February 24, 2017 9:12 pm at 9:12 pm #619323rebshidduchParticipant
What color is it okay to get? Red is definitely not tznius. What colors are considered tznius?February 24, 2017 9:21 pm at 9:21 pm #1219344bmyerParticipant
bright yellowFebruary 26, 2017 4:55 am at 4:55 am #1219345MenoParticipant
Maybe you’ll find your answer in this thread:February 26, 2017 6:08 am at 6:08 am #1219346the_shverMember
in my family were makpid to not use any color, just clear, but i dont think everyone is that machmir
and bmyer: when people ask serious questions, dont be sarcasticFebruary 26, 2017 6:35 am at 6:35 am #1219347WinnieThePoohParticipantFebruary 26, 2017 2:34 pm at 2:34 pm #1219348
Yes WinnieThePooh’s thread link for a nail polish color discussion.
Again this one:
I could be wrong but I think even commonly-recognized tznius nail polish colors may not be tznius in some communities.
Some tznius minhagim are community-specific so it’s a question that depends on where you live in addition to further factors.
Please ask your LOR for more info.February 26, 2017 2:43 pm at 2:43 pm #1219349
Nail polish originated in China, and dates back to 3000 BC … red and black eventually replaced these metallic colors as royal favorites.
In Egypt, the lower classes wore pale colors, whereas high society painted their nails a reddish brown, with henna. It was also known that mummified pharaohs would have their nails painted by henna.
Maybe that’s another reason why we don’t wear red or black, since they’re associated with avodah zara?February 26, 2017 3:44 pm at 3:44 pm #1219350Lilmod UlelamaidParticipant
Tznius, to answer your question seriously, it’s not something that has a precise answer. It depends on the standards of the community as well as where the person in question is holding.
No one here can tell you what color nail polish to wear for several reasons: 1. It has to do with the shade, and not just the color, and we can’t see your choices. 2. We don’t even know what colors you are considering. 3. We don’t know what’s considered acceptable in your community. 4. It is an individual question.
I think this is something you have to decide for yourself.
I would recommend you think about the following:
1. When I wear ______- colored nail polish, what message does it send about me? Is this the message I want to send or not?
2. What do others in my community wear/not wear?
3. What do the people whom I admire and want to be like do?
4. Will I be more or less likely to be set up with the kinds of boys I want to be set up with?
5. Will the kinds of boys I don’t want to marry be more likely to talk to me and want to go out with me?February 26, 2017 11:15 pm at 11:15 pm #1219352👑RebYidd23Participant
The kind of boys you don’t want to marry will be more likely to want to talk to you/go out with you if you don’t roll in garbage.February 27, 2017 12:25 am at 12:25 am #1219353bmyerParticipant
LU: I agree (that was all included in my answer)
shver: that was a very serious answer if you read it right…February 27, 2017 3:06 am at 3:06 am #1219354
What guys want a girl who rolled around in garbage?
What if it was perfume factory garbage?February 27, 2017 3:20 am at 3:20 am #1219355rebshidduchParticipant
Lilmod, I like your list. b’h I talked to some shadchanim tonight and will be meeting a bunch on Sunday iyh and now the guy must leave me alone. Do you think he will when he finds out I am dating a boy who wants to learn full time?February 27, 2017 10:31 pm at 10:31 pm #1219356
Have you told your teacher or any other adult that he is bothering you yet?February 27, 2017 10:41 pm at 10:41 pm #1219357FuturePOTUSParticipant
“4. Will I be more or less likely to be set up with the kinds of boys I want to be set up with?
5. Will the kinds of boys I don’t want to marry be more likely to talk to me and want to go out with me?”
Lilmod Ulelamaid: Forgive my lack of knowledge about how the shidduch system works, but why should a girl change her lifestyle because of how it could affect her prospects? I don’t see why she shouldn’t just be herself, and thereby find a guy who’s a better fit for who she really is, not who she pretends to be, that way.February 28, 2017 12:09 am at 12:09 am #1219358
I think LU is asking her to consider who and where she wants to be in the future.
Her choices today may influence that.February 28, 2017 1:02 am at 1:02 am #1219359Lilmod UlelamaidParticipant
Thanks for explaining that so well, Lightbrite.
Future Potus: My answer to Reb Shidduch was to a large extent tailor-made to RebShidduch based on what I know about her from other threads.
Therefore, it might not necessarily apply to everyone. BUT at the same time, as a general rule, people do have to consider how they come across and the message they project with their clothing and styles, etc. Often girls are not aware of the image they project and it may not be the image they wish to project.
To some extent, that is what dressing tzniusly is about. What message are you projecting? That can be what makes something untznius. And girls are often unaware.
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