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March 23, 2011 4:05 am at 4:05 am #595846
Eclipse- I wasnt totally kidding…?
Can all who care to join this group limit ur shares to touchy subjects so we can keep the “nicness” on other threads…March 23, 2011 4:07 am at 4:07 am #752818
lol! Okay, you go first.March 23, 2011 4:41 am at 4:41 am #752819
Ok, I knew this was gonna come 🙂
Btw- 2021- I was wondering how long you were married (you just sound like a young woman). If it’s private, skip it!March 23, 2011 4:57 am at 4:57 am #752820
2 years. N I am. Actually I feel kinda funny saying “woman”..March 23, 2011 5:07 am at 5:07 am #752821ZeesKiteParticipant
OK, let’s keep this real nasty. Take me for instance. When I google search for Zeeskite, it says “Looking for MeesKite?” They know me through and through! (if they only knew what Mommy does!!)March 23, 2011 5:14 am at 5:14 am #752822
ZK- Whatdya meen “MeesKite” ?March 23, 2011 5:22 am at 5:22 am #752823ZeesKiteParticipant
Since this isn’t a real thread I’ll go out a limb and dirty my keyboard. Mees means disgusting, Zees means sweet. I generally try to keep away from powerful negative vocabulary. It’s not conducive to proper attitude.March 23, 2011 5:27 am at 5:27 am #752824
good ideaMarch 23, 2011 5:43 am at 5:43 am #752825always hereParticipant
s2021~ meeskite means ugly or funny-looking in Yiddish.
when my <now 29 1/2 y.o.> daughter was an infant, I used to privately, affectionately call her my “zeeskite-meeskite’ –> I thought I was calling her my sweetie-cutie-mousey!! then I learned that I was actually calling my precious babe-a-la ‘sweet & ugly/funny looking’!!! :-O
I continued calling her that for a very short while thereafter, figuring: she’s sweet as anything ka’h, does have a little biggish nose that her face needed to grow into, & that it would be a good fooler/foiler against the ayin hora.
I dunno if this is coming out comprehensibly…I guess you just had to be there!March 23, 2011 7:03 pm at 7:03 pm #752826hanibParticipant
always here: lol!March 23, 2011 11:28 pm at 11:28 pm #752827
Okay s2021, took you up on ur offer! Here goes: It absolutely grates on my nerves when ppl defend the poor lil guy who just happens to be the guilty party. It irks me! Do they deserve our RESPECT because they’re CRUEL???? <end rant>March 24, 2011 12:07 am at 12:07 am #752828
:). I know wat u meeeean!! Tot irks me too. Iv been experiencing alot of that n its so frustrating, but If I try to say something its like.. U dont think its sad?? Whats wrong with u? Ur so bitter..
Hellooo!! Let his mother or his psychologist give him the luv- I dont need my relatives to also!! Show some loyalty!
<end rant>March 24, 2011 12:19 am at 12:19 am #752829
s2021: Why? Everyone on “your side” has to hate him now? No one is allowed to emphasize with him?March 24, 2011 1:17 am at 1:17 am #752830
Yes Grandma. All my relatives should hate the guy that abused me.March 24, 2011 1:27 am at 1:27 am #752831
How did he abuse you? Not insinuating he didn’t, but a lot of people cry wolf.March 24, 2011 1:30 am at 1:30 am #752832truth be toldMember
Now we get to delicious juicy parts…March 24, 2011 1:41 am at 1:41 am #752834truth be toldMember
Hey, this is supposed to be a support group thread, not a set-you-straight thread. As long as identities are protected, I should let it beMarch 24, 2011 3:35 am at 3:35 am #752836
I know u did. If I didnt say it explicitly theres probly a reason why..
Help observanteen I need to punch someone! I just heard my cousin who I grew up with and played house with is good friends with my ex and has him over for supper all the time and they chill together every day.. Im so hurt!!!! I know it might not be so easy to distance urself from a friend, n hes a very non confrontational typa guy but CUM ON!! Hes like almost my big brother-chillin with the guy who abused me!! And his wife who I thought I liked serving him meatballs and spaghetti.. 🙁 🙁March 24, 2011 3:51 am at 3:51 am #752838
Anyone have a shovel??March 24, 2011 3:58 am at 3:58 am #752840
but that too!
What didn’t he buy you that you considered abuse?March 24, 2011 4:01 am at 4:01 am #752841
Grandma say oops and quiet downMarch 24, 2011 4:03 am at 4:03 am #752842
“I just heard my cousin who I grew up with and played house with is good friends with my ex and has him over for supper all the time and they chill together every day.. Im so hurt!!!!”
Sorry to hear about your mistreatment. I’m actually envious about your relatives. Mine are the cause of my divorce. However you feel towards them -quadruple it -the way I feel towards mine.March 24, 2011 4:04 am at 4:04 am #752843
Joseph – Congrats -a new posting name. What’s wrong with just using Yoseph or Yussie?March 24, 2011 4:05 am at 4:05 am #752844
Howd that happen??March 24, 2011 4:07 am at 4:07 am #752845
and Grandma- dont come backMarch 24, 2011 4:09 am at 4:09 am #752846
S2021- you’re saying he abused YOU. That doesn’t mean he gives a bad impression to outside people. He might actually be a great friend to others. Just helping you understand why people don’t realize that he’s a bad person.
