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I’ll just cut to the chase here- my husband and I are on 2 totally different diets. He needs to eat a lot to maintain a healthy weight, and I need to limit what I eat for the same reason. Until now, I’ve just been cooking 2 dinners- one for him and one for me. Now, as is apparent from my name, I love to cook, but this is just too much! I know I am not the only one; I am sure loads of people have a similar problem, especially those with a lot of young children. Is there some way to make 1 meal that satisfies everyone? Or should I just resign myself to making multiple dinners forever- in which case, how does one cope?
Thanks!
My husband is a Type 2 Diabetic, who also will not eat red meat. I am ALWAYS cooking more than one type of meal, especially for Shabbos, because i.e., when we have company, I like to make a roast and he will never eat it. So the compromise is that I cook enough to satisfy all of our gustatorial needs, and he eats leftovers from what I have prepared (in bulk) specifically for him. The side dishes can be made in great variety, and he simply chooses more of them, and you fewer. Let him have the mashed potatoes with fried onions, and you eat a baked sweet potato. He can have chicken cutlets with sauces, you keep to the plain grilled variety. Also, let him snack between meals, while you do not (or snack on fruit or cut up veggies). He can also drink protein shakes to add calories among other things, between meals.
It’s really a big problem. It reminds of a guy who complained to me that he has a similar one: one diet never seems to fill him up. So, he goes on about 3-4 diets at once, and sure enough – he’s always full!! Maybe if you & your husband go on BOTH diets – it’ll solve your problem…
going to a great restaurant usually solves most dinner menu issues! 😉
ames: great to see we agree on something! 😉 (kidding we usually do!)
gourmet
I don’t understand. Make one meal, he eats more of it, you eat less. It should be healthy, mostly vegetable, whole grains, mushrooms, beans, nuts, seeds, etc, with some chicken or meat if you want.
“going to a great restaurant usually solves most dinner menu issues! 😉 “
(He) Honey, what did you make for dinner? (She, sweetly) Reservations.
oomis, try doing that EVERY night. Some solution. 😉
gourmet: quick question i got here, does eating milchig all week fill you up?! or your just going for a kinda cheaper option here?!
“oomis, try doing that EVERY night. Some solution. 😉 “
Works for ME!!! 😉
Gourmet, B”H I inspired someone this week!! (Fettucine Alfredo is my favorite pasta, btw)
I also have a dinner problem to solve. My husband loves going out to eat for dinner! It gives me such a complex!!!!!!!!!
Jax, we aren’t big fleishig eaters either. We have milchig/parve more often, but my mother makes a BIG selection so between everything, you get your fill (not like there’s big boys to feed so it makes matters simpler!) I just dont think its as healthy cuz you’re bound to eating lots of cheesy, more fattening foods.
mepal: that’s interesting, ya for me it won’t work! the all milchig 9days for me really left me hungry for a 3rd and 4th dinner each night!
Really? I think boys are bigger eaters, generally.
I have a similar problem, since I’m vegetarian, my mother gets heartburn from spicy foods, and my brother doesn’t like vegetables. It seems like it’s impossible to cook a meal that we all like! Actually, what usually ends up happening is that whatever I cook satisfies two of us and the other one can at least tolerate it, and since it rotates like this, no one starves.
Another technique that I use is to cook two or three small “side dishes” instead of one big entree, so we can pick and choose.
Cooking always requires creativity. This is just another type of challenge.
Gourmet – can you give us a hint about what you and he shold/should not be eating?
Do you use “fake meat”? Eggs? Legumes? Are you going for high/low fat/protein/carb? Many dishes can be modified pretty easily by partially cooking them, taking some out and adding other ingredients to the rest, but the details really depend on the types of foods you are trying to add or avoid.
“My husband loves going out to eat for dinner! It gives me such a complex!!!!!!!!! “
Mrs. B., as long as he is going out to dinner with YOU, it’s not a problem! 😉
gourmet:
I know how hard it is I am diabetic and mustbe very careful, my husband is a stick who eats all the foods that I love to eat and can’t even taste. My kids of course perfer my husbands diet. I have been making myself my own food for a long time, and it’s hard and time consuming. but I got used to it (some what)
What legumes can your husband eat?
BTW, the steamed spinach/super cheesy lasagna problem is an easy one to solve. Cook the lasagna noodles (or not, if you use the no-cook kind); mix up the cheese, eggs, etc, using less cheese than DH (dear husband) would like; prepare two pans or just assemble as two parts in the same pan: for you, layer noodles, sauce, less cheesy mix and spinach (squeezed as dry as possible); for him, layer noodles, sauce, less cheesy mix plus the rest of the cheese.
In general, it’s easy to bulk up pasta dishes with veggies.
For quite a number of years, my husband and I were vegitarian (health reasons), in fact one year we were very strick macrobiotic. My children ate as they always did. I would cook one “normal” meal for the kids and one meal for me and my huband. We ususally ate some version of stir fried vegis and rice. My kids love pasta. It was a hastle cooking two meals, but I know that if I wouldn’t have, I would have been throwing out a lot of uneaten food. The good thing was that I was able to cook macrobiotic for Bikur Cholim when the need arose. 🙂
oomis1105, LOL, actaully he does but I dont mind cooking and I besides am more of a saver by nature than my husband so although I like going out for an occasion I find it a waste of money to go out to eat too often. But what can I do, just as some men need organic foods and some men need sugarfree food, my husband seems to need takeout food!!!!!!
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