

    #665465

    kiruvwife
    Member

    good point moish and ames–well taken—hatzlocha.

    #665466

    oomis
    Participant

    Being dan l’chaf z’chus is a very hard middah to fulfill, but it is really important.

    #665467

    asdfghjkl
    Participant

    beacon: could ya write the mitzva note for me!!! pleeeezzzzzzzz!!!!

    ames: yes she was happy & proud!!!! thnx!!!

    moishl; way to go!!!!

    #665468

    anonymisss
    Participant

    ames: way to go!!!! That made me happy!!! Thank you!!!!

    ~a~

    #665469

    qwertyuiop
    Member

    asdfghjkl: im very prowd of you for listening to her, i knew you were able to.$

    moish: that was really good.$

    #665470

    asdfghjkl
    Participant

    qwertyuiop: you so kind!!! thanx pal!!!

    #665471

    shkoyach
    Member

    I have an idea… we all can either pick our own one towork on each week or the Mods will TELL us which middah it will be that week. (or they can nominate a CR member to set it out) cuz this thread is so beautiful yet messy that I dont know where to start and will prob give up all cuz I can tdo e/o amazing ideas at once and I cant pick which one cuz e/o is saying s/t else

    nu…. mods… what do u have to say??

    sounds great! I nominate mdlevine to be in charge of giving out what midah everone should work on. He seems to be amazing at doing chessed.

    Moderator-55

    #665472

    APushetaYid
    Participant

    shkoyach… I think it is a GREAT IDEA!! Thats how there will be 1 middah & we will all work together! It doesn’t have to be for 1 week it could be for 2 weeks as well… Also I am sooo proud of e/o that did 1 good dead… you don’t even know what it means in shemayim!! keep up the good work!! so… now…Lets Start Together!!!

    #665473

    APushetaYid
    Participant

    ames, it’s really impossible to vote.. e/o will come up with something else..and it will never work out.. how about one person telling us the what middah to do..?!?!?

    #665474

    APushetaYid
    Participant

    Ames, Not a problem, sounds great with me! I will work allong with E/O else! So.. when are we starting ????? I am really excited! anyone that has story please post.. thanks

    #665475

    mdlevine
    Member

    being as I was nominated by a mod (I am not waiting for a second to the nomination)

    I select:

    small chasadim to others

    reasons:

    small is easy

    a whole lot of small by Yidden worldwide adds up to a whole lot of big unity

    ok?

    Let’s begin.

    #665476

    mazal77
    Participant

    Hi, everyone – I’ve been reading through the thread – still trying to figure out what the midah of the week is. Ames, can you so kindly explain what I we working on this week?? The Dvar Torah was amazing and I think I am going to print it out, if I may. I hope it will be a remainder not to waste time.

    #665477

    mdlevine
    Member

    ames – whatever works for everyone is fine by me. :o) I saw the comment by mod55 and said why not. I didn’t notice your subsequent posts.

    As long as people are working in anyway to improve themselves and are sharing Torah thoughts to do this (and certainly by learning Torah) they are doing much more than a small chesed not only for themselves but for everybody. – essentially, these are not mutually exclusive areas to work upon.

    in the list that you provided you can group certain areas together (see below as an example) and as a person improves one area, the others areas should follow along.

    example for someone who masters point #7: they are going to be more proactive in avoiding #’2 and 4, and increasing #’s 3, 5, 6 and 8 which will ultimately or at least should hopefully positivelty impact #1)

    1) ga’ava (includes: 3,4,5,6,8)

    2) leitzanut (includes: 2,4,7)

    3) small chasadim to others (includes: 1,2,4,5,7,8)

    4) not answering back when someone insults/hurts/embarrasses you (includes: 1,2,3,6,7,8)

    5) show appreciation for small kindnesses (includes: 1,3,6,7,8)

    6) thanking Hashem (includes: 1,4,5,7,8)

    7) utilizing our time better (includes 2,3,4,5,6,8)

    8) beig happy with what we have (includes: 1,3,4,5,6,7)

    regarding the trait for next week: what ever is choosen is fine by me. :o)

    #665478

    amichai
    Participant

    ames, very well written dvar torah. thank you. may we be able to learn from one another.

    #665479

    APushetaYid
    Participant

    Ames, thanks! really nice dvar torah, keep up the good work!

    #665480

    mazal77
    Participant

    Ames, sorry, I am little slow on the take. What exactly is the midah that was decided upon that we should work on?? thanks

    #665481

    APushetaYid
    Participant

    i assume it’s not waisting time! Doing things zerizus…

    #665482

    mazal77
    Participant

    Actually, my some of the kids are home on vacation for the next couple of days. Driving me crazy!! (they want the laptop, NOT!!) trying to do laundry in between reading replies.

    #665483

    asdfghjkl
    Participant

    ames: after seeing you point me out, i did indeed read it!!! it was a great shiur!!! from now on while being in the cr, i will have a sefer at the computer to learn while no updates are happening!!! i’ll give ya an update later on how I applied the midah of “not wasting time” into my day!!!!!

    i was a good boy today & picked up a yeshiva bochur waiting at the bus stop today in the freezing cold today!!!!

