November 25, 2009 10:11 pm at 10:11 pm #1175975bptParticipant
Mod 99 –
Thanks. In re-reading my 1st post, I have no idea why I would think that “totty” would spring to mind (as opposed to BP something else).
I guess my role as totty plays a bigger part in me than I realize.
Living in BP, Yiddish is my 2nd language, but my kids (who are more yeshivish than BP-ish) would sooner use the word teef (as in “ah teefer gedank”) than I would. If I wanted to make the same point, I would probalby say “Me’darf git aran-trachten de’rin”. Same idea, but as a yiddish speaker, one just sounds more BP-ish.
As it happens, my yiddish has a very chassidshe favor, yet my ivrah is more yeshivish, so “teef” might very well make its way into a statement of mine.. at one of my more yeshivish momentsNovember 25, 2009 10:17 pm at 10:17 pm #1175976GetzelParticipant
because plain Getzel was taken
so i added a 1January 8, 2010 4:32 pm at 4:32 pm #1175978RaisedEyebrowMember
I nominate Mrs. Doubtfire for BEST SCREEN NAME of the Year awardJanuary 8, 2010 6:35 pm at 6:35 pm #1175979
why…because you liked the movie?January 8, 2010 7:39 pm at 7:39 pm #1175980shtarkbocherMember
because i am a shtark bochurJanuary 9, 2010 9:41 pm at 9:41 pm #1175981PosterMember
Can anyone gues why I chose this name? SOmeone that bakes is a baker, and someone that sings is a singer, and someone that posts is A …..January 10, 2010 12:44 am at 12:44 am #1175982
…person who has too much time on their hands…January 10, 2010 1:19 am at 1:19 am #1175983Mrs. DoubtfireParticipant
Lol bombmaniac and ty for the compliment raisedeyebrow. We actually had a really nice cleaning lady who reminded us of mrs doubtfire and that’s what we called her.January 10, 2010 10:17 am at 10:17 am #1175985PosterMember
bombmaniac, that too!January 11, 2010 11:07 pm at 11:07 pm #1175986checkmate27Member
i chose cheakmate27 . 27 for my age 😉 cheakmate for checkmate in chess i just found out i spelt it wrong throw spellcheck is there a way i can change it ?January 12, 2010 1:52 am at 1:52 am #1175987January 12, 2010 3:04 am at 3:04 am #1175988YW Moderator-80Member
You need to re-register under your new screen name. Log out. click on the blue “Register” and register again using the correct spelling.January 12, 2010 4:17 am at 4:17 am #1175989winnipeggerMember
Because bombmaniac was already taken! 🙂January 12, 2010 8:51 am at 8:51 am #1175990
lol :D:D:DJanuary 12, 2010 9:52 am at 9:52 am #1175991The Best BubbyParticipant
I chose The Best Bubby because my dearest einaklich call me that and I always strive to be The Best Bubby!January 12, 2010 9:35 pm at 9:35 pm #1175993checkmate 27Member
Thanks a million Moderator-80 & thanks NY MOMJanuary 12, 2010 10:04 pm at 10:04 pm #1175994
checkmate27: Glad you were able to fix it! 🙂January 13, 2010 1:36 pm at 1:36 pm #1175995aidle maidleParticipant
was the first name that popped into my head when I signed up. now I’m mrs aidle maidle 🙂 havnt been on YWN coffee room for a long time, so so many new user names on here!January 14, 2010 1:23 pm at 1:23 pm #1175997
I feel trapped between two worlds.
Since I first went to yeshivah I do not feel I can go back to living in the
secular world but after having lived in Crown Heights for awhile but not having
yichus or Geszher and having been told I was “a ben Niddah”, I can never feel part
of the Heimish world, either.
So I chose a screename that reflects that I do not know if I am supposed to be here or there.
It also has a double meaning since my tribulations, make me wonder if I should be
be living in this world or if I’d be better off in the ‘afterlife’.January 14, 2010 2:54 pm at 2:54 pm #1175998
hereorthere: The Ribono Shel Olam put us all here for our own special tafkid. He made you who you are and placed you where you are. May He help you to find your place in life.January 14, 2010 4:29 pm at 4:29 pm #1176000YW Moderator-80Member
In relation to your other post which unfortunately had to be deleted. a story was told of a soul very dear to the Ribbono Shel Olam that came up to Shomayim who had been a Tzaddik but had a problem with Gaiva. He was asked whether he would prefer to be cleansed in Gehinom or come back to this world where he would suffer and not be able to see why, being a msakein for his gaivah. He choose to suffer here.
