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    I was told by a shadchan/rav that most guys decide within 60

    Seconds of meeting a girl whether or not they like them;

    If a large percentage of the time the guy will decide almost instantly

    That he doesn’t like her, why go through with the entire date? Obviously

    It would be very disrespectful to just meet her on a date for a minute and then

    Walk away, but there has to be some sort of way where we don’t make

    Both sides waste hours of their time for nothing??


    Because it is not true.


    Because the women will be insulted and embarressed if the guy takes a look, says “you’re ugly”, and walks out.

    That’s why.


    don’t know who “most guys” are but from my experience as a guy tells me that even if they have a bad first impression if the first date goes well they will change their minds

    ☕ DaasYochid ☕

    there has to be some sort of way

    The CR already came out against pictures.

    Popa is right, of course, and besides the ma’alah of acting like a mentch, there’s a side benefit of continuing the date in a normal manner; many a successful shidduch has come about because he (or she) reconsidered their first impression.


    Why isn’t speed dating more widely used?


    If looks mean so much to u, u can technically go to their shul and ask someone to point them out, or stalk them in some other area you know they frequent. And if u wanna make small talk with them, set up a kosher bagel stand in their college and wait for them to come buy one.


    Women do the same thing ive been on many dates that were over within 60 seconds.


    Agreed with the Goq. Women do the same thing. And as bad as it is when we realize it, it would be worse if they turned around and went back up the stairs calling “forget it” over their shoulder.


    Unfortunately, their marriages last just as long.

    So smart, yet so stupid.

    Find a mate who is a yiras shamayim and look no further. You will have a good marriage.


    cherrybim, a 60-second marriage? I can image it: “Ladies and Gentlemen, for the very last time, Mr. and Mrs. Shmerel Goldbergstein.”


    It builds character if a man has sat through long, boring dates and survived them. It also helps a man appreciate his wife if he chose her for a reason.


    I had a rebbe who told me that unless you going to vomit when you see her you should still go out with her another time lol.


    I vomited ON her. so she should say no

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