February 12, 2014 11:32 pm at 11:32 pm #612122squeaky headMember
Hi I’m frm OOT and I was wondering what do post sem girls wear to classmates weddings? Do they wear fancy top n skirt or short dresses? heels? thanksFebruary 12, 2014 11:35 pm at 11:35 pm #1003056Torah613TorahParticipant
Whatever you want, as long as it’s tznius.
There’s no rules.February 13, 2014 5:05 am at 5:05 am #1003057Gryffindorable GirlMember
There are no rules but you don’t want to look silly. I’ve been to weddings where the OOT girls really stuck out because of the clothes they were wearing. I suggest bringing a variety and getting ready at a “in town” friend’s house to see what the type is.
I think heels are a necessity unless you’re really tall. I tend to kick mine off once the dancing starts getting more intense, but I would never wear flats to a wedding.
About top/skirt or dresses- really depends the type. I think more people are wearing fancy skirts and simpler (but still nice) tops these days, but I still see fancy top and nice skirt, and short dresses.
As Torah613 said, there are no rules, but if you don’t want to stick out, maybe find out what the type is…February 13, 2014 8:34 am at 8:34 am #1003058RisingSun613Member
Wear what you think is kavodig and tznius enough to go to a wedding. Most people forget that the reason we go to weddings is to fulfill the Mitzvah of Hachnasas Kallah. so, while you are still supposed to look nice, its not supposed to be a fashion show or a social scene! Ur dressing up L’Kavod a mitzvah! so wear whatever will help you fulfill this mitzvah properly.
Note: i personally would ditch the heels if you could get by without them! (most people can). or at least wear really comfortable ones that aren’t too high! ppl with heals slow down the dancing soooooo much!February 13, 2014 11:48 am at 11:48 am #1003059morahmomParticipant
Apparently there is some hierarchy as to who gets to wear long and who can wear short, depending on how close you are to the kallah. This corresponds to the order in which she will dance with you.
Also, you want to remember that many shidduchim are made at weddings, so you do want to look good – not over the top, but people will be looking for their nephews and neighbors’ sons…
Finally, have no fear because I hear that there are gmachs for “friends of kallahs dresses”!February 13, 2014 2:27 pm at 2:27 pm #1003061popa_bar_abbaParticipant
Popa thinks you should dress for a wedding the way you dress for a date.
More accurately, he thinks you should dress for a date the way you dress for a wedding.February 13, 2014 3:09 pm at 3:09 pm #1003062golferParticipant
Bimechilas kvoidoi, popa should Not be on this thread.February 13, 2014 3:51 pm at 3:51 pm #1003063☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
Golfer, bimchilas kvodech, this thread is supposed to be about which threads to wear, not which threads to comment on.February 13, 2014 3:54 pm at 3:54 pm #1003064WIYMember
I got censored.February 13, 2014 5:21 pm at 5:21 pm #1003065squeaky headMember
thanks e/o!February 13, 2014 5:36 pm at 5:36 pm #1003066takahmamashParticipant
Is there a difference between what post-sem girls wear to weddings, as opposed to pre-sem girls? What about girls who went straight to college and never went to sem? What about girls who married straight out of high school – do they go with the post-sem look as well, even though they’re not post-sem?February 13, 2014 5:51 pm at 5:51 pm #1003067popa_bar_abbaParticipant
I’m not popa. I’m her husband posting on her account. Sorry about the confusion before.February 13, 2014 7:11 pm at 7:11 pm #1003068🍫Syag LchochmaParticipant
Wearing “long” is something the kallah will ask her close friends to do. It is a way of saying this friend is “close like family”, since the family also dresses long. I think of it as a way of saying – this is your simcha too, come dressed like us. I have never heard of it affecting the order of dance though. It just may be that people graciously allow the moms, sisters and closest friends to have the first dances with the kallah.
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