February 12, 2018 8:20 pm at 8:20 pm #1467482
Look at the Zohar Parshes Terumoh, unity creates sanctity. Hashem rests where there is sanctity. If someone talks in shul, he breaks up the unity and drives out Hashem.February 12, 2018 9:05 pm at 9:05 pm #1467532JosephParticipant
Hundreds of thousands of Jews were murdered during Tach V’Tat, the Tosfos Yom Tov says, as a result of the widespread talking in shul.February 12, 2018 9:06 pm at 9:06 pm #1467539
Look at the Zohar Parshes Terumoh, unity creates sanctity. Hashem rests where there is sanctity. If someone talks in shul, he breaks up the unity and drives out Hashem.
Not that I’m defending people who talk in shul (that’s one my pet peeves), but if *everyone* talks in shul, then aren’t they still in a state of unity?
The WolfFebruary 12, 2018 9:48 pm at 9:48 pm #1467547
No, because each will be talking about his own concerns.February 12, 2018 10:28 pm at 10:28 pm #1467567
If people are not concerned about the prayer of others when they are talking in shul, then I can assume that their talking is about themselves.February 12, 2018 10:28 pm at 10:28 pm #1467564
No, because each will be talking about his own concerns.
And if they’re all discussing the same topic?
The WolfFebruary 12, 2018 10:56 pm at 10:56 pm #1467573
What are the chances that their own concerns will be the same topic?February 13, 2018 10:57 am at 10:57 am #1467646
When Jews are concerned with other’s deficiencies as it says בורא נפשות רבות וחסרונן
by praying not only for ourselves but also for others, we create unity. But, when we only care for ourselves and not for others as it says when Yaakov Avinu saw the ladder in his dream ויקץ יעקב משנתו ויאמר says the Baal Haturim that the last letters add up to צבור following אכן יש ה במקום הזה behold Hashem rests in this place ואנכי לא ידעתי when we put aside the אנכי our self the ego as the Baal Shem Tov interprets אנכי עומד בין ה וביניכם the self the ego stands between us and Hashem we create disunity.February 13, 2018 10:57 am at 10:57 am #1467649👑RebYidd23Participant
People don’t talk just about their own concerns. They can even talk all about the same topic and all with the same point of view. It’s a very unifying activity that doesn’t belong in shul.February 13, 2018 10:57 am at 10:57 am #1467683lesschumrasParticipant
Joseph, are you cherry picking again? Rabbi Heller ( the Tosfos Yom Tov ) also believed in secular learning. He was well versed in secular science with a particular interrst in arithmatic, natural sciences and astronomy. He was also interested in philosophy and works by non Jews. So, if you accept his psak on the cause of the massacres, i assume you accept his views on secular learningFebruary 13, 2018 11:26 am at 11:26 am #1467792
Most Jews are davening, but some talk which creates disunity with those that are davening.February 13, 2018 12:32 pm at 12:32 pm #1467819
If everyone talks in shul, that unity should be broken up like the unity of the Dor Haflogoh.February 13, 2018 12:33 pm at 12:33 pm #1467822
I do not take issue with the approach to talking during davening as a disruption to the tzibbur, a descreation to the kedushas hamakom, etc. Sadly, the focus on these very real aspects of the problem of talking in shul has not been completely successful in stopping it.
I propose a different focus (not to eliminate the above mentioned ones). My perception is that the talkers are erring seriously in not davening. One needs to recognize that tefiloh betzibbur is a privilege, that we can have a minyan to beseech the Creator of the world to grant us His blessings. We are invited to this unique gift, to speak directly to Him three times a day. Why would anyone want to waste such a precious opportunity? The issue with the talkers is more than the talking – it is the not davening. If we truly recognized the invaluable gift of tefiloh, we would cherish every minute of it, and not replace it with the foolishness of schmoozing that we can just as easily have at another time and place.February 13, 2018 12:51 pm at 12:51 pm #1467877
Several shuls were destroyed by this serious aveira (Mishna Berura 124:27). Even learning quietly is prohibited (ibid s”k 17). The Tosafot Yom Tov blamed the Khmelnytsky massacres on this and wrote a “misheberach” for “מי ששומר את פיו ולשונו לא לדר בזמן התפילה”. It is also prohibited to talk during keriat haTorah (SA 146:1) and the Haftarah (ibid seif 3).February 13, 2018 12:51 pm at 12:51 pm #1467876
Bravo! The Little I Know, Beautiful. I applaud you. Don’t sell yourself short. What you are saying is gold. The Chidusheh Harim explains the curse to the snake as dust is everywhere, but Hashem said to him here is your food don’t bother me. We praise Hashem that we can praise Him. He does not push us aside.February 13, 2018 12:52 pm at 12:52 pm #1467840lesschumrasParticipant
The talking phenomena has always fascinated me. Lawyers would never dare walk into Federal Court 15 minutes late and shmuz with their buddies as they walk to their seat. Teachers would never allow students to wander the classroom shmoozing.
