Work vs. Kollel
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August 31, 2016 2:24 pm at 2:24 pm #1176775Lilmod UlelamaidParticipant
Sparkly: good