There are many other explanations for suffering which seems to be undeserved. Please go see a Chushuv, preferably a Zakain, Talmid Chuchum and discuss your personal issues and questions with him. I believe this is very important for you to do.January 14, 2010 5:55 pm at 5:55 pm #1176001jphoneMember
YW Moderator 1-10,000 was already taken.January 14, 2010 9:54 pm at 9:54 pm #1176002
It is not so easy to accept the tafkid why you are here if all you do is suffer.
Especially without the slightest knowledge of exactly what your specific tafkid, is.
To the moderator;
#1 Since you mention it here, please tell me why my other post “had to be” deleted?
#2 That story still does not explain how his suffering is supposed to cause him to do teshuvah in life where he has no clue as to what is going on.
#3 I know very little Yiddish (or Hebrew for that matter) what is a Chushuv and what is a Zakain I am unfamiliar with either of those words or their meanings.
Thanks.January 15, 2010 1:44 am at 1:44 am #1176003positiveaynayimMember
hereorthere–a very prominent Torah teacher once told someone who suffered immensely in their life–“if you can find one thing to thank Hashem for every day, and focus on it for a little bit, it should help alleviate the pain of the suffering somewhat”.
Sometimes it takes years to understand what the suffering was about–until then to find something to be grateful for gives hope even in the darkest of situations. Good luck. My screen name is what I strive for–not always successfully but that’s the goal.January 18, 2010 8:21 am at 8:21 am #1176004BemusedParticipant
Zakein means an elderly person- someone with wisdom and life experience. Chashuv in the sense used here is someone who personifies Torah ideals.
Life can be very hard; try to remember that you are worthy of life and therefore capable of doing good with it. You have inherent dignity despite any circumstances- stand tall and talk to the One who is interested in hearing your thoughts: Hashem.January 18, 2010 8:50 pm at 8:50 pm #1176005oomisParticipant
hereorthere, my dear husband is also a baal teshuva, a ben nidda. I will stack him up against anyone. The ikker is not what you were, but rather, what you make of yourself now. It sounds like you need to live in a more accepting environment. I hope you find it. There are some amazing people out there who put their money where their mouths are when it comes to saying they want to be mekareiv people. You obviously have just not found the right people yet. Don’t lose hope. You will find a chevra who not only accepts you, but EMBRACES who you are.January 18, 2010 9:32 pm at 9:32 pm #1176006squeakParticipant
hereorthere: Listen to oomis.
There is indeed a shailoh whether or not one may marry a ba’al tshuva, because of the ‘ben nidda’ suspicion. However – Rav Moshe Feinstein wrote in a Tshuva (responsa) to this question that the shortcoming of a ‘ben nidda’ would be apparent in the person’s middos. Hence, a ba’al tshuva who has fine middos is clearly not a ‘ben nidda’ and his middos prove that through some means his mother must have done t’vilah, albeit unknowingly (e.g. a swimming pool).
Is the inverse also true, i.e. does an FFB with bad middos prove that his lineage is flawed? Rav Moshe does not say so, but as we know from Pirkei Avos/Mussar sefarim – a person with Torah learning/fine middos is a better person in the eyes of G-d and His people than a person without Torah learning/fine middos, regardless of his lineage.
Go find people with good middos and live among them instead.January 18, 2010 10:05 pm at 10:05 pm #1176007happyOOTerParticipant
Hereorthere, something my Rav told me recently: Don’t judge Torah Judaism by Jews.
Having moved recently from the Midwest to the east coast, I too have been struggling with this issue (see my screen name).
Hatzlacha… (And avoid CH if you can)January 19, 2010 6:25 am at 6:25 am #1176008
If the person was specifically supposed to suffer then how is G-d following Torah as I was told he did and we know that one may not punish in anger or
make suffer just for the sake of making suffer without the one being punished knowing why?
If his soul needs clensing that could have been done inbetween lives and seems wasteful during a life where he has no clue.
Thank you positiveaynayim and Bemused and oomis1105 and
squeak and happyOOTer.
You have all expressed some beautiful thoughts and ideas and I appreciate them all.
At this point in my life my biggest concern is that as I grow older and weaker I will no longer be able to do my physically demanding job for which I get low pay and have no life savings or pension of any kind (except a pittance from Social Security, which I am quite sure will not exist by the time I’d be able to collect it)and no healtn plan (and Obamas plan will only make it worse, I dread existing under THAT plan)which is problem now even before I get that weak.
I have no clue whatsoever what I will do next week or next year or a few years or at whatever point my boss tells me he is hiring someone younger and stronger when he notices that I am not keeping up like I did when I started there, over 12 years ago.
I have no way of fixing my teeth which desparately need fixing right now
(for years now and about to get unbareably painful).
I know, pray, study, give tzoddeka, and hope for miracles and I have been doing that for years now………….sigh………January 19, 2010 3:35 pm at 3:35 pm #1176009jewishsoulMember
hereorthere- you say “If his soul needs clensing that could have been done inbetween lives and seems wasteful during a life where he has no clue.”
