February 1, 2009 7:05 am at 7:05 am #665562
seems like #7’s taking the lead!!!!!!February 1, 2009 4:44 pm at 4:44 pm #665563
i think we have a winner…
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.February 1, 2009 5:23 pm at 5:23 pm #665564teenMember
ames: how about suggestions on how to work on this middah?February 1, 2009 10:39 pm at 10:39 pm #665565
The most important part of being happy with what you have is recognizing that Hashem has decided that you should have exactly what you have now. Anything more or anything less would not only not be good for you, it would be bad for you. Hashem has given you everything you need in this world, monetarily, mentally, etc.
teen, simply think once a day “Everything I have is a gift from Hashem”. A good time to think this would be by “posaech es yadecha u’masbea lichul chai rutzoin” in Ashrei.February 2, 2009 2:55 am at 2:55 am #665566
ames: i like that idea!!! wasn’t that syrian’s idea too???February 2, 2009 3:34 am at 3:34 am #665567
ames: sure no prob!!!!February 2, 2009 4:27 am at 4:27 am #665568
ames: wow that was great!!! thanx!!!February 2, 2009 4:54 am at 4:54 am #665569
asdfghjkl, in all honesty: did you read it through?February 2, 2009 5:01 am at 5:01 am #665570
moish01: well her at the start of her last shiur she called me out & said i had to read it, so now i always read thru all her posts!!! the ADD things kinda gettin better!!!now a question to you, did ya read it???February 2, 2009 5:42 am at 5:42 am #665571
of course i read it. i read anything with words.February 2, 2009 5:47 am at 5:47 am #665572
ames: i really read every word of it!!!!February 2, 2009 5:58 am at 5:58 am #665573
moish01: good for you man!!!
ames: yeah!!! glad i made ya happy!!!!!!!February 3, 2009 4:03 am at 4:03 am #665574
Thanks for the DT!!! so nice… well really trying to work on the first week middah and also this week as it seems is being happy with what you have. While I was davening today in Shema Kolenu I decided to ask Hashem to help me be happy with what I have. I decided that its not human to only be able to on my own and the only One that can help me is HKBH so why not ask Him first! And so I was in a happy mood today… and BH Beli ayin Hara, it hasn’t gone away yet! Even tho I had reasons to feel otherwise!!February 3, 2009 4:43 am at 4:43 am #665575
anyone have anymore stories/divrei torah on being happy with what you have? come on it’s only monda we can’t be out of stuff already!February 3, 2009 6:07 am at 6:07 am #665576
shkoyach: real nice one man!!!February 3, 2009 8:03 pm at 8:03 pm #665577RoshYeshivahMember
beautiful piece ames and right on topic.February 4, 2009 12:10 am at 12:10 am #665578
Where is ames? I’m getting a little worried…is it too early to contact NCMA?February 4, 2009 4:58 am at 4:58 am #665579
We really need to be happy with what we have… And I am happy to say I was zoicheh today to be able again to stop myself in my tracks. When we get 100 we want 200- So someone dear to me had given me assistance today and I was hoping they could help me out also for something in the future. At first I was disappointed when they said they really cant and then i said, hey wait a second- they just put themselves out (time and money) for me today- am i a loser that I will ignore it?!? And it really set my perspective straight. thanks e/o for the chizuk in this thread of working on ourselves to be better ppl!! I hope e/o else is taking it to heart as much as I am!February 4, 2009 5:09 am at 5:09 am #665580
btw- asdf- this “man” thing is making me meshiggers- (even tho i am not really around to see it right;) I really amen’t) but please, spare me. and good night. (ps… why do i have a feeling you are ALOT younger than most peeps think you are here????February 4, 2009 5:38 am at 5:38 am #665582
beacon: yeah i;m kinda getting worried abt ames too!!! she’s your sis(lol) so call her!!!February 4, 2009 5:51 am at 5:51 am #665583qwertyuiopMember
shkoyach: that’s very good, and yes i try to take it t heart.$February 4, 2009 6:00 am at 6:00 am #665584
shkoyach: ha good night pal!!!February 4, 2009 6:05 am at 6:05 am #665585
I just texted her she says she’s busy but she misses me so much that she’ll be back very soon…February 4, 2009 6:16 am at 6:16 am #665586
beacon: k good!!! are her kids acting up???February 4, 2009 6:34 am at 6:34 am #665587
No she just has so much work to do! It’s hard to fit everything in.