    #665484

    shkoyach
    Member

    I think that the timewasting thing is way too big to start with but no fighting right?!?!? so then I guess i better scram from YWN coffee roomso I dont waste time! aaaah!

    #665485

    mw13
    Participant

    First off, thank you ames for the truly amazing dvar torah!

    When the mishnah says wasting time, I assume it means from learning. After all, we have a chiyuv to learn yomum vilayla, and we are only excused from learning when performing a mitzvah or vital duty (raising kids, making a parnassah, etc.) Besides for those times, we are michuyiv to spend all our time learning. So for this week, I think we should all be mekabal on ourselves to spend some time that we usually waste learning. A good time to do this would be for those of us who take buses. Bring a sefer with you, or load up an MP3 player with your favorite shiurim (I’m pretty sure there used to be a topic in CR filled with links to Torah websites). After all, it really is ridiculous how much time we waste every day. With just a few minutes a day you can learn an incredible amount!

    #665486

    mw13
    Participant

    shkoyach: you can start with simply taking 15 minutes that you usually waste and making a seder then. It doesn’t have to be anything lumdish, there’s plenty of light and interesting english seferim out there!

    #665487

    beacon
    Participant

    …it’s wonderful that you’ll be learning during boring times when there are no post updates. you can finish shas in like a month!!!

    LOL

    #665488

    asdfghjkl
    Participant

    ames: yeah i know i’m brilliant!!! i donno about finishin shas like a month–but yeah!!! yeah & i’m just a nice guy(moish’s line!!!) for givin him a ride!!!

    #665489

    APushetaYid
    Participant

    ames, we can’t really work on the middah of not waisting time… how about we take..complimenting people i did that last night when i gave a compliment to my sister.. you had to see that smile!!! that was pure bliss!!!!! can we start TODAY! Ames, you’ll give the shiur you r good at it! (now i made u smile :))

    #665490

    kiruvwife
    Member

    ames-thanks for the divrei chizuk. I think sometimes it’s a challenge to define for oneself what wasting time really is. (I think there are also different gender obligations). Sometimes I’d rather read an inspiring book (I happen to love mussar/middos improvement genres) than do household chores, but then I’m not being honest with myself about how I should be spending my time….Insights?

    I’d also really like to hear success stories.

    #665491

    kiruvwife
    Member

    ames-thanks-not sure if my last post got in–s/t happened when i hit send. I definitely feel that I have balance in that most of the time (don’t ever feel like a slave- I quite enjoy all components of building my home-{hate hypocricy so i try vigorously to live what i teach}).just hard sometimes to be totally intellectually honest.appreciate much the introspection it leads to.

    #665492

    APushetaYid
    Participant

    when speaking about laziness…i have a very good story a story with a lesson.

    I once had a cleaning lady cleaning my house…whatever she did, she did with a lazy and sour face! like she is working for free, i really got mad! and sent her home! after she left i learned the BIG LESSON we are all working for hashem… We dont want to look like that cleaning lady whenever i do a mitzvah i try thinking of that cleaning lady and automaticly i do it with simcha!!! Imagine the cleaning lady worked for money, money comes and goes! but we work for Hashem!!!!! The schar is Much Much More! let’s not forget this lesson!!!!!and not be lazy when we do a mitzvah!! Hope you all enjoyed this story!!! Ames, here is my story lol 🙂

    #665494

    APushetaYid
    Participant

    maybe cuz of my name.. pushetayid??? hhaha

    #665495

    goody613
    Member

    If you want to work on not wasting time why r u on YWN?

    #665496

    areivimzehlazeh
    Participant

    ames- you’re too much! anyone ever tell you that?

    goody613- just read this topic alone- do you consider working on middos and reading divrei torah a waste of time?

    #665497

    APushetaYid
    Participant

    c’mon lets not make this post into a fight! lets continue working on our middohs!!!

    #665498

    asdfghjkl
    Participant

    ames: that’s great that ya said your tehillim even with the new mods welcoming them!!! yes i did learn last night at a slow update time last night!!!

    my good deed for the day was: i went to learn with an elderly home-bound man today!!! i even had a great time doing it!!!!

    #665499

    beacon
    Participant

    That’s so nice of you ,asdf.

    #665500

    qwertyuiop
    Member

    asdfghjkl: that’s very nice of you.$

    #665501

    moish01
    Member

    asdfghjkl – really? wow. i could never do that

    #665502

    asdfghjkl
    Participant

    thank you beacon, qwertyuiop & moish!!!! what could i say i’m a really nice guy!!!!!

    ames: you gatta comment on this one!!!

    #665503

    moish01
    Member

    ames BRILLIANT! joseph??

    #665504

    asdfghjkl
    Participant

    ames: thanx morah ames!!!!!!!!!

    #665506

    moish01
    Member
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    moish

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