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To the opening poster: How tall are you, your sons and your grandsons?
@SQUARE ROOT, want to get married? stop focusing how bad the system is and maybe you will find your prospects to be better, no one likes a whiner..
as reported in YWN:
Rabbanim And Roshei Yeshiva Gather In Far Rockaway As Plan To Solve Shidduch Crisis Gains SteamNow the crises is solved!
SQRT, was it the same female? single then, widowed now, back in shidduchim?
in 1925 the IQ level was greater than it was in 2025, they did not have people doing random copy and paste
common, you are not right. IQ was growing ~ 30 points in 20th century, about 3-5 points every decade. From about 1995-2000, IQ seems to be declining 2-3 points per decade. I don’t think chatGPT will change the trend, it will just make it less important whether your IQ is 80 or 120 – you’ll write a similar report using chatGPT. Below 80 and you won’t use chatgpt and above 120, you’ll write better than chatgpt, at least for now.
No the reason fat girls and short boys don’t stand a chance cuz we don’t let people meet naturally. Controlling how people meet each other is just pathetic. We live in a real world. And with the right values a person can meet whoever they want to marry on their own. Who makes shidduchjn not us. G-d does. This insane control creates a society hat’s so stuck in its box there’s no natural communal life that goes on just each person stuck in their own little is located world. Adults need to meet adults to create communal life. Even if your not marrying someone. This resume and bs gatts go..can we bring back biblical marriages where people just find someone they like and that’s it. Instead of this horrid FBI investigations and lack of respect for people. Disgusting it’s so sad what we have come to and yet we don’t care. Only care how much we control things. What’s that tu baav thing they did in biblical times? Time to bring that back. Let the men and the woman choose their own partners like nature intended. This entire system is bs
Common saychel stop being so stuck up in your cushy marriage that your parents put you in. So proud you walked in blindly like a child cuz you couldn’t make your own choices. Don’t make fun of someone who can’t stand the system and has no way to find someone without being humiliated.
Avirah dearah. woman don’t stay pretty throughout marriage due to childbirth and blah blah. If someone is looking for a perfect wife he’s gonna have to find a second one quick after she has the first child
Cs and then she got married and realized that attraction is way more important then personality. I bet a thousand dollars slot of these girls looking for “learning” boys find the “perfect” match on paper and then realize that you also need comparability and attraction. How many people stuck in marriages with spouses they married but aren’t attached to. I see mismatches everywhere
none > We live in a real world.
I hear the real world is catching up with us. (again, I hear) that girls ourdays do not consider it polite to be asked their phone number. Instead, they prefer to get a social media handle so that they can do investigation first. Things that are wrong with the resume system: (1) it emphasizes easily measurable quality – from height to yeshiva name, encouraging people to spend their life enhancing their resumes, (2) they mostly go through shadchanim who also do quick match based on those parameters and value speed – friends and family should be more proactive , sending resumes out in circles around them.
*compatability
Always ask questions what about word of mouth and faith oh and dating.
I want to say one thing about weight loss everyone is different and every person has value. I wonder if people who are overweight are a lot kinder and more accepting of others cuz they had to learn to get through all the social villifications and accept themselves also every single person deserves to get married as they are no offense to find someone who cares about them. Not just how they present themselves. ARelationship needs shared values compatibility. And respect to work. It’s really not that complicated. If two people meet and love each other’s company…I mean it’s not that complicated.
We live in such a presentation obsessed society you can’t breathe here. Like everyone relax.
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