June 22, 2011 9:06 pm at 9:06 pm #597568Huyde LaHashemMember
i just recieved an email from someone i dont know and of opposite gender. only a few ppl know my email. shud i answer?June 23, 2011 1:54 am at 1:54 am #779631oomisParticipant
That’s what the delete button is for. Good rule of thumb – NEVER open an e-mail from unknown sources. It could be a virus.June 23, 2011 2:02 am at 2:02 am #779632yid.periodMember
it depends on who you are and whether there is a good reason somebody might be trying to contact you for a legitimate purposeJune 23, 2011 2:33 am at 2:33 am #779633popa_bar_abbaParticipant
Was it addressed to you, or was it a mistake?June 23, 2011 4:03 am at 4:03 am #779634StuffedCabbageParticipant
i would write back please dont email me if your dont know me and then block the persons address…..June 23, 2011 4:38 am at 4:38 am #779635real-briskerMember
What was the content? anything you recognize? If no DELETEJune 23, 2011 4:41 am at 4:41 am #779636brooklyn2011Participant
call shomrim!June 23, 2011 5:08 am at 5:08 am #779637gefenParticipant
NEVER EVER OPEN ANY LINKS FROM SOMEONE YOU DON’T KNOW. These links may contain a virus and totally mess up your computer. Sometimes, even when ppl i know send me a link, i first check with them to see if they really sent it – or if their computer has a virus and automatically sent it to everyone in their address book.
Be very careful!June 23, 2011 5:14 am at 5:14 am #779638
My policy is that if the email is legitimate and is well meant, I will reply in some fashion. I do not believe it is totally ethical to “blow off” another soul that wants to speak with you, unless that person has either been someone that is not known to you personally or has no professional interest or is threatening. That said, one should use the opportunity to set up boundaries of the experience and tell that other person your position on whether they have a place emailing you. If at the last resort they can not abide by your boundaries, you simply can edit them out and name them as junk mail. But that said, perhaps Hashem has a plan for each person that seeks to contact you and you might be missing a place in your world to be improving your relationship with Hashem through that other person. If they are clearly not sent by our Creator in an act of goodness, then it is clear that you should either not reply or you should reply in a sense that you discuss their infirmity or wickedness or what their resentment really is and you bid them “best wishes” in what they may be seeking to do further in their life. Fortunately, I must report that these messages are far and few in between and of course that is good. But that said, to simply blow off someone becuase they are the opposite gender sets a bad precidence in how you manage your friendships. True that it can be a squakey ground that they want to walk upon regarding a male-female relationship, but sometimes these can be professional or righteous personal relationships. In all, its your day that is to be decided by yourself and truly you are someone that must answer to Hashem and be happy with yourself. So if you think it is a pathway to a dark or licentious relationship, it is really upon you to be the strong being that will not let this happen to your soul. But a simple letter from an organized and well meaning person of the opposite gender is no reason to run into the corner and run away from your own self and run away from the day.
Thats my thought on this topic. I’m a doctor. Thats my policy.June 23, 2011 6:13 am at 6:13 am #779639Flatbush DudeMember
1)Are they Jewish, meaning the message was (likely) solicited?
2)What exactly did the message entail?
3)Are you upset at this development, or merely showing your irreverence for those who may have betrayed you?June 23, 2011 6:38 am at 6:38 am #779640Mother in IsraelMember
Thats my thought on this topic. I’m a doctor. Thats my policy.
What does being a doctor have to do with anything?June 23, 2011 7:05 am at 7:05 am #779641YW Moderator-42Moderator
I got aan email from an African Prince offering me millions of dollars if I help him get his money into the US. I’m gonna be rich!!!June 23, 2011 7:25 am at 7:25 am #779642TikkunHatzotMember
My policy is that if the email is legitimate and is well meant, I will reply in some fashion.
…and how do you know if it is legitimate & well meant?