Cleansing in between lives would be hell. There are many stories of souls who chose to go down onto this world again as a better alternative to hell.
While we are on this world, it seems as if this is “real”, however at the end of our lifetime we see it was only temporary, and it is the world of truth that is eternal and real. And the more suffering we have during our transient lifetime, the cleaner our souls become and the closer we can be to G-d in the real world. And that is the ultimate pleasure.
I know the concept is difficult to swallow, but it is something I tell myself during trying times and it helps me alot.January 20, 2010 11:50 am at 11:50 am #1176010
Thank you Jewishsoul; I understand what you are saying but I wonder if the soul really fully understood how hellish life down here would be when making that choice.
Did my soul truly know that my life would be so bad that I would spend every single day wishing I were dead?
It reminds me of what is said about the Avos and how they each prayed for
something and G-d said “You have asked for a good thing it will start with you”.
And it seems that what they got was not what they asked for.
For example Avroham Avinu asked that people be able to tell him from his son Yitzchok so G-d made him old.
But with old age, came weakness and Avroham did not ask for his strenght to run away with him.
He only asked that people would know him from his son.
Who asked for the suffering from the weakness of old age?July 14, 2010 9:53 pm at 9:53 pm #1176011myfriendMember
My screen name is that I consider all yidden to be my friend.July 15, 2010 3:41 pm at 3:41 pm #1176012
My little cousin calls me this and it sort of stuck…July 15, 2010 4:28 pm at 4:28 pm #1176013AinOhdMilvadoParticipant
Because I hope that seeing this expression will serve to always remind all of us Who is Really in charge of this world.
I also strongly recommend repetition of this “mantra” to those who are troubled and can’t fall asleep at night because they are so consumed with their problems.
Saying it over and over and over, AinOhdMilvado, AinOhdMilvado, AinOhdMilvado reminds one of HaSh-m’s hashgacha in every aspect of our lives and that HE is in control, and that YOU (are not, and) should relax and go to sleep!July 15, 2010 8:37 pm at 8:37 pm #1176014
WolfishMusings because I’m Wolfish and have ignorant and insane Musings.
The WolfJuly 15, 2010 8:46 pm at 8:46 pm #1176015
Sounds scary-in what way are you “wolfish”?July 15, 2010 9:22 pm at 9:22 pm #1176016
Sounds scary-in what way are you “wolfish”?
In every bad and negative way you can imagine…. and then some.
The WolfJuly 15, 2010 9:40 pm at 9:40 pm #1176017
Why do you say that? Are you really that self critical of yourself?July 15, 2010 10:55 pm at 10:55 pm #1176018
Why do you say that? Are you really that self critical of yourself?
Sometimes. Now would be one of those times.
The WolfJuly 16, 2010 3:54 am at 3:54 am #1176019
Maxwell keeps me going.July 16, 2010 8:15 pm at 8:15 pm #1176020sof davar hakol nishmaMember
very simple – to remind myself (and along with myself others) whats truly important in lifeJuly 16, 2010 11:11 pm at 11:11 pm #1176021KashaMember
What’s the kasha? Who doesn’t love Kasha Varnishka?July 18, 2010 5:25 am at 5:25 am #1176022
WolfishMusings because I’m Wolfish
How are you Wolfish?July 18, 2010 3:54 pm at 3:54 pm #1176023
How are you Wolfish?
I have some characteristics in common with wolves. I kill old Grandmothers who live in the woods, put on their clothing and wait lying in their beds until their granddaughters (wearing red hooded cloaks, of course) come to visit so that I can tell them that my big teeth are “the better to eat them with.” Then I gobble them up.
The WolfJuly 18, 2010 4:24 pm at 4:24 pm #1176024
Wolf: Where is Goldilocks?July 18, 2010 5:06 pm at 5:06 pm #1176025GoldieLoxxMember
im rite here
i better go b4 the wolf eats me
byeJuly 18, 2010 5:27 pm at 5:27 pm #1176026Hello KittyMember
Hello Kitty is my childrens favorite character!! They always drive me nuts to buy them stuff from this character. I told them, I am Hello Kitty, so they’ll have it all the time…
That’s how my nickname became HELLO KITTY!July 18, 2010 5:50 pm at 5:50 pm #1176027d aMember
The ‘d’ stands for EDITED and the ‘a’ stands for EDITED.
I’m just kidding! It’s the initials of my initials. Whatever.July 19, 2010 4:49 am at 4:49 am #1176028
Wolf: Where is Goldilocks?
Don’t know. She had a run in with bears, not with a wolf.
The WolfJuly 19, 2010 1:24 pm at 1:24 pm #1176029tomim tihyeMember
“Hashem… Ahavas Tomim” (Z’miros for Layl Shabbos).
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