I can’t wait until she reads this lolFebruary 4, 2009 6:45 am at 6:45 am #665589
beacon: yeah she’s got lots of work she said!!! ha i can’t wait too till she sees this!!! hee hee!!!February 4, 2009 2:58 pm at 2:58 pm #665590
ok people i think every night e/o should write down 10 things why they should be happy for example 1. healthy 2. sister and brothers 3. job 4. food 5. yid etc… telling you we will all become such happy people!!!! 🙂February 5, 2009 4:10 am at 4:10 am #665591
This is a copy of an article by Rabbi Yaakov Salomon posted on aish.com:
It’s a blazing night in August. You grab a PowerAde and sneak in a serene midnight repose on the porch swing. The faintest tinge of a breeze wafts at your sweltering brow. It is a few minutes before midnight.
Suddenly, a bluster of blinding light douses the darkened sky. The breeze is abruptly transformed into a ferocious gust that lifts you inches off your seat. Fear abounds, but strangely, it is accompanied by a remarkable tranquility that confuses and calms you at the same time.
In a flash you find yourself in a scene from a sci-fi movie as a spacecraft, the size of two football fields, lands before you. A short ladder descends and a creature of sorts makes his way out of the vessel and walks towards you. You are too dazed to move.
“I am Kriz from the planet Magxac,” he says. “I come in peace, just to explore your land. Can you show me around?”
He invites you into his Trans-orbitor and instructs you to push a button and choose any location on Earth in any time period.
“It is a combination of your GPS/Time machine/Super-sonic jet. It can take you anywhere in just seconds. Try it,” he cajoles.
After taking a few minutes to allow the shock to wear off, you decide to show off some of Earth’s wonders. You set the dial for 1476 BCE and you are whisked off to the shores of the Red Sea. Three million Jews are waiting in angst as Egyptian chariots rumble in the distance.
“Watch this,” you whisper to the alien.
The mighty waters part and the dry path is quickly filled by ecstatic Jews.
Kriz is not impressed.
“Big deal,” he says. “Happens every day on Magxac.”
Undaunted, you set the dial ahead a few months and together witness manna descending from the heavens in the desert. Same ho-hum reaction.
Frustrated and disappointed, you head back to the present and emerge from the craft with your newfound friend. It is 7 A.M.
“Whoa! What is that?!?!” cries Kriz, pointing to the sky.
“What is what?” you reply innocently.
“THAT! That giant orange orb that is blinding me!”
“You mean the sun? Haven’t you ever seen the sun?”
“On Magxac, it is always dark. This sun of yours looks awfully close. How far away is it?”
“Actually, it is 93 million miles away.”
“Incredible! I can’t even look at it!”
* * *
Do we ever stop to realize that the existence of the sun or its perfect placement is truly miraculous? Had the sun been 92 million miles away we would probably burn to death; 94 million miles away and we would freeze.
Frequency is blinding. We don’t appreciate things as miraculous because we are inured by the limitations of our vision.
The only reason we don’t immediately think of the sun as a miracle is because it is always there — rising and setting and shining exactly the way we expect it to. But frequency is blinding. The sun, like so many things in life, is genuinely miraculous. We don’t appreciate things as miraculous because we are inured by the forces of habit and the limitations of our vision.
In Ethics of Our Fathers, our Sages teach that ten miracles occurred in the Temple. No sacrificial meat ever became putrid, no fly was ever seen (for hundreds of years) in the butchering stations, the rains never extinguished the pyre on the Altar plus seven others. The laws of Nature were transcended in the Temple.
But there is something strange about this list of ten. Each miracle mentioned relates something that did NOT happen. Our customary dictionary definition of what is a miracle is quite different:
1. An amazing or wonderful occurrence
2. A marvelous event manifesting a supernatural act of God
But what about things that don’t happen? Can they also be considered miraculous?
