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  • #595846
    s2021
    Member

    Eclipse- I wasnt totally kidding…?

    Can all who care to join this group limit ur shares to touchy subjects so we can keep the “nicness” on other threads…

    #752818
    observanteen
    Member

    lol! Okay, you go first.

    #752819
    smartcookie
    Member

    Ok, I knew this was gonna come 🙂

    Btw- 2021- I was wondering how long you were married (you just sound like a young woman). If it’s private, skip it!

    #752820
    s2021
    Member

    2 years. N I am. Actually I feel kinda funny saying “woman”..

    #752821
    ZeesKite
    Participant

    OK, let’s keep this real nasty. Take me for instance. When I google search for Zeeskite, it says “Looking for MeesKite?” They know me through and through! (if they only knew what Mommy does!!)

    #752822
    s2021
    Member

    ZK- Whatdya meen “MeesKite” ?

    #752823
    ZeesKite
    Participant

    Since this isn’t a real thread I’ll go out a limb and dirty my keyboard. Mees means disgusting, Zees means sweet. I generally try to keep away from powerful negative vocabulary. It’s not conducive to proper attitude.

    #752824
    s2021
    Member

    good idea

    #752825
    always here
    Participant

    s2021~ meeskite means ugly or funny-looking in Yiddish.

    when my <now 29 1/2 y.o.> daughter was an infant, I used to privately, affectionately call her my “zeeskite-meeskite’ –> I thought I was calling her my sweetie-cutie-mousey!! then I learned that I was actually calling my precious babe-a-la ‘sweet & ugly/funny looking’!!! :-O

    I continued calling her that for a very short while thereafter, figuring: she’s sweet as anything ka’h, does have a little biggish nose that her face needed to grow into, & that it would be a good fooler/foiler against the ayin hora.

    I dunno if this is coming out comprehensibly…I guess you just had to be there!

    #752826
    hanib
    Participant

    always here: lol!

    #752827
    observanteen
    Member

    Okay s2021, took you up on ur offer! Here goes: It absolutely grates on my nerves when ppl defend the poor lil guy who just happens to be the guilty party. It irks me! Do they deserve our RESPECT because they’re CRUEL???? <end rant>

    #752828
    s2021
    Member

    :). I know wat u meeeean!! Tot irks me too. Iv been experiencing alot of that n its so frustrating, but If I try to say something its like.. U dont think its sad?? Whats wrong with u? Ur so bitter..

    Hellooo!! Let his mother or his psychologist give him the luv- I dont need my relatives to also!! Show some loyalty!

    <end rant>

    #752829
    Grandmaster
    Member

    s2021: Why? Everyone on “your side” has to hate him now? No one is allowed to emphasize with him?

    #752830
    s2021
    Member

    Yes Grandma. All my relatives should hate the guy that abused me.

    #752831
    Health
    Participant

    How did he abuse you? Not insinuating he didn’t, but a lot of people cry wolf.

    #752832

    Now we get to delicious juicy parts…

    #752834

    Hey, this is supposed to be a support group thread, not a set-you-straight thread. As long as identities are protected, I should let it be

    #752836
    s2021
    Member

    I know u did. If I didnt say it explicitly theres probly a reason why..

    Help observanteen I need to punch someone! I just heard my cousin who I grew up with and played house with is good friends with my ex and has him over for supper all the time and they chill together every day.. Im so hurt!!!! I know it might not be so easy to distance urself from a friend, n hes a very non confrontational typa guy but CUM ON!! Hes like almost my big brother-chillin with the guy who abused me!! And his wife who I thought I liked serving him meatballs and spaghetti.. 🙁 🙁

    #752838
    s2021
    Member

    Anyone have a shovel??

    #752840
    Grandmaster
    Member

    but that too!

    What didn’t he buy you that you considered abuse?

    #752841
    s2021
    Member

    Grandma say oops and quiet down

    #752842
    Health
    Participant

    “I just heard my cousin who I grew up with and played house with is good friends with my ex and has him over for supper all the time and they chill together every day.. Im so hurt!!!!”

    Sorry to hear about your mistreatment. I’m actually envious about your relatives. Mine are the cause of my divorce. However you feel towards them -quadruple it -the way I feel towards mine.

    #752843
    Health
    Participant

    Joseph – Congrats -a new posting name. What’s wrong with just using Yoseph or Yussie?

    #752844
    s2021
    Member

    Howd that happen??

    #752845
    s2021
    Member

    and Grandma- dont come back

    #752846
    smartcookie
    Member

    S2021- you’re saying he abused YOU. That doesn’t mean he gives a bad impression to outside people. He might actually be a great friend to others. Just helping you understand why people don’t realize that he’s a bad person.

