June 9, 2021 9:21 pm at 9:21 pm #1981615eishis chayilParticipant
why consider? dont you see that these are more effective?June 11, 2021 8:03 am at 8:03 am #1982099
Potching only taught me that my dad was a bully. He never learned to control his own emotions and would lose his cool and hit me. So please tell me, how was I to learn the necessary life skills to control my own emotions?June 11, 2021 8:04 am at 8:04 am #1982100
Positive reinforcement is a better tool to use than negative reinforcement for 2 reasons. Positivity is a motivator to repeat what was learned. Yet by hitting a child, you teach that if you’re bigger and stronger than who you face, you can hurt them. That doesn’t help in real life.June 11, 2021 8:04 am at 8:04 am #1982101
I’ve been on many medications and am thriving now off of them, better than when I was on them. I don’t have adhd and I understand that medications can change how one physically feels. But the reason I pulled through is because I used therapy to learn life skills I was missing. Therapy is more helpful than medications, as medications may deal with symptoms, but proper therapy deals with the cause of the symptoms.June 11, 2021 8:05 am at 8:05 am #1982102
Just because it seems effective, or you were hit yourself as a child, doesn’t mean that it’s the correct thing to do to kids under your care. Even a small love tap can trigger one who has been abused to shut off their inner personality. If hashem wanted us robots, he would have made us robots. Our uniqueness is what makes us great. I mean, how would you feel if you were controlled by fear? Most likely, you still are.June 11, 2021 8:24 am at 8:24 am #1982104
Life skills would include learning to control our emotions, not learning to let our emotions control us. Yes, most people nowadays are controlled by their emotions, meaning they are not in control of themselves.June 11, 2021 8:24 am at 8:24 am #1982107
A sign that most are controlled by their emotions is the rampant smoking and drug use nowadays. If you truly loved yourself, why would you harm your body by doing such things? People have a hard time quitting smoking because they never learnt to love themselves.June 11, 2021 8:25 am at 8:25 am #1982108
There is a lack of teaching tactics. Don’t you think that telling a child to do ten sit ups or push ups or jumping jacks would be more effective than hitting? It would also be positive for most children as small bits of exercise is very healthy for most normal people. Yet no one does this. Most don’t even understand that time out to think on their own is also more effective than shutting down the emotions.June 11, 2021 8:25 am at 8:25 am #1982110
One more thing. If you shoot a child dead, I guarantee you that he/she will never act out again. But that doesn’t truly solve the issue you have as he/she will definitely cut class for the rest of your lives. Besides, don’t we want to share positive messages? Why are we resorting to painful techniques to control rather than teaching techniques to build?
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