I’m just saying, the best scam e-mails are the ones that sound legitimate & well meant and the worst thing you can do is to reply to those.
I’m a doctor. Thats my policy.
I fail to see why someone would listen to a doctor for halachic & online advice.June 23, 2011 10:17 am at 10:17 am #779643ZachKessinMember
Mod-42: I got the same email! I’ve always suspected that the banking crisis of the last 3-4 years was caused by all of the money in the world being unclaimed in African bank accounts.
(/Sarcasm)June 23, 2011 12:46 pm at 12:46 pm #779644
I can’t seem to win anything at a chineese auction, but I have the good mazel of winning the ghana national lottery twice a month.June 23, 2011 1:41 pm at 1:41 pm #779645
Being a doctor means that you have an ethical obligation to be a humane and prosperous individual who merits a place at the table when discussing methods and how to be orthodox in your relationships. So I would guess that was a piece of information that should merit that my comment regarding the proper way to handle some extraneous email might be worth a read. Thats all I am saying of course. But if you dont like doctors, I am sorry I can not help you.June 23, 2011 1:59 pm at 1:59 pm #779646yentingyentaParticipant
i had that problem once. one of my male classmates (goyish) got my email when we were in the same group for a project. about 3 months after the class ended i started getting emails from him with links to different websites. instead of answering back please don’t send me emails, i just set up a filter on my Gmail that sends them straight to the trash. B”H i haven’t received one email since. then again, i don’t empty my trash box either.June 23, 2011 2:44 pm at 2:44 pm #779647MiddlePathParticipant
Yeah, those emails from Nigerian princes congratulating me on winning 10 million euros are actually quite humorous. I try to count all the misspelled words.
Example: “Congradulashin! You haf won 10 meelion euros! Plees conferm yore bank akount number too kolect prize.”June 23, 2011 3:06 pm at 3:06 pm #779648mewhoParticipant
i get those all the time. if they were real id have more money than bloomberg and oprah put togetherJune 23, 2011 3:10 pm at 3:10 pm #779649me tooMember
have an ethical obligation to be a humane and prosperous individual who merits a place at the table when discussing methods and how to be orthodox in your relationships.
Obligation to be prosperous ??????
Any Doctor no matter what his beliefs merits a place at my table to discuss Orthodox Judaism??????June 23, 2011 3:15 pm at 3:15 pm #779650me tooMember
I recieved an email from a friend who I met in Shul that very AM saying he was stuck in a London hotel without wallet passport etc.
On 2 different ocasions weeks apart I recieved an Email from the address of a Rav to whose Parsha sheet I subscribe with some idiotic link.
Unknown senders ???? You have doubts???June 23, 2011 3:32 pm at 3:32 pm #779651littleappleMember
I got phone calls at work from an incarcerated person regularly and I tried to respond to him kindly. He was seeking to warn me about a date in the future that he felt was destined for a city wide disaster therefore he was calling 718 and 212 numbers from his cell in the Midwest. The call always began with a recording warning that it was being monitored, and I could reject it. I later heard that a Rosh Yeshiva had been receiving calls from a prisoner and he sought to find help for him some way maybe through the Alef organization.June 23, 2011 3:42 pm at 3:42 pm #779652
There exists a condition called orthodoxy that is not particular to the specific of “Orthodox Judaism”. That considered, this means that you are right and proper in all of your needs, endeavors and demeanor. This is how I am querying this word in the above essay.June 23, 2011 4:08 pm at 4:08 pm #779653
Spam is spam. No need to be nice to a spammer.June 23, 2011 4:14 pm at 4:14 pm #779654sheinMember
What if an unknown person spams you in the supermarket?June 23, 2011 4:24 pm at 4:24 pm #779655rabbiofberlinParticipant
DELETE DELETE DELETE any unknown emails….(by the way, how did you know it was “from the opposite gender”?)June 23, 2011 4:29 pm at 4:29 pm #779656
wash it off.
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