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    am yisrael chai
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    So I had a chasuna last night.

    Both the kallah’s parents and even other men were crying so hard. It later came out that her parents were against the shidduch altogether and the father assured his family to speak with the shadchan. The new couple’s parents didn’t interact with each other, didn’t dance together or speak.

    Oy.

    #805082
    Chein
    Member

    and the father assured his family to speak with the shadchan.

    What does that mean?

    #805083

    if the children are happy and beleive they have found their partner, then the parents should back off…They are married and nothing could change that.

    #805084
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    It sounds to me like the parents on both sides are completely crazy.

    So, if the kids are also both crazy, then it is ??? ??? ?? ???? and will be fine.

    If neither is crazy, then they will be fine. Maybe that is why they are ignoring the parents.

    If one is crazy, they will be divorced shortly, but at least you got free drinks and entertainment.

    #805085
    am yisrael chai
    Participant

    chein

    ???? ed (“assured”)

    mikehall (are you related to charliehall?!)

    agreed, but that’s clearly not what is happening

    pba

    It’s only one party’s parents who were against it, why does it sound to you that both sets of parents are “crazy?”

    #805086
    Chein
    Member

    ayc-

    Silly question. How do you end up with all these weird wedding scenarios? Just the other day it was cancelled on the wedding day.

    #805087
    ronrsr
    Member

    Chein, it’s clearly a wedding crisis.

    #805088
    am yisrael chai
    Participant

    Chein

    That’s a question you’ll have to ask HKB”H.

    #805089

    I thought that it was only among unstable newer BT’s that a chassune has become just an engagement party, with the “engagement” ending within three months.

    Something has gone VERY wrong; this is not the first I heard of these poorly thought out shidduchim ending in disaster.

    #805090
    adorable
    Participant

    just daven for the new couple that they dont get swept into their parents arguements. the parents might have had a very good reason for not wanting the shidduch but once you see that they are under the chuppa and married you have to change your mindset and be happy for them and daven that it works out.

    #805091
    bombmaniac
    Participant

    “Something has gone VERY wrong; this is not the first I heard of these poorly thought out shidduchim ending in disaster.”

    why would you assume that

    1) the shidduch was poorly thought out

    2) that it ended or will end in disaster

    #805092

    In my opinion this couple should live out of town meaning not a place you can easily drive to. such a Australia or Eretz Yisroel is far enough and they should consult with a gadol of their choice to help them set themselves up in a community of their likes so that the community becomes family. Staying here will just end up with problems that will get worse this time!

    #805093
    rosesharon
    Member

    As someone whose mahatanus STILL don’t get along after five years, they should move as far away from both parents as possible for the first year and get used to saying-” ma/ta, shvigger/shver, I understand that you feel upset and want to talk but I don’t want to listen to L”H. I love you and will call you back in one hour.” They should not get involved in anything between their parents and concentrate only on their shalom bais. Most of our fights in the first 1 1/2 years of marriage were about what one parent did to the other. Two ended in screaming matches and threats of divorce. Hatzlacha and koach to the new couple. May they build a BNB.

    #805094
    aries2756
    Participant

    Sometimes machutonim get so caught up in the planning of the wedding and who has to pay for what, and this cost more than that, and you were supposed to pay and you didn’t, and I asked you to do this for me and you didn’t want to, that it gets completely out of hand and causes tremendous machlokes. Sometimes it is about support for the kids. Whatever it is, they are not the only partners in the shidduch, Hashem is as well. Sometimes these things work out and sometimes they don’t that would all depend on how much work these kids want to put into their marriage and how important their marriage is to them. They should never allow either side to get in between them. If the parents don’t get along, it is their loss.

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