Example: Of all the hundreds, if not thousands, of blessings that Jews recite, there is only one that mentions “God’s Heavenly Throne.” That, believe it or not, is the blessing that we say several times a day after exiting from the bathroom:
Blessed are You, HaShem, Our God, King of the universe, Who created the human with wisdom and created within him many openings and many cavities, exposed and known before Your Throne of Glory, that if one of them were to be ruptured or one of them were to be blocked it would be impossible to survive and to stand before You for even one hour. Blessed are You, HaShem, The physician of all flesh who acts wondrously.
Essentially we are marveling at the wonder of how the many openings and cavities in our bodies are NOT blocked or ruptured — allowing us to function and exist. What does NOT happen is miraculous, and we must see it as such.
Similarly, when we sit in a doctor’s waiting room and fill out forms describing our medical history, we should count every ‘check’ in the ‘no’ box as a miracle of something that did not happen — and there are hundreds of them.
Americans are loathe to speak about it (bad karma?), but who would have predicted in 2001, after 9/11, that no major terror attack would take place on US soil in seven years? Is that not miraculous?
And what about our precious little children? Any mother will tell you that it is inexplicable that toddlers don’t choke on things every single day — marbles, popcorn, pennies, watch batteries — while crawling around the house. Stairwells are too often left unblocked, yet these tiny treasures seem to live with a special protection from Above.
Safe sky travel is considered a given. While we all deplore the ever-growing incidence of departure and arrival delays, we forget how astounding the safety statistics are. Get this. The total number of flights scheduled to operate worldwide this month is 2.55 million. 307,000,000 seats will be offered to travelers around the globe! Only a tiny percentage of those passengers will experience a mishap of any kind. Incredible.
MIRACLES IN ISRAEL
No one doubts that the establishment of the State of Israel, after Hitler’s decimation of European Jewry, was an open miracle. Scattered around the world, hated everywhere they lived, persecuted in the north and the south, the east and the west, Jews survived and even thrived. But sometimes we forget that every day that Israel doesn’t implode — surrounded by its sworn enemies, many times its’ size — is a miracle we should never take for granted.
And most astonishingly is the following framework for something we have all become intuitively aware.Do we realize the magnitude of the miracle we recently experienced in Gaza?
The world is now far too well acquainted with the fright and terror experienced by the Jews who live within striking distance of our enemies in Gaza. The panic and hysteria that occurs when a siren goes off and a missile is imminent has been depicted in a frightening film on this website and has been viewed over a million times.
As painful as each and every casualty is, thank God, the losses have been comparatively minimal. But do we realize the magnitude of the miracle before our eyes?
Harold Gans is a mathematical consultant and international lecturer throughout North America, Israel, Australia and South Africa. He was a Senior Cryptologic Mathematician with the National Security Agency, United States Department of Defense until his retirement after 28 years of service. He recently reported the following:
On Jan. 5, 2009, Ehud Barak, Defense Minister of Israel, announced that 125 Grad-Katyusha missiles had fallen on populated areas of Beersheva, Ashkelon and Ashdod. This is 40% of the missiles fired; the remaining 60% fell in open areas. Of the 40% that hit populated areas of these cities, 2% hit buildings. I obtained satellite photos of Beersheva, Ashkelon and Ashdod. My analysis indicated that the average percentage of the ground covered by buildings in these three cities is 39.7%. This takes into account the different sizes of these cities.
Now, the expected rate of rockets hitting buildings should be the same as the percentage of the ground covered by buildings: 39.7%. Yet it is only 2%. The odds of this happening by chance are 100,000,000,000,000,000: 1.
Note that this has nothing to do with the bad aim of these missiles; we are only counting the 40% that actually did fall in populated areas of these cities.
God has given us a universe that is saturated with wonder and amazement. When we tune in to the marvels that surround us we can feel His presence and experience unparalleled joy. But there’s a whole class of miracles that is easy to miss — the “non-events” of life. In some ways, they can be even more providential than the obvious ones.
Just ask Kriz.February 5, 2009 4:57 am at 4:57 am #665592
we can play priorities and see which things are most important in our life and which things we would give up in place of the other things 😉February 5, 2009 2:46 pm at 2:46 pm #665593
mw13: wow that was really nice!!!! thanks! I feel much better today starting off my day…February 6, 2009 4:25 am at 4:25 am #665594
no problemFebruary 8, 2009 8:22 pm at 8:22 pm #665595Bais Yaakov maydelParticipant
syriansephardi, im just curious: is there such a thing as someone being a syrian ashkenazi??February 8, 2009 10:29 pm at 10:29 pm #665596
anyone have any ideas for the middah of this week?February 9, 2009 6:20 am at 6:20 am #665597
BYM: the last name ashkenazi is syrian!! If that’s what ur askin????
