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I thought if many places to post this, however I felt this would be read by many more if posted here. So here goes, with not too many details. Helping in the kitchen the second days and keeping everyone’s temper down is quite a stressful time along with siblings whom don’t always understand what they’re doing is wrong even though it may seem clear cut to others. Anyways, I got really frustrated with someone and said through clenched teeth “I am going to punch you.” (those were the exact words) I felt terrible for saying that, even though they knew I would never do it and I didn’t. Later that day, while explaining something to a one of the siblings (as mentioned above), they got quite upset as the truth sometimes hurts-I got punched in the face or more accurately my left side. I am B”H okay. My glasses got bent out of shape, minor scratches and had swelling for awhile. Within a few hours we were chatting animatedly as if nothing had ever happened. The unspoken apology was known to both of us and was mutual. This realization hit me hard as I try to be very careful as to what I say.
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I wonder if kabbalah says anything on this matter…
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I don’t know what Kabbalah says about it but I have heard Mussar about controlling anger and not talking like one is angry, especially not so angry as to make physical threats, not even in the most ‘lighthearted’ manner.
wanttohelpandask. I really appreciate that you forgave me instantly, as I did not want to offend you. I apologize for my reaction.
The above incident is not funny at all. I just reacted to the matter-of-fact way in which you wrote it. And I did so without thinking, which I admit was silly.
Yes, these past few weeks have been really intense and we should all try to hold onto the Kedusha and be inspired by the little messages that we encounter daily.
I strongly believe that it’s necessary to be careful in our speech especially during tense moments. I myself am also working on this currently.
In addition, I think it’s very impressive that you took a lesson from this and learnt something important. Most kids would get really upset and continue with physical threats and arguments and you, on the other hand, saw the message so clearly. I think you’re very mature and I really admire you.
one of my siblings, quite a number of years ago, decided to be a “macher” and take out the air conditioning unit. being quite young, (and quite stupid!) she placed the unit on the window seat. early the next morning in my morning rush, i needed something from that area. while getting the item, the entire unit came crashing down on my foot! i have a scar til today because of this accident. so when later that day that sibling told me “you know, i took out the air conditioning” i was so tempted to really take it out on her, but instead i answered, “yea, i know, i felt it in my bones! “
moral: humor always works in almost every situation!
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