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hmm, moish, about being a lawyer, I’m seriously considering it as a wonderful idea for you.
~a~
i go with 6 or 7
4 and 8(only because mod72 voted for it).$ hope this doesn’t sound like gaaveh but on shabbos someone in my shul had a pretty ugly vest, and has hard as it was for me i told him he had a nice vest.$
qwertyuiop: that was so nice of ya!!! ha ha
Wondering if anyone agrees that ayin tova has qualities that are all encompassing when it comes to the above suggested middos to work on. (and more)
we’re not looking for an “all encompassing” one. one millionth of that is hard enough – can’t you see?
ames: we are all very proud of you.$
ames: i’m so proud of ya!!!
my good is that i listened to my mommy today!!!!! yay me!!!
asdfghj- so you finally put away your toys on time? Don’t forget to take your mitzvah note to show morah tomorrow!
me? i welcomed aMEs even though i wasn’t in a very welcoming mood.
good point moish and ames–well taken—hatzlocha.
Being dan l’chaf z’chus is a very hard middah to fulfill, but it is really important.
beacon: could ya write the mitzva note for me!!! pleeeezzzzzzzz!!!!
ames: yes she was happy & proud!!!! thnx!!!
moishl; way to go!!!!
ames: way to go!!!! That made me happy!!! Thank you!!!!
~a~
asdfghjkl: im very prowd of you for listening to her, i knew you were able to.$
moish: that was really good.$
qwertyuiop: you so kind!!! thanx pal!!!
I have an idea… we all can either pick our own one towork on each week or the Mods will TELL us which middah it will be that week. (or they can nominate a CR member to set it out) cuz this thread is so beautiful yet messy that I dont know where to start and will prob give up all cuz I can tdo e/o amazing ideas at once and I cant pick which one cuz e/o is saying s/t else
nu…. mods… what do u have to say??
sounds great! I nominate mdlevine to be in charge of giving out what midah everone should work on. He seems to be amazing at doing chessed.
Moderator-55
being as I was nominated by a mod (I am not waiting for a second to the nomination)
I select:
small chasadim to others
reasons:
small is easy
a whole lot of small by Yidden worldwide adds up to a whole lot of big unity
ok?
Let’s begin.
Hi, everyone – I’ve been reading through the thread – still trying to figure out what the midah of the week is. Ames, can you so kindly explain what I we working on this week?? The Dvar Torah was amazing and I think I am going to print it out, if I may. I hope it will be a remainder not to waste time.
ames – whatever works for everyone is fine by me. :o) I saw the comment by mod55 and said why not. I didn’t notice your subsequent posts.
As long as people are working in anyway to improve themselves and are sharing Torah thoughts to do this (and certainly by learning Torah) they are doing much more than a small chesed not only for themselves but for everybody. – essentially, these are not mutually exclusive areas to work upon.
in the list that you provided you can group certain areas together (see below as an example) and as a person improves one area, the others areas should follow along.
example for someone who masters point #7: they are going to be more proactive in avoiding #’2 and 4, and increasing #’s 3, 5, 6 and 8 which will ultimately or at least should hopefully positivelty impact #1)
1) ga’ava (includes: 3,4,5,6,8)
2) leitzanut (includes: 2,4,7)
3) small chasadim to others (includes: 1,2,4,5,7,8)
4) not answering back when someone insults/hurts/embarrasses you (includes: 1,2,3,6,7,8)
5) show appreciation for small kindnesses (includes: 1,3,6,7,8)
6) thanking Hashem (includes: 1,4,5,7,8)
7) utilizing our time better (includes 2,3,4,5,6,8)
8) beig happy with what we have (includes: 1,3,4,5,6,7)
regarding the trait for next week: what ever is choosen is fine by me. :o)
ames, very well written dvar torah. thank you. may we be able to learn from one another.
Ames, sorry, I am little slow on the take. What exactly is the midah that was decided upon that we should work on?? thanks
Actually, my some of the kids are home on vacation for the next couple of days. Driving me crazy!! (they want the laptop, NOT!!) trying to do laundry in between reading replies.
ames: after seeing you point me out, i did indeed read it!!! it was a great shiur!!! from now on while being in the cr, i will have a sefer at the computer to learn while no updates are happening!!! i’ll give ya an update later on how I applied the midah of “not wasting time” into my day!!!!!
i was a good boy today & picked up a yeshiva bochur waiting at the bus stop today in the freezing cold today!!!!
I think that the timewasting thing is way too big to start with but no fighting right?!?!? so then I guess i better scram from YWN coffee roomso I dont waste time! aaaah!
First off, thank you ames for the truly amazing dvar torah!
When the mishnah says wasting time, I assume it means from learning. After all, we have a chiyuv to learn yomum vilayla, and we are only excused from learning when performing a mitzvah or vital duty (raising kids, making a parnassah, etc.) Besides for those times, we are michuyiv to spend all our time learning. So for this week, I think we should all be mekabal on ourselves to spend some time that we usually waste learning. A good time to do this would be for those of us who take buses. Bring a sefer with you, or load up an MP3 player with your favorite shiurim (I’m pretty sure there used to be a topic in CR filled with links to Torah websites). After all, it really is ridiculous how much time we waste every day. With just a few minutes a day you can learn an incredible amount!
shkoyach: you can start with simply taking 15 minutes that you usually waste and making a seder then. It doesn’t have to be anything lumdish, there’s plenty of light and interesting english seferim out there!
…it’s wonderful that you’ll be learning during boring times when there are no post updates. you can finish shas in like a month!!!
LOL
ames: yeah i know i’m brilliant!!! i donno about finishin shas like a month–but yeah!!! yeah & i’m just a nice guy(moish’s line!!!) for givin him a ride!!!
ames-thanks for the divrei chizuk. I think sometimes it’s a challenge to define for oneself what wasting time really is. (I think there are also different gender obligations). Sometimes I’d rather read an inspiring book (I happen to love mussar/middos improvement genres) than do household chores, but then I’m not being honest with myself about how I should be spending my time….Insights?
I’d also really like to hear success stories.
ames-thanks-not sure if my last post got in–s/t happened when i hit send. I definitely feel that I have balance in that most of the time (don’t ever feel like a slave- I quite enjoy all components of building my home-{hate hypocricy so i try vigorously to live what i teach}).just hard sometimes to be totally intellectually honest.appreciate much the introspection it leads to.
If you want to work on not wasting time why r u on YWN?
ames- you’re too much! anyone ever tell you that?
goody613- just read this topic alone- do you consider working on middos and reading divrei torah a waste of time?
ames: that’s great that ya said your tehillim even with the new mods welcoming them!!! yes i did learn last night at a slow update time last night!!!
my good deed for the day was: i went to learn with an elderly home-bound man today!!! i even had a great time doing it!!!!
That’s so nice of you ,asdf.
asdfghjkl: that’s very nice of you.$
asdfghjkl – really? wow. i could never do that
thank you beacon, qwertyuiop & moish!!!! what could i say i’m a really nice guy!!!!!
ames: you gatta comment on this one!!!
ames BRILLIANT! joseph??
ames: thanx morah ames!!!!!!!!!
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time is money
moish
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