October 5, 2011 3:04 am at 3:04 am #599769
What is a good book to recommend for someone struggling with self esteem? I know Rabbi Twerski is great, but I haven’t read most of his books and don’t know which is best. Basically I’m looking for one really good book to suggest to someone to read over yom tov.October 5, 2011 3:17 am at 3:17 am #851656Abba bar AristotleParticipant
“Let us make man” is greatOctober 5, 2011 3:32 am at 3:32 am #851657
AbA, Thanks a lotOctober 5, 2011 3:49 am at 3:49 am #851658Abba bar AristotleParticipant
sure, it helped me alot many years ago
it is based on the beginning of chovos halevavos, shaar ha’hachno’oOctober 5, 2011 5:26 pm at 5:26 pm #851659
“When do the good things start,” and “Waking up just in time”, both Twerski are great for this. He uses illustrations of Charlie Brown and friends to illustrate the point. Twerski believes everything is dependant on self esteem so he is def. a good author of such books, he’s said, “i wrote 1 book x many times!” He speaks of it in a very factual way and he doesn’t say to do all these exercises and workshops but rather just makes you think to do it yourself!!
“Let us make man” is great too.
And yitayningwut – hi again 😉 lots of luck!October 5, 2011 5:33 pm at 5:33 pm #851660
PrincessEagle- hi:) and thanx!October 5, 2011 6:57 pm at 6:57 pm #851661flowersParticipant
“The 7 habits of highly effective people” by Stephen R. Covey.October 5, 2011 7:07 pm at 7:07 pm #851662
Thanks folks again. These are great. One thing though, I’m also looking for something a little lighter. Something written very simply, with short and easy to understand points. Get what I’m saying?October 6, 2011 3:49 am at 3:49 am #851663EYYEYYMember
Twersky has a book with 10 Steps to Self Esteem or something like that… but it takes alot of will power to work thru the steps and keep to themOctober 7, 2011 1:55 am at 1:55 am #851664
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Last time, I promise
b’li neder of courseOctober 7, 2011 4:35 pm at 4:35 pm #851667
Of course.October 7, 2011 5:12 pm at 5:12 pm #851668SapphireMember
Eichlers store has several books on self-esteem. Zelig Pliskin has a book “Building Your Self Image”.
I found certain parts of a book by Miriam Adahan called “Awareness: The Key to Acceptance, Respect, Forgiveness, and Growth” (new expanded edition) helpful in understanding some things about myself and others.October 7, 2011 6:33 pm at 6:33 pm #851669
Thank you Sapphire I will check those out.December 25, 2011 2:53 am at 2:53 am #851670
Just wondering yitayningwut, what book did you find?December 25, 2011 3:53 am at 3:53 am #851671
Princess – Thanks for asking. I actually looked most of them up and they were all good, but didn’t find exactly what I was looking for. What I really wanted was a book that didn’t require much reading, that would somehow get across the message “you are worth something” etc. This person would be much more interested in a Dr. Seuss book than a Twerski book (though this person is quite smart, and I happen to think Dr. Seuss books are great). So we resorted to other things. But if you have another book suggestion, I’d love to hear.December 25, 2011 5:28 pm at 5:28 pm #851672
I think the best way to take care of self esteem issues is seek to understand why you have an issue with self esteem to begin with.
Or a great way to understand is by sending your handwriting to be analyzed by a handwriting analyst to learn more about yourself.
Seek books that relate to the topic that your handwriting shows is not a good trait to have. I don’t believe simply reading self esteem books is going to help anyone.December 25, 2011 5:59 pm at 5:59 pm #851673
How did the “other things” help yitayningwut? I was just wondering and hoping it went okay. Lots of luck!December 25, 2011 6:04 pm at 6:04 pm #851674ED IT ORParticipant
I don’t think giving someone such a book will help there self esteem much,December 25, 2011 6:07 pm at 6:07 pm #851675lemaysaMember
the feel good handbook by dr david d. burnsDecember 25, 2011 6:12 pm at 6:12 pm #851676
PrincessEagle – Just good old fashioned coaching. Nothing is perfect, and a book would still be of use, but it isn’t everything. Thank you!
