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  • #796049
    Hacham
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    MiddlePath: How did they handle it?

    #796050
    MiddlePath
    Participant

    Hacham- They made sure the entire community was notified immediately, and instituted rules that he had, and still has to, abide by, in terms of both public and private places, as well as special guidelines for my own family. I think they dealt with it well.

    #796051
    adorable
    Participant

    Middle- dont know how to can deal with it. There are a lot of things I can deal with, but I find it especially tough when parents dont live up to what they should be like

    #796052
    Hacham
    Member

    MiddlePath: B”H. So we see that the Rabbonim shlit”a do in fact handle this well, contrary to the frum-bashers comments.

    #796053
    MiddlePath
    Participant

    adorable- Yes, it most definitely is tough, and in my father’s case, it was even more tough because he still pretends that he’s a great father and nothing’s wrong.

    Hacham- Yes, some Rabbis do handle it well. But I’m sure that some don’t. I won’t say that the posters here who claim Rabbis don’t handle it well are wrong, because maybe they know of Rabbis that actually handle it incorrectly.

    #796054
    aries2756
    Participant

    MP, I am sorry for you and your tzar. Is your father monitored 24/7?

    #796055
    MiddlePath
    Participant

    aries- I know for sure that he was at the beginning. I don’t know about now, though. (It’s been like 12 years since it came out.) I think he still is, but I can’t say for sure.

    #796056
    aries2756
    Participant

    MP, then the Rabbonim DID NOT do a good job!

    #796057
    shlishi
    Member

    I must make a machoah for kovod HaTorah, seeing once again aries consistent and persistent attacks against rabbonim shlita, who do a wonderful job for klal Yisroel – and for that I stand up for them and publicly thank them for a job well done indeed.

    #796058
    aries2756
    Participant

    Here we go again. If the Man who is a molester is NOT being watched 24/7 and is left to his own devices then it is still possible that he is harming children. As long as the Rabbonim arranged that he was watched 24/7 THEY had control of the situation to some degree. Once they no longer chose to maintain that control they no longer kept the community safe from him and the danger he presents.

    If Shlishi chooses to see this as an attack on Rabbonim then he chooses to be blind and ignore what is being said and pointed out. He just chooses as always to ignore the problem and just argue with me. I choose NOT to argue with him just point things out to the rest of the CR.

    Rabbonim cannot control these predators. They can try but rarely can they keep up a 24/7 surveillance on them. They can insist that they go to therapy but they can’t make therapy work. Statistics prove that therapy does NOT work. Nor can they keep up year after year to make sure that the perpetrator is still going and following the rules they set up for him.

    #796059
    apushatayid
    Participant

    Can someone explain how halacha defines the term “raglayim lidavar”? Is it such an ambiguous term that a Rav is required to determine if a situation meets this definition?

    #796060
    aries2756
    Participant

    Not according to Rav Eliyashuv. Please google his p’sak and read it for yourself so I don’t influence you.

    #796061
    shlishi
    Member

    apy: Yes, Rav Elyashev clearly said a Rav is required.

    Rav Yosef Eliashiv (Yeschurun 15:642):

    (emphasis mine)

    #796062
    aries2756
    Participant

    Shlishi, you have changed the subject from sexual abuse and molestation to parental physical abuse and removing the children from the home (which is also a terrible issue but not the issue under discussion). Is this the way to prove your point, by changing the subject to reflect the answer you are looking for? Obviously everyone can see what you are doing. I’m done trying to have a normal conversation or debate with you.

    #796063
    MiddlePath
    Participant

    aries, it is very possible that he is still monitored 24/7. I don’t know for sure because I almost never see him. But I do know that the building he lives in is always monitored. I happen to think the Rabbis’ guidelines fit the situation, and I think they handled it well when it first came out. He was forced to go to therapy, and as you said, it didn’t work, mainly because he refused to see that he had a problem. On a side note, I really don’t like discussing something this personal in a thread that just uses it to fuel an argument, so if you want to discuss my situation with me further (and I would love to, because I almost never talk about it), please let it be in a neutral setting.

    #796064
    shlishi
    Member

    aries, please don’t use middlepath to promote your agenda, especially considering that he specifically said that the rabbonim did a good job as well as he asked you not to use him. As far as Rav Elyashev’s teshuvas, he has several on the issue on abuse and molestation, and his other teshuvos too demand that a rov be asked before any action is taken. He could not have been any clearer. And the logic is the same as in the teshuva I quoted above.

