February 2, 2011 4:27 pm at 4:27 pm #594717
Would u rather to be in physical pain or emotional?February 2, 2011 4:53 pm at 4:53 pm #736379
obviously neither but emotional is far worse.February 2, 2011 4:55 pm at 4:55 pm #736380happiestMember
I’ve been in both physical and emotional pain and emotional is much harder (for me atleast). People understand physical pain, you get sympathy. People do not understand emotional pain. They may try to understand it but no one can understand it perfectly unless they’ve been through it themselves.February 2, 2011 4:56 pm at 4:56 pm #736381real-briskerMember
NONE!February 2, 2011 5:00 pm at 5:00 pm #736382candy613Member
we try not to choose bw 2 bad things coming upon us. words or even typed words can be extremely powerful. We dont want either! There is a story that two high school girls were once sitting and discussing which is worse not getting married until 30 or waiting 10 years to have children. They each picked differently and were talking about the pros and cons. The girl who said she would rather not have children for 10 years was one of the first to get married but didnt have any children for 10 years and the other girl didnt get married until 30 and had a very difficult time in shidduchim through it all. So weather this story is true or not, i think we should just be careful with the way we talk and word things so as not to bring any ayin hara or other bad upon us! Thanks!
~GaUrDiNg My ToUnGe FrOm CaViTiEs~February 2, 2011 5:00 pm at 5:00 pm #736383truth be toldMember
Emotional pain is a lot worse, in my opinion. The crazy phenomenon of kids cutting their hand, originates with this, according to psychologists. They have emotional pain so, they create physical pain to help them “forget” their emotional pain.
Of course the emotional pain remains, just the physical is now added.February 2, 2011 5:05 pm at 5:05 pm #736384HaLeiViParticipant
Emotional pain is a lot worse, you don’t even have your mind to retreat to. Also, as happiest says, people have sympathy for someone suffering physical pain, but someone suffering emotionally or mentally can even be made fun of, sometimes.February 2, 2011 5:07 pm at 5:07 pm #736385
tbt – it’s the same reason, you bang your head or punch a wall when you’re angry (not you, necessarily, but just stereotypically). You try to take your mind off the emotional pain by distracting yourself with physical pain.February 2, 2011 5:10 pm at 5:10 pm #736386smartcookieMember
Bochur- nobody hits a wall to inflict pain upon themselves. People do it out of desperation.
It does in no way take away emotional pain. It’s just an instant response for some people.February 2, 2011 5:27 pm at 5:27 pm #736387Pashuteh YidMember
Candy, I don’t understand the equality of the two sides. A single girl is alone. She has no husband or kids, and doesn’t know if she’ll ever have either. She is probably lonely and in her parents house, and feels like she’ll never have one of her own.
A married girl at least has a husband, and can feel like she is not a total reject, and can have a Jewish household. True she does not have kids yet, but nobody looks down at her because of that. Everybody knows kids are a gift min hashamayim.
How could not having a husband or kids ever possibly equal having a husband, but no kids.
Please clarify.February 2, 2011 5:40 pm at 5:40 pm #736388truth be toldMember
Are you sure? What purpose does this instant response serve? I would think, out of desperation of try to alleviate the pain/problem they’re in, they create a distraction. The physical pain serves as a distraction.February 2, 2011 5:52 pm at 5:52 pm #736389mikehall12382Member
this thread is rather depressing…February 2, 2011 6:18 pm at 6:18 pm #736390candy613Member
pashutah yid u completely missed my point! i was trying to say that it is not smart to pick 1 of two bad things bc your choice and the words you say can be very powerful. I was explaining that it probably is not smart for someone to decide whether they want to be in emotional or physical pain because we dont want either of them, and this could cause ayin hara upon us. The story was just an example of whats happening here. Two girls decided between two bad things which would be better and the way they chose brought ayin hara and it came true. I’m not sure if the story is true, and dont feel the need to go into the pros and cons of each side, but just hope you understand my real point!