    So don’t be upset at your cousin.

    (I have no idea if he really is a good or bad person, but I can definitely understand why he may look worse in your eyes and others might still like him.)

    #752847
    Health
    Participant

    A long story. It took years. Almost as long as you are alive.

    #752849
    s2021
    Member

    health- how do u know how old I am?

    #752850
    s2021
    Member

    IM SO MAD

    Can someone try to insult me so I can KILL them please??

    #752851
    smartcookie
    Member

    2021- I didn’t think you’ll buy it! But that’s the fact! People don’t know the whole story and only see the way the hub/wife acts in public.

    #752852
    observanteen
    Member

    Hey s2021, observe to the rescue! OMG!!! I’m sure you’re terribly hurt. I feel for you. Really I do. Oh, I understand you a lil toooo well. (Grandmaster please DON’T ask me WHY) I think ur friend isn’t aware of his true personality. In most cases, the abuser is the sweetest guy to strangers or friends. Just keep in mind that he can’t hide from Hashem AND HE WILL PAY A HEFTY PRICE!!! Perhaps in this world but definitely in the next. Daven that he do teshuva. I find it theraputic. Keep strong!!! Hatzlacha Rabba!

    #752853
    Grandmaster
    Member

    Would you forgive him if he did tshuva?

    #752854
    s2021
    Member

    O I buy it all right. Understand completely. But the “fact” is not supportive. And this is a support group. So go join Grandma.

    Sorry cookie, I just need to be a lil mean right now. U can cum back when u have something nice to say.

    #752855
    🍫Syag Lchochma
    Participant

    abusers are often charmers. When they’re too good to be true . . .watch out!

    #752856
    s2021
    Member

    🙂 🙂 Thank u Observan!!!

    Cookie: What she said is called supportive. Or nice. Or smart.

    #752857
    smartcookie
    Member

    Sorry 2021- I don’t wanna get you angry! I’m just trying to bring out Syag’s words exactly: some abusive husbands may be good to their friends, and therefore, the outside world might not understand you.

    Now back to the ex bashing!

    #752858
    observanteen
    Member

    Sure thing! I just came home from a simcha, so sorry I was a lil late. Oh, and if ur in the mood to kill… Well, there are a bunch of terrorists in Gitmo…:))

    #752859
    🍫Syag Lchochma
    Participant

    I’m pretty sure smartcookie was trying to tell you that your cousin would never want to hurt you, that he is just suffering from blatant ignorance, as do most people when they know abusers in platonic relationships.

    (**details embellished for the sake of support**)

    Go eat some chocolate, you’ll feel better (put it on my tab)

    #752860
    s2021
    Member

    sok cookie, ur not causing the anger, Im just giving in to it a lil tonight. And trust me, dont u think the ppl whov lived with abusers know how they work? I think manipulative is a better word for charming..

    #752861
    Health
    Participant

    ” how do u know how old I am?”

    I’m guessing -s2021 -stands for somewhere around 20 or 21! (:@

    #752862
    s2021
    Member

    Observan- Let Me At Em!!!

    #752863
    smartcookie
    Member

    Cookie: What she said is called supportive. Or nice. Or smart.

    So 2021- you’re not really looking for support. You’re just looking for more and more people to talk against your ex-hub, even though they never met him.

    Sorry, I can’t do that. And I don’t think it’s right to make others do it when nobody can really know what went on in your home.

    #752864
    observanteen
    Member

    I hereby open the gates for you…. Here you go! Ok, who’d you kill? Send em my regards!:)) BTW feeling any better??

    #752865
    smartcookie
    Member

    Thanks Syag!

    #752866
    s2021
    Member

    Syag- 🙂 Thank you!

    Cookie- WOW. I take back my sorry.

    #752867
    smartcookie
    Member

    MODS STOP MODERATING PLEASE! You’re not letting me go to sleep with all this noise here.

    I can block your account until tomorrow if that will help.

    #752868
    observanteen
    Member

    lol!

    #752869
    smartcookie
    Member

    Nope, I’ll learn self control right now!

    G’night 2021. Let’s stay friends although you don’t like my posts. I’ll daven for you!

    #752870
    s2021
    Member

    cookie, thanx I like to be friends with ppl who r supportive when asked 4 it, who dont tell me what Im thinking, and who dont make light of abuse or abusers. Think about it. And Ill daven 4 u too!

    #752871
    s2021
    Member

    Health- which one do u think it is??

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