Others wouldn’t think of walking in late to a shiur and shmooz while the rav is giving the shiur.
Yet many of these same people have no problem walking in late to shul and start greeting people who are already davening. It cuts across the spectrum of yiddishkeit.
I think part of the problem is that most people do not have a good understanding of what the tfilos mean and why Chazal selected them. Each of the brachos in Shmoneh Esreh has a background and a reason as to why chazal selected it. In their haste to start teaching Gemorah, the yeshivas give the tfilos short shrift.
I think that people would talk less if they understood why they were in shulFebruary 13, 2018 1:20 pm at 1:20 pm #1467891
The Smak makes a kal vochamer from the Goyim’s behavior in their churches. There is an excuse that we feel at home not like guests.February 13, 2018 1:22 pm at 1:22 pm #1467900
We ask permission before praying by saying Hashem, please open up my lips that my mouth should be able to utter your praises. Because we might not be worthy of it.February 13, 2018 5:44 pm at 5:44 pm #1468751iacisrmmaParticipant
Avi K: I think your quote is slightly off. I think it is “פיו ולשונו לא לדבר בעית התפילה”February 13, 2018 7:03 pm at 7:03 pm #1468826
In contrast to a school, where discipline is imposed and made into a huge part of the curriculum (for another thread), and even the courtroom where there are rules that are enforced by court officers, the shul is a free for all. The expectation is that the person entering the shul is doing so with a level of self discipline that is appropriate for the ongoing conduct of the shul and its tefiloh activities. Unfortunately, the expected level of maturity for this is much less than we might hope for, and we get disappointed by many who use the shul as a social meeting place (which it should be, except before or after davening).
You also noted correctly that too many do not understand tefilos. It is still quite exceptional for a yeshiva to offer a regular class on tefiloh. For the most part, we count on the command of Lashon Hakodesh that was gained during yeshiva years to understand the translation of much of what we recite. But that does a poor job in helping us understand just what we are saying, and it completely misses our need to be emotionally involved with a heartfelt tefiloh experience when we have zero understanding. Teaching tefiloh is a challenge, as it is not academic or rote. It should be unnecessary to provide worksheets, homework, and tests. Rather we should be sharing the beauty of each tefiloh, how it expresses our praises to HKB”H, how it spells out our needs, and how to include the core of kavanah in each part of the davening. As long as we are preoccupied with the decorum of how and where to stand, etc., we are stuck in the chitzoniyus of the davening. It may be a valuable part of it, but distracts many from the core of it. And when this nucleus of the tefiloh is missing, engaging in davening is a chore that we seek to fulfill to check it off from our task list. In reality, it is nothing of the sort. We should be seeking the chance to daven all day, anticipating the opportunity. Yeshivos cannot do this using their tried and true methods of education. It requires a form of teaching that is emotional, not rote, and is experiential. I can note that I have begun to encounter yeshivos that have allowed academic time for teaching tefiloh, and I laud that baby step of progress. I hope it continues and accelerates into a pattern of frenzy in tefiloh that spreads everywhere. Our children need it desperately.February 13, 2018 7:44 pm at 7:44 pm #1468852DovidBTParticipant
Rather we should be sharing the beauty of each tefiloh, how it expresses our praises to HKB”H, how it spells out our needs, and how to include the core of kavanah in each part of the davening.
Personally, I’ve found Rabbi Heshy Kleinman’s books “Praying with Fire” (volumes 1 and 2) and “Praying with Meaning” very helpful.February 14, 2018 8:10 am at 8:10 am #1468914
Iacisrmma, he speaks not his mouth and tongue. You can see it on a website called Shulsigns. Do a search on “תוספות יום טוב”.