    #796065
    MiddlePath
    Participant

    shlishi, please don’t use me to promote YOUR agenda. Thank you.

    #796066
    Obaminator
    Member

    According to the statement the Agudah released last week by Rav Avi Shafran, the psak of the gedolim, including Rav Eliashev, that the Agudah bases their position on says that a Rov must be asked on each specific case to determine if the halachic parameters have been met, since the halachic parameters are complex.

    #796067
    zahavasdad
    Participant

    There was an incident in Borough park about a month ago and the perp was caught because they parents of the victims called the police

    #796068
    Obaminator
    Member

    I’m familiar with that incident. He called the police after a big rov advised him to. 1+ for the rabbonim.

    #796069
    Ben Levi
    Participant

    Aries,

    Please don’t make as if you care what Rav Elyashiv says.

    THe reality is that if he agrees with you, then you’l qoute hom and if he doesn’t. Well you ust have to fight to show him the truth ch”v.

    You insist on pushing an agenda that destroys families and children. You insist on ignoring the abundance of evidence that shows how dangerous your positions are.

    You also insist on misqouting the Godol Hador when the Rov that Teshuva is written to is alive and well and has told every single person who ever asked that you are wrong.

    #796070
    anon1m0us
    Participant

    If someone hurts my child, I would:

    1) Kill the person myself.

    2) Then call the police.

    3) Call my Rov to arrange kosher meals for the short amount of time I’ll be in prison.

    #796071
    zahavasdad
    Participant

    A little harsh, but i agree if I ever heard of ANYONE hurting my kids

    I WILL call the police FIRST

    #796072

    Shilishi…”Question: In a case where the parents are abusing the children physically…..”

    Since your statement says that the parents are abusing their children…without a doubt. Then to me this is a matter of life or death and thus everything should be done to remove the children immediately…regardless of where they are placed. The priority is a safe environment. If it’s with a secular or even non-Jewish family, then that is what needs to be done…a permanent home will be worked out later…

    and Yes, the police should be called, then the Rav. In that order.

    #796073
    MiddlePath
    Participant

    anon1m0us, then let’s hope no one hurts your child.

    I would like to add to my previous post about my father that although the Rabbis did deal with it fine, it could have been done a lot better. I think he could have been reported to the police earlier than he was, and some guidelines that the Rabbis set up at first are more lax now. So while it WAS taken care of, it could have been done better.

    And for G-d’s sake, everyone, stop all the personal bashing. If you don’t like someone’s opinion, say so respectfully. I don’t care how right you think you are. Stop.

    #796074
    shein
    Member

    anon1m0us: You would be in prison for a long time in that case (killing), unless it’s a death penalty state.

    #796075
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    anon1m0us: You would be in prison for a long time in that case (killing)

    Yes, you should try to make sure and kill them quickly while you are still really worked up, and then try to get it downgraded to manslaughter.

    #796076
    aries2756
    Participant

    Ben Levi, you don’t know reality from fiction. Because you don’t know anything about me, yet you keep speaking as if you do. You have no clue what I hold from Rav Elyashuv and to make such a comment is as ludicrous as everything else in your post.

    Do I know you? Do I analyze you or shlishi? Have I commented on either of you personally, what you think or what you hold by? And there is the difference between having a discussion with a normal person and having a discussion with someone who is promoting their own agenda and lies. That also ties in with the other thread about labeling and Holier than thou assumptions.

    Middlepath, lets not talk about your father in particular. If you choose to bring it on another thread that will be your choice. Let’s talk in general terms. If Rabbonim assign someone to supervise or shadow a molester 24/7 then they are protecting the public from him. In that case, they can be sure he will not harm anyone. He can not go to the mikveh, he cannot go to the children’s park. He cannot start up with a child on the street. He has someone by he side 24/7 that he walks with and talks to so he can do no harm. There is no question about this.

    Therapy doesn’t work because as you said he does not wish to admit or own up to what he is doing, and he does not have control over his impulses. But if he is never alone and cannot act on his impulses there is less of a chance of danger. A door man or 24 hour surveillance in the building does not monitor what any perpetrator does outside the building or to anyone that wanders into one’s home. So as you said the Rabbonim could have handled it better and they do become lax as the years pass.

    #796078
    MiddlePath
    Participant

    aries, I happen to know that he is banned from every Jewish institution in the city, except for one shul where he can daven at, and people are always on the lookout for him. But concerning what goes on in the streets, I don’t know if anyone is watching him then.

