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singles don’t give up! stay strong! even if someone tells you your too picky or old… don’t give up because that’s your test pass it 100% hashem has his plans and s/t in store for you.
Enjoy the time being as i am haha!
I really needed to hear that today. Thanks!
A little random but thank you for that! we all need to hear that once in a while and remember that there is someone for you out there….
Me 2! bigtime!!
Wasn’t here a story with the Chazon Ish or Steipler, where an older boy came to ask for a brocha for a shidduch and they said that they already rejected their zivug? So I guess people should not be too picky.
Al pi kabalah, there is a zivug and there are also basherts. Hence, you might not marry your zivug, but you could still find your bashert.
anon1m0us
Um, maybe not the greatest thread for your wise words.
anon: Why not leave this a thread with only posotive?
Wasn’t there a story without the Chazon Ish or Steipler with this guy who settled and then had a horrible marriage and messy divorce and his kids hate him and aren’t frum?
Maybe when i’ll be engaged (to a great person) already I’ll be able to say how much this time has helped me grow and shape me into the person i am today.:(
Unfortunately I don’t feel like that today. The shidduch that really sounded promising just fell apart. :(:(
Sorry to hear that shimmel, very sorry. May you, as well as all the other CR’s who are seeking their shidduch, find it very very soon!
How’s this for encouagement:
Look at today’s married folks (5+ years)
If they can do it, anyone can!
True & Sac: This thread is to encourage people not to give up. However, saying that you can be picky because it is a test from hashem is ridiculous! Yes, keep the faith and moral, but please do not think one can be picky and then blame hashem for a lack of a shidduch. It will make people lose their emmunah! Davven and do your hishtadlus and do not give up!
shimmel- That means you are one closer to your zivug!
Bpt- with all due respect i disagree. ppl tend to look at married folks and envy a little their luck. Sometimes its just not the right time for you to get married, its not even a matter of hishtadlus.
Sorry you’re having a tough day, Shimmel. Hope tomorrow is turns out better for you.
Hope you find your zivug very soon.
Thank you all for ur wishes! I appreciate it.
Really. But, One closer, yup but who knows how far it really is….
Never think you’re too old & you’ll never meet ‘the one’… I B”H just got married a few months ago and I’m 27
Someone is out there for every one of you. Sometimes when you finally meet the right one, you may realize why you had to wait so long.. (you/the other had to mature, you/the other wasn’t on the right religious level, you/the other wasn’t available (divorced/widowed) etc..)
Don’t give up!! Hashem hears all your tefillos!
anon1m0us-
They should definitely be picky about the important things. Dont ever settle for someone who is on a lower frumkeit level than you wanted.
I once had a screaming match with a man who told me that I’ll never get the guy I’m looking for and I should just marry anyone because nowadays the girls are frummer than the boys so someones gotta settle.
And I said you dont know what youre talking about and I will never settle on that. Maybe on looks, height, family, etc. But not frumkeit and middos.
Mind you, I got engaged to everything I wanted and more 3 months later.
Having a hard couple of days in this department.
Want so much to find my bashert (or zivug or whatever you wanna call him). There is nothing even on the horizon right now, I don’t know who to call since I feel like I’ve called everyone already. I’m going crazy!!!!
“Sometimes its just not the right time for you to get married, its not even a matter of hishtadlus. “
I know. What I meant was, sometimes it looks as though a person is not married yet is because of “this reason” or “that issue”, when you look (and I mean, really look) at people that are already married, you see that, despite whatever “shortcomings” they might have (and trust me, we ALL have them) we still got married.
In fact, after a few years, those very “shortcomings” turn out to have very little,if any, impact on the day-to-day success of the marraige.
At any rate, considering all the tefilos that were said this Purim, this thread will be looked back on, with a sigh of nostalgia!
anon1m0us:
You’re entitled to start your own thread. But why come in here to sour the mood???
Never think you’re too old & you’ll never meet ‘the one’… I B”H just got married a few months ago and I’m 27
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Mazel tov and much simcha!
Heeeeelp!!!! I’m EIGHTEEN, guys. E-I-G-H-T-E-E-N!!! And there’s NOTHING on the horizon!!!:(:( Suggestions anyone??
(Sorry. I’m not making fun of you out there, just felt kinda left out!)
lets keep this as a support group for singles 20+… to vent out frustrations and share stories.. not necessarily looking for advice lets just share support.. I was once thinking of starting a support group newsletter for singles like 25+.. with cute stories, chizuk, segula of the week, and dumbest thing the boys ever did…lol but decided against it..
i can’t say how old i was when i got married, as i was the only person in the world to get married at that age, so i don’t want to give away who i am, but i too was an older single and boruch Hashem am happily married with a number of kids (can’t say how many – for again, i’m the only one in the world with this number of kids).
a month before i met my husband, a woman asked me what i was looking for and just looked at me like i was crazy for expecting all those things at my age. my husband had every single thing i was looking for. (and no, he isn’t perfect – i wasn’t looking for perfection). 😉
This title made me laugh. 🙂
Keep it up Singles!!!
Ur almost there!!
Happiness cums from the inside!
Just a few more losers!!
Ur Bashert is trying to find u!!
In just a lil while ull be exhausted and drained from all the housework!
Hashem loves uuuuu!!
“I was once thinking of starting a support group newsletter for singles like 25+”
I’m thinking about starting a website.
thanks, oomis 🙂
c’mon guys/girls! single life is great!!! just think about all your married friends who never had that single carefree years. most ppl get engaged down the line, so dont worry!!! You’ll get your single years and your married years!! enjoy the time now and make the most out of your time! your prince/princess will soon be coming!
truth be told: Not souring the mood but setting the true expectations.
anon1m0us: Not souring the mood but setting the true expectations.
But why in here?
Nobody liked my story that wasn’t with the chazon ish
PBA: I sure did
I’m pretty sure I’ve seen it somewhere before. Any clue where it could have been?
pba- Interesting story but we are not talking about settling yet!
Bpt- gotcha!
Also I know its like a thousand times in the CR but a way to italicize is put the word em in < > then write your text and after put /em in < > and it will be italicized!
so sac, when we starting the website.. i have a lot to add..
lol…
what should we call it.. S.O.S – singles oy singles
The Singing Singles
Dating and Debating
any other ideas..
blinky: like this?
<the word em>text
I was thinking more on the lines of The Singles Network….
like this:
<em>italicized text</em>now, how did you do that
whatrutalkingabt, I agree with you. Some things are uncompromisable. So he/she is shorter/taller than you wanted – in the greater spectrum, how much does that matter? If there’s a blemish in middos and/or emotional wellbeing that’s another story. There are things one cannot settle on.
When trying to push a shidduch, someone said to me, “Maybe it’s not the right one, but is it the wrong one?”
In my opinion, if it’s not right it’s wrong! You can’t force a square peg into a round hole.
The trick isn’t only to “get married” but to “to stay married” as well. Unfortunately, divorce is rampant today. Yes, I have a “right” to be “picky” on certain nuances.
You can’t force a square peg into a round hole.
I never understood this expression.
It should be: “You can’t force a bigger peg into a smaller hole.”
Because the only thing that matters is the relative sizes of the peg and the hole. The shape does not matter at all.
“Because the only thing that matters is the relative sizes of the peg and the hole.”
It’s not about fitting, its about something being a good match.
You can do a 1,000 piece puzzle completely wrong and squash all the pieces in to the wrong holes, they may fit however awkwardly and inharmoniously, but they wont match.
popa: The moral of that story supports a valid viewpoint.
I wish good health and true happiness to the man.
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