Little, actually the Mishna Berura says (124:27) that a shul police force should be established. The Kaf HaChaim adds (s”k 37) that the offenders should receive many punishments and be publicly shamedFebruary 14, 2018 8:17 am at 8:17 am #1468925
There is a Taz in Shulchon Aruch, Orech Chaim (55, 4) whose view is that whoever talks in shul cannot be counted as part of a minyan.February 14, 2018 8:33 am at 8:33 am #1468954
The Rambam’s view Hilchos Daios (6,8) is that by Ben Adam Lamokam, if one does not listen when admonished privately , can be ashamed publicly. The son of the Shlah follows this ruling when it comes to talking in shul.February 14, 2018 10:59 am at 10:59 am #1469033nishtdayngesheftParticipant
Iacisrmma is correct about the lashon. “Eis” means while, as in while davening is occurring. Zman mean the calendar time, so that would mean the time of day for davening.
The reference you provided supports Iacisrmma.February 14, 2018 11:00 am at 11:00 am #1469070👑RebYidd23Participant
I think people would stop talking in shul if they were given somewhere else to talk.February 14, 2018 12:26 pm at 12:26 pm #1469244
Nisht, I checked and you are right. I left out a letter. Is this the only nit you two picked or are there more?February 14, 2018 1:00 pm at 1:00 pm #1469291
The Zohar uses the expression whoever speaks in a shul about mundane matters.February 14, 2018 1:04 pm at 1:04 pm #1469330
Let’s examine the halachos you cited. If we are in a state of needing to release pressure on someone, as in pent up rage, and we find someone talking in shul, we should be free to empty our wrath on that fellow. Correct? Obviously not. Whatever path we choose to enforce the decorum of the shul, it is about achieving the result of the shul being a place that shines in its kedusha, without the chatter and such that detract from this. So our focus is on the result. The means of how to achieve this are simply suggestions of these various Gedolei Yisroel that were appropriate to their communities and experience. The Mechaber (Beis Yosef) states גוערין בו. If you review the commentaries, there are several ideas proposed, and despite several that repeat or quote from others, there are varying opinions. The bottom line is that one needs to focus on the result, not the process. The public shaming is not a mitzvah of its own. It is simply a means to the achievement of the proper kedusha in the shul environment. If that shaming stuff yields a different result, it loses its “mitzvah” completely. Shul police is a useful idea, and it has been implemented many times in the current era. The yelling and shaming has not accomplished much, and is more likely to drive someone away from davening there or altogether. I would wish that not be the case, but my wish does not change reality.
I am not someone who favors talking in shul, nor am I ignorant of the halachos. Ultimately, the best outcome is the more people that are truly involved in tefiloh in shul, the better. At this point in time, there is far more to gain with “Praying with Fire” and “Praying with Meaning” than all the admonishment and punishments. Keep your eye on the goal. The terrain changed.February 15, 2018 3:51 am at 3:51 am #1469652
Little, you are correct. Perhaps the shul board should consider fines (if legally enforceable) and denial of honors. I heard of one shul where each section had an official shussher – and the list was posted so that everyone knew. I would add people whose cell phones ring, and even more so those who run out to answer them. I had a thought his morning during davening that holes should be bored in their ears.February 15, 2018 8:07 am at 8:07 am #1469692
I have also seen the official shusher system. It was barely effective.
The cell phone issue is not relevant on Shabbos and Yom Tov. It is a huge problem, as the ringing is only a part of the problem. The answering, talking, running out, etc., are all disruptive to others. I choose to not have my phone with me when I go to shul. We have mini-lockers (with charging cables) where we can leave the phones while we daven. Just think how distracting the vibrating phone can be when one is trying to focus on davening.
Instead of boring holes in ears, how about a dab of super glue on the lips?February 15, 2018 9:43 am at 9:43 am #1469725
Little, I am in favor of the super glue solution.February 15, 2018 9:43 am at 9:43 am #1469734
It says תהילת ה ידבר פי ויברך שם קדשו לעולם ועד says the Chasan Sofer, David Hamelech asked Hashem that when people see me davening, they should gain enthusiasm to also daven forever. This might be a solution to encourage others also to daven with fervor.February 15, 2018 9:55 am at 9:55 am #1469748☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
how about a dab of super glue on the lips?