    And when I said that everyone here should stop personally bashing each other, I wasn’t referring to you. I think you were respectful in your responses (your last one was a bit edgier, though), and I happen to agree with you. Please forgive me if it looked like I was attacking you.

    #796079
    shlishi
    Member

    aries, You should call Rav Feivel Cohen yourself and see Ben Levi is 100% correct. Rav Feivel is who Rav Elyashev wrote the letter/psak to. Why does your anti-rabbonim agenda blind you from acknowledging the good of the rabbonim?

    #796080
    zahavasdad
    Participant

    I dont mean to pry, but how could someone be banned from every shul in NYC?

    Is it on the honor system?

    I am assuming most people dont know who he is (I am assuming he is not a household name) . Either his name or his face. Ive never heard of a list of people banned from Shuls and Ive never seen a Rabbi kick someone out.

    Shuls in Brooklyn have very little to do with Shuls in Manhattan who have very little to do with Shuls in Queens or Far Rockaway

    #796081
    MiddlePath
    Participant

    zahavsdad, my father doesn’t live in New York. He lives in a city where it is possible to ban him from every shul, and everyone knows who he is, and more importantly, what he is.

    #796082
    aries2756
    Participant

    MP, not at all. I have said my peace and I will choose to just ignore them from here on in. They have a right to their opinion as I have said all along but they don’t have a right to judge me or tell me what I think, what I know or what I do. Obviously I don’t need them to tell me what to do or who I should speak to as they don’t know where I have been, whom I have spoken to and what I have seen. I have a lists of people they can speak to as well which I am NOT publishing. As I said they will think what they choose and do what they choose. I can’t control anyone but myself and I can’t change other people. Everyone has bechira and it is up to them to make the necessary changes in themselves to learn and grow as you yourself learn every day.

    What I am wondering though is if Ben Levi and Shlishi are one in the same.

    #796083
    12786
    Participant

    It appears that being religious wasn’t Levi Aron’s biggest sin. The taking of an innocent life trumps what he did or didn’t eat.

    #796084
    zahavasdad
    Participant

    In NY that would never work.

    I cant see the Satmar of Williamsburg , Chabad of Crown heights, Yeshivish of Flatbush and Far Rockaway , Modern of Queens all agreeing to ban someone and people would have to know who they were

    #796085
    aries2756
    Participant

    ZD, I agree, in NY it would never work. It must be in a smaller community.

    #796086
    Getzel
    Participant

    see rabbi grlyks outlook in the mishpacha magazine

    i quote a paragraph

    Or is it?

    read full here

    http://mishpacha.com/Browse/Article/1300/If-Theyre-Not–Sick-Were-All-Killers

    #796087
    zahavasdad
    Participant

    On this Tisha B’av when frankly it can be tough to mourn. Honestly most of us have good lives here, We are free to practice our religion in any way we want. We are free of the poverty of previous generations, In fact life is pretty good here.

    Its a true sign we are in Galus that the various communities of NYC cannot agree on ANYTHING even to expel such a person

    #796088
    shein
    Member

    In fact life is pretty good here probably better than it was during the Bais Hamigdosh

    You’re KIDDING zhavasdad, are you not!?!?

    #796089
    aries2756
    Participant

    I think what we would all like to hear is that he finally pleaded guilty, told the whole entire truth, how he tricked Leiby and was either jailed for life or committed to an insane asylum for life so he can never hurt anyone ever again.

    #796090
    shein
    Member

    Why would he plead guilty if he’s going to get life in jail anyways?

    #796091
    Health
    Participant

    Shlishi/Ben levi/ Joseph -whomever you are -“As far as Rav Elyashev’s teshuvas, he has several on the issue on abuse and molestation, and his other teshuvos too demand that a rov be asked before any action is taken.”

    If you have such a Teshuva, copy and post it here. It has to be on molestation, not just abuse. If you don’t have one, then Aries is 100% correct and you are the one who is being Mevazeh Gedolim by twisting their words.

    #796092
    aries2756
    Participant

    Shein, because if he pled guilty there would not be a dragged out trial where all the morbid and tragic details would come out. If he pled guilty he would be sentenced by the judge without a trial and then we wouldn’t have to hear about him ever again.

    #796093
    shein
    Member

    That’s true aries, but what incentive does he have to plead guilty?

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