Yiddishe Kup – Thanks. In this case I know what is probably the cause, and it’s a combination of a few things, which cannot be changed, so it’s more about dealing with the situation now and working with what we’ve got.December 25, 2011 9:23 pm at 9:23 pm #851677
“Stop Surviving Start Living” by Rabbi Ben Zion Shafier
Easy reading, yet thought provoking.December 26, 2011 12:34 am at 12:34 am #851678
self esteem is bad and you are tooDecember 26, 2011 12:42 am at 12:42 am #851679
lol you’re good youDecember 26, 2011 1:24 am at 1:24 am #851680
“I Only Want to Get Married Once” an excellent book and very easy reading. Chana Levitan is the author and although the book is about dating, it is really about learning who you are and what you can do with what Hashem has given you.December 26, 2011 1:54 am at 1:54 am #851681A Sheep without a SpleenMember
emunah? hello? Is half your brain tied behind your back to make it fair?? maybe untie it. this thread was about self esteem. sheesh.December 26, 2011 2:10 am at 2:10 am #851682
Hey spleenless, chill. Go smoke or something. Don’t worry, I won’t tell.December 26, 2011 2:12 am at 2:12 am #851683mommamia22Participant
MODS!!!! Where are you????
Have you read sheeps post???
How are you letting these go through?!?!
My stomach is turning reading the posts on this website!
Sorry.December 26, 2011 3:04 am at 3:04 am #851684
Read this book and you will understand what self esteem is really about. Your get to know who you are. Looking at who you are helps with learning about your strengths and weakness-thereby building self esteem.December 26, 2011 3:07 am at 3:07 am #851685
Sheep-you probably should have someone read the book to you. It is a well written book.December 26, 2011 3:37 am at 3:37 am #851686
The sheeps stomach is also turning, but that is b/c I am roasting him on a spitDecember 26, 2011 3:42 am at 3:42 am #851687
you don’t stop do you… lolDecember 26, 2011 3:48 am at 3:48 am #851688
Well you keep egging me on. Yitayning is an accomplice.December 26, 2011 3:52 am at 3:52 am #851689
I accept no liability for this one.December 26, 2011 3:58 am at 3:58 am #851690
nope its all your fault you can cry but you cant hideDecember 27, 2011 2:31 pm at 2:31 pm #851691
In this case I know what is probably the cause
So why not get books that gives insight and advice how to deal with this issue?December 27, 2011 11:55 pm at 11:55 pm #851692
I see you have a yiddishe kup.December 28, 2011 4:42 am at 4:42 am #851693WIYMember
Based on your recommendation I have just ordered I Only Want to Get Married Once on Amazon.com. Im really looking forward to reading it.February 15, 2012 3:42 pm at 3:42 pm #851694computer777Member
For anyone suffering from low esteem I recommend “Pulling Your Own Strings” by Wayne Dyer. It is an amazing book, and has the power to literally change a person’s life.February 15, 2012 6:12 pm at 6:12 pm #851695uneeqMember
The book that helped me greatly in the low point of my life, is The Road Less Travelled by M. Scott Peck. One of my rabbis introduced me to it and had a special session with me reading/learning from it. I slowly but surely turned around my life and am happy looking back at the changes I made.
I learnt what a true friends are, real love, disciplining one-self, and other great concepts that I have for the most part not forgotten even consciously.February 15, 2012 7:33 pm at 7:33 pm #851696
The Road Less Travelled by M. Scott Peck
Amazing book. I actually recommended it on another thread.February 15, 2012 7:53 pm at 7:53 pm #851697uneeqMember
yitay: So why not recommend it to the friend that you originally wanted to recommend a book to?February 16, 2012 3:43 am at 3:43 am #851698
I did, a long time ago. Good suggestion 🙂February 16, 2012 3:47 am at 3:47 am #851699
I just went to Barnes & Noble’s to check out the book you suggested, and it seemed really interesting, so I bought two – one for myself as well. Thanks!February 16, 2012 2:07 pm at 2:07 pm #851700AinOhdMilvadoParticipant
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