That’ll help them daven better.February 15, 2018 12:19 pm at 12:19 pm #1469946
The problem with my solution above is that if people are busy talking, they don’t see the others who are davening with fervor.December 1, 2019 10:14 am at 10:14 am #1806136☕️coffee addictParticipant
To the heilege wolf
How can they al be talking, what is the שליח צבור doing?December 5, 2019 8:47 pm at 8:47 pm #1808305
How can they al be talking, what is the שליח צבור doing?
He is talking too, is he not?
The WolfFebruary 14, 2021 10:29 am at 10:29 am #1947913
For Parashas Terumah let us renew our discussion.February 14, 2021 10:40 am at 10:40 am #1947921
I talk constantly throughout laining. No one in the shul seems to mind or complain.
The WolfFebruary 14, 2021 10:53 am at 10:53 am #1947925
Wolf, is it because they are all taking?February 14, 2021 10:53 am at 10:53 am #1947924
In our shul, they say the Misheberach of the Tosfas Yom Tov every shabbos. They are upset for being sidra maavir quietly, allowed by halacha, in the middle of leining.February 14, 2021 11:14 am at 11:14 am #1947933
Wolf, is it because they are all taking?
No. They’re usually silent.
The WolfFebruary 14, 2021 11:15 am at 11:15 am #1947935ujmParticipant
Wolf: Would they complain if you abruptly stopped talking before laining ended?February 14, 2021 11:15 am at 11:15 am #1947934
In our shul, they say the Misheberach of the Tosfas Yom Tov every shabbos.
My shul did that too, although they recently stopped it. I was actually very upset when they stopped it (despite the fact I talk during laining). Alas, my opinion (being worthless and stupid) was not asked when this change in practice was being considered.
The WolfFebruary 14, 2021 12:04 pm at 12:04 pm #1947951🍫Syag LchochmaParticipant
Not exactly sure why you get your kicks out of pretending leining is talkingFebruary 14, 2021 12:25 pm at 12:25 pm #1947953
pretending leining is talking
It is, is it not?
Perhaps you can more properly classify it as singing or chanting, but those are both subcategories of speech.
The WolfFebruary 14, 2021 12:34 pm at 12:34 pm #1947957CTLAWYERParticipant
Yesterday was my first time in shul since last March. The maximum capacity has been lifted by the state, many of the older members (including me) have had our first Covid-19 shot, so we ventured back,
When it came time for the Rav’s drasha, he announced, that non of us came to hear him, we should take the 15 minutes to talk and catch up with each other.
After davening, the Rav made kiddush on the bimah and everyone left to walk home. there was no shul kiddush in the vestry for health reasons,
It was so nice to see many I haven’t seen for almost 11 months.
That said, I’ll be making Purim at home with the familyFebruary 14, 2021 1:20 pm at 1:20 pm #1947959commonsaychelParticipant
@CT Lawyer, I am proud to say I did not miss a minyan since Covid, In the beginning I davened outdoors then as things abated in May I went indoors, regardless of where I was I followed that particular shuls rules, this past week I was out of state and the shul I daven in had three rules, 1, masks must be worn in the shul [kiddish was outdoors with no masks], 2, Cell phones must be turned off in the shul [weekdays of course, zero tolerance for chillul shabbos] 3, absolutely no talking during davening, the sign in shul said that chazen will stop davening until the talking stops.February 14, 2021 7:08 pm at 7:08 pm #1948092Always_Ask_QuestionsParticipant
Nothing stops talking better than having masks on and freezing temperature! I don’t even miss having seforim around as the kahal is definitely catching up with me in speed with every degree down…so, maybe this is one of the ways for our teshuva ….
I notice also people above bragging about visiting shuls while traveling. Could you please limit your rich religiosity for just a little?! The rule about travel is on the books in many schools and minyanim (probably the ones you visited) but is not enforced in many places.
Almost all cases in the Jewish community I know about are brought by travelers – to somewhere or just after return. Many of worldwide outbreaks are tied to vacations or holidays. Variants are also moving this way.February 14, 2021 8:03 pm at 8:03 pm #1948119commonsaychelParticipant
@always ask questions, your opinion and $2.75 get you on the subway [if your brave enough]
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