~GaUrDiNg My ToNgUe FrOm CaViTiEs~February 2, 2011 6:43 pm at 6:43 pm #736391
smartcookie – I was referring to the subconscious psychology behind it. It is a way of releasing stress, but also it causes a physical pain. It doesn’t take away the emotional pain but it is distracting for a few seconds and that is ONE reason people do it.February 2, 2011 7:24 pm at 7:24 pm #736392bptParticipant
As nuts as it sounds, I think I could overcome an emotional whack sooner than a physical one. If someone were to lose a limb, that’s not growing back.
If someone loses an emotional battle (scars and all) a good friend can get you back on your feet much faster that Phys. Rehab. can from an accident.
Like things physical, staying in shape emotionaly (reading positive things, thinking positive thoughts, ect) can help prevent damage from occuring in the first place.February 2, 2011 7:41 pm at 7:41 pm #736393
bpt – I think the question was meant to compare 2 similarly intense things. Of course the emotional pain of losing a dime is not something more difficult than becoming a paraplegic, c”v. Severe emotional pain such as one that comes from, lo aleinu, the loss of a child or something like that also can’t be compared to the physical pain of a paper cut, but some may take losing a limb over losing a child.February 2, 2011 8:46 pm at 8:46 pm #736394
funny so many feel emotional pain is worse. i personally dont think i would be able to handle physical pain as well as emotional…February 2, 2011 11:42 pm at 11:42 pm #736395bptParticipant
“but some may take losing a limb over losing a child. “
Every parent worth the air they breathe would do this.
Yes, I meant the pain of 2 similiar experiences. Loss of life is not an “emotional” one. Its an irreplacable one.
And I could never put myself in someone elses shoes on emotional pain. All I meant is, I think (hope?) I could bounce back from an emotional setback easier than from a physical one, because of how I look at life as a whole.
I’ve touched bottom several times (in both the personal and professional arena) and instead of throwing in the towel, I took stock, recovered and tried again, all the while, making sure not to repeat the same mistakes twice.February 3, 2011 3:40 am at 3:40 am #736396Sister BearMember
Doesn’t emotional pain almost inevitably in some way lead to physical pain?? And vica versa doesn’t physical pain somehow lead to emotional pain?February 3, 2011 5:14 am at 5:14 am #736397aries2756Participant
We are not talking about loss here just pain. Physical pain is easier to treat and deal with than emotional pain.February 3, 2011 5:53 am at 5:53 am #736398observanteenMember
Never tried REAL physical pain but, seems to me emotional pain’s practicly MURDER. Refuah Shelaima to all sick people. (I certainly would appreciate a more uplifting thread… This is getting me pretty depressed.)February 3, 2011 4:44 pm at 4:44 pm #736399
i dont get it.. u have controll over your emotions. u cant controll physical pain..February 3, 2011 10:56 pm at 10:56 pm #736400Sister BearMember
s2021 – there are some really strong drugs you can take if you have physical pain, like morphine…February 3, 2011 11:30 pm at 11:30 pm #736401oomisParticipant
Neither is good, but physical pain is more readily apparent, and will garner more sympathy. I know people who suffer from both, and they have expressed that the physical pain is worse, because it CAUSES emotional pain.February 4, 2011 1:03 am at 1:03 am #736402
k how about this: u (a hypothetical person- not really U..) twist ur ankle or someone says something hurtfull to u. i think- emotionall pain u can heal on ur own (cry about it, distract urself, talk it out, laugh it off, paint ut toenails pink, convince urself it never happened.. whatever!) while physical pain u have no controll over! if the body desides its gonna hurt, all the chocolate in the world wont make it feel better! (ok there r painkillers, but not always!) i think the idea of being trapped in pain with no way out is worse than being in pain in ur mind which u can play tricks on.. but hey thats just me. its personal i guess. ok this is soooooo depressing.. sorry for creeping anyone out. i was just curious if anyone felt the same way…February 4, 2011 4:07 am at 4:07 am #736403mischiefmakerMember
S2021-NOT TRUE!! People don’t understand what emotional or mental conditions mean. The person CANNOT control it (in many cases). There are things they can do to eliminate the pain but they didn’t put themselves into that emotional or mental state. There are people who are on medication-because the CAN’T control it. Trust me, unfortunately I have lots of experience.
And about which is worse-when I’m in physical pain I think emotional is better; when I’m in emotional I think physical.:)
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