So don’t be upset at your cousin.
(I have no idea if he really is a good or bad person, but I can definitely understand why he may look worse in your eyes and others might still like him.)March 24, 2011 4:14 am at 4:14 am #752847
A long story. It took years. Almost as long as you are alive.March 24, 2011 4:21 am at 4:21 am #752849
health- how do u know how old I am?March 24, 2011 4:22 am at 4:22 am #752850
IM SO MAD
Can someone try to insult me so I can KILL them please??March 24, 2011 4:23 am at 4:23 am #752851
2021- I didn’t think you’ll buy it! But that’s the fact! People don’t know the whole story and only see the way the hub/wife acts in public.March 24, 2011 4:26 am at 4:26 am #752852
Hey s2021, observe to the rescue! OMG!!! I’m sure you’re terribly hurt. I feel for you. Really I do. Oh, I understand you a lil toooo well. (Grandmaster please DON’T ask me WHY) I think ur friend isn’t aware of his true personality. In most cases, the abuser is the sweetest guy to strangers or friends. Just keep in mind that he can’t hide from Hashem AND HE WILL PAY A HEFTY PRICE!!! Perhaps in this world but definitely in the next. Daven that he do teshuva. I find it theraputic. Keep strong!!! Hatzlacha Rabba!March 24, 2011 4:28 am at 4:28 am #752853
Would you forgive him if he did tshuva?March 24, 2011 4:28 am at 4:28 am #752854
O I buy it all right. Understand completely. But the “fact” is not supportive. And this is a support group. So go join Grandma.
Sorry cookie, I just need to be a lil mean right now. U can cum back when u have something nice to say.March 24, 2011 4:28 am at 4:28 am #752855🍫Syag LchochmaParticipant
abusers are often charmers. When they’re too good to be true . . .watch out!March 24, 2011 4:30 am at 4:30 am #752856
🙂 🙂 Thank u Observan!!!
Cookie: What she said is called supportive. Or nice. Or smart.March 24, 2011 4:32 am at 4:32 am #752857
Sorry 2021- I don’t wanna get you angry! I’m just trying to bring out Syag’s words exactly: some abusive husbands may be good to their friends, and therefore, the outside world might not understand you.
Now back to the ex bashing!March 24, 2011 4:33 am at 4:33 am #752858
Sure thing! I just came home from a simcha, so sorry I was a lil late. Oh, and if ur in the mood to kill… Well, there are a bunch of terrorists in Gitmo…:))March 24, 2011 4:35 am at 4:35 am #752859🍫Syag LchochmaParticipant
I’m pretty sure smartcookie was trying to tell you that your cousin would never want to hurt you, that he is just suffering from blatant ignorance, as do most people when they know abusers in platonic relationships.
(**details embellished for the sake of support**)
Go eat some chocolate, you’ll feel better (put it on my tab)March 24, 2011 4:35 am at 4:35 am #752860
sok cookie, ur not causing the anger, Im just giving in to it a lil tonight. And trust me, dont u think the ppl whov lived with abusers know how they work? I think manipulative is a better word for charming..March 24, 2011 4:36 am at 4:36 am #752861
” how do u know how old I am?”
I’m guessing -s2021 -stands for somewhere around 20 or 21! (:@March 24, 2011 4:36 am at 4:36 am #752862
Observan- Let Me At Em!!!March 24, 2011 4:43 am at 4:43 am #752863
Cookie: What she said is called supportive. Or nice. Or smart.
So 2021- you’re not really looking for support. You’re just looking for more and more people to talk against your ex-hub, even though they never met him.
Sorry, I can’t do that. And I don’t think it’s right to make others do it when nobody can really know what went on in your home.March 24, 2011 4:52 am at 4:52 am #752864
I hereby open the gates for you…. Here you go! Ok, who’d you kill? Send em my regards!:)) BTW feeling any better??March 24, 2011 4:53 am at 4:53 am #752865
Thanks Syag!March 24, 2011 4:55 am at 4:55 am #752866
Syag- 🙂 Thank you!
Cookie- WOW. I take back my sorry.March 24, 2011 4:56 am at 4:56 am #752867
MODS STOP MODERATING PLEASE! You’re not letting me go to sleep with all this noise here.
I can block your account until tomorrow if that will help.March 24, 2011 4:58 am at 4:58 am #752868
lol!March 24, 2011 4:59 am at 4:59 am #752869
Nope, I’ll learn self control right now!
G’night 2021. Let’s stay friends although you don’t like my posts. I’ll daven for you!March 24, 2011 5:06 am at 5:06 am #752870
cookie, thanx I like to be friends with ppl who r supportive when asked 4 it, who dont tell me what Im thinking, and who dont make light of abuse or abusers. Think about it. And Ill daven 4 u too!March 24, 2011 5:09 am at 5:09 am #752871
Health- which one do u think it is??
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