Ames: hi! I just saw ur post, I was away that’s were I’ve been…so do u write 10 things a day ur thankful for?? I have a book of it but I always forget to write in it!!!!!!February 9, 2009 3:18 pm at 3:18 pm #665598
lets work on simcha…………………??!?!?!?February 9, 2009 8:52 pm at 8:52 pm #665600myshadowMember
I say #4 but for all the cr addicts round here def 7!!February 9, 2009 9:30 pm at 9:30 pm #665601an open bookParticipant
APushetaYid: what does that mean exactly? im a lil unclear…February 11, 2009 2:34 am at 2:34 am #665602Bais Yaakov maydelParticipant
ss: no i meant is there such a thing as someone being syrian but is ashkenaz as opposed to sephardi lol.
cuz i was noticing that your syriansephardi is the same thing repeated twice….
i can get very technical dont mind meFebruary 13, 2009 2:52 pm at 2:52 pm #665603
Ames: Your Just AMAZING!! I vote # 4 thats good,February 13, 2009 4:05 pm at 4:05 pm #665604qwertyuiopMember
ames: i’ll go with 4 or 6.$February 13, 2009 4:59 pm at 4:59 pm #665605
i’m here for like 10 min today & i vote for #1 ga’ava!!!!February 15, 2009 1:26 am at 1:26 am #665606
i vote #4!February 15, 2009 2:57 am at 2:57 am #665607
#4February 15, 2009 3:05 pm at 3:05 pm #665608
Bais…:ohh haha nope but I didn’t make up my name!! Someone else did when they would read the YWN so I just continued the name, they gave me the password bc they don’t use it anymore…February 16, 2009 3:06 pm at 3:06 pm #665609
Ok, So are we ready for the new middah this week? #4 was Voted by most! Not answering back.. when u get really MAD! on your sister, mother, father or in laws… if any one can bring us a good story that would be gr8! let’s start together !! 🙂February 16, 2009 5:54 pm at 5:54 pm #665610
“And Hashem remembered Rachel, He listened to her, and He opened her womb” (Bereshis 30:22). The Sifsei Chachomim explains that whenever the Torah states that Hashem remembers someone, He remembers a good deed or deeds that the person performed in the past and subsequently grants their request. The Medrash Tanchuma notes that Hashem remembered Rachel’s silence. Yaakov wanted to marry Rachel. He sent gifts to her. Lavan intercepted the gifts and gave them to Leah instead. Rachel was quiet. The Medrash praises her silence by quoting the Mishnah (Avos 1:17). Shimon the son of Rabban Gamliel said, “All of my life I have been raised among the sages and I have not found anything better for the body than silence.” Our sages praise silence in many other ways. Rebbe Akiva said, “The fence that protects wisdom is silence” (Avos 3:17). The Gemora (Megilla 18a) writes, “The best medicine in the world is silence.” “Those who listen to insults and do not answer back are beloved by Hashem. They will grow stronger as the rising sun from morning to midday.” The Vilna Gaon zt”l writes in the name of the Medrash, “Each and every minute that a person seals his lips he merits to see the light that was hidden away (from the time of the creation of the world). This value of this reward is beyond the comprehension of any creature.”February 16, 2009 9:22 pm at 9:22 pm #665611
my pleasure Ames, It’s a wonderful thing to be silence when some one embarrases you, I once heard a story Some one didn’t have children for many many years… and he was once in shull when s/o embarrased some one out loud… the other person wanted to answer… he fast ran to that person… and asked him not to answer.. because he has no kids for sooo long… 9 months later he was blessed with a Baby boy! and the person that didn’t answer was sandik! A Truly amazing story that touched my HEART! 😉February 17, 2009 6:03 pm at 6:03 pm #665612
nice ames! thanksFebruary 17, 2009 7:11 pm at 7:11 pm #665613
APushetaYid: thanx that was great!!!
ames: thanx that was really nice!!!February 18, 2009 3:52 am at 3:52 am #665614an open bookParticipant
im going to try this one!
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