January 19, 2011 8:55 pm at 8:55 pm #594320
My close friend blurts out words that are totally not “her” when she gets pushed too far.
She never,ever uses these words in regular conversation.
In fact,she speaks in a refined way…until pushed past the limit.
She is forever putting money in the pushka (when she slips) and really hates how she feels afterwards.
I personally NEVER heard her say anything “unprintable”,but her kids have.This pains her to no end.
What are some practical suggestions of “ok” words to use instead?January 19, 2011 9:23 pm at 9:23 pm #730773Avram in MDParticipant
I found that, when I became religious and wanted to train myself to not say certain words when shaken (e.g., jar dropped on foot, near accident on the road, etc.), it was not enough to resolve to refrain from saying the words. I had to resolve to not even THINK them when remaining quiet, since, when caught off guard, the word that first comes to mind slips right out of the mouth before I can stop it. One thing that helped me is that I picked a different, non-offensive phrase (e.g., “oh gosh!”, “yikes!”, “OUCH”), and consciously used it in similar but less sudden/stressful situations. Soon that became the word that I thought, and it became the word that popped out of my mouth.
Hope that helps!January 19, 2011 9:30 pm at 9:30 pm #730774
Will pass it on!:)January 19, 2011 10:20 pm at 10:20 pm #730776
I’m not sure if this helps but there’s a group called Bleep I think – run by a frum girl who encourages people not to use offensive language.January 19, 2011 10:27 pm at 10:27 pm #730777
Have her try this:
It really packs a wallop, when said with the right tone of voice. And everyone knows you mean businessJanuary 19, 2011 10:34 pm at 10:34 pm #730778
uh oh another mock name and with a subtitle too!!January 19, 2011 10:45 pm at 10:45 pm #730779wanderingchanaParticipant
Flibbedy-Floo!January 19, 2011 10:46 pm at 10:46 pm #730780
“another mock name and with a subtitle too”
No, this was intentional. Check the poppa=Mod80 and GS4 thread for the full story.
Gosh, I had no idea I was this policed!January 19, 2011 11:29 pm at 11:29 pm #730781
dunno-kidding or serious?January 20, 2011 3:59 am at 3:59 am #730782ItcheSrulikMember
My solution is not to say anything. If you use an innoffensive equivalent, it just makes the original more likely to slip out. Instead when I do somethng like hit my thumb with a hammer, I picture my reaction if the same thing had happened in a three stooges sketch. I would most likely laugh, so I do.January 20, 2011 4:18 am at 4:18 am #730783
Dead serious. I’m gonna see if I can find a link for you.January 20, 2011 4:19 am at 4:19 am #730784January 20, 2011 3:26 pm at 3:26 pm #730786
Just checked it–wow! An original unique website all started by a very young frum girl!
Dunno–you should change your name to DO KNOW…:)January 20, 2011 4:36 pm at 4:36 pm #730787
thanks for the explanation bpt, hey mods can i get a space between The and Goq i forgot to give my self one and keep the same pw please, thanksJanuary 20, 2011 4:42 pm at 4:42 pm #730788YW Moderator-80Member
you still sign in without the space thoughJanuary 20, 2011 4:49 pm at 4:49 pm #730789
ok ty much hooray for mods!!!January 20, 2011 5:08 pm at 5:08 pm #730790
Truth be told? I always read your name as “the Glock”
Says something about me, I guess.January 20, 2011 8:01 pm at 8:01 pm #730791
sorry bpt but i am not that caliber of a person, but i wont mock you for it becuase its not a hollow point, and i dont want to trigger a negative reaction from you, because u make me laugh u really barrell me over, and when i laugh i really am a sight.
take it away daasJanuary 21, 2011 12:08 am at 12:08 am #730792
can i please get a subtitle??January 21, 2011 3:05 am at 3:05 am #730793
How about Chayav-Boy?January 21, 2011 4:39 pm at 4:39 pm #730794
By the way,dunno,my friend loved it.And we picked out “sugar” and “schnitzel”!(Are you the founder?)January 21, 2011 4:43 pm at 4:43 pm #730795
try “bsiyata dishmaya”
thatll calm u downJanuary 21, 2011 5:04 pm at 5:04 pm #730796
very good,c.b.(“gut gezokt”)January 21, 2011 7:27 pm at 7:27 pm #730797
I can’t believe no one suggested “ad d’lo yoda”
And Goq, that was a great response!January 21, 2011 8:13 pm at 8:13 pm #730798
ty bpt have a good shabbosJanuary 21, 2011 8:17 pm at 8:17 pm #730799
hey mods thanks for the subtitle!!!!January 21, 2011 8:54 pm at 8:54 pm #730800YW Moderator-80Member
its been there since we first put the space in your name.
how about we change the title to “Mr. Unobservant”January 21, 2011 8:55 pm at 8:55 pm #730801mewhoParticipant
how about ding dong or yo yosJanuary 21, 2011 8:56 pm at 8:56 pm #730802
i always read it as the gog but apparently i was wrongJanuary 21, 2011 9:18 pm at 9:18 pm #730803real-briskerMember
mod 80 – NO! You got the right subtitle for The Go, he takka is “SPACED OUT” . How about a subtitle for me?January 23, 2011 12:55 am at 12:55 am #730804
Goq should have a more positive-sounding subtitle,no?January 23, 2011 2:57 am at 2:57 am #730805Smile E. FaceMember
sorry to interupt The Goq (with a space!) and everyone, but in response to the op, how about gashpugalach? or shrek, shrekalach, shrek and a half, or any other variation. or try I LOVE YOU HASHEM! 🙂January 23, 2011 4:06 am at 4:06 am #730806
Nope. Not the founder. I received it as an email a while back. Glad it was of help to you!January 23, 2011 5:51 am at 5:51 am #730807
My friend and I choose different midos to work on.
None of us wants to come back again as a fish or a turtle!January 23, 2011 6:52 am at 6:52 am #730808Smile E. FaceMember
what about as a watermelon? jk, hatzlacha! 🙂January 23, 2011 7:35 am at 7:35 am #730809
As a watermelon-maybe!January 23, 2011 1:38 pm at 1:38 pm #730810
Chas Veshalom mod 80 of course im frum! jk, ty watermelon and thank u too real brisker but i take no offense at the subtitle the mods know i like puns i love it!January 23, 2011 7:34 pm at 7:34 pm #730811real-briskerMember
the goq – Glad u liked my joke.January 23, 2011 7:42 pm at 7:42 pm #730812
What does Goq mean?
And who WAS LemonySnicket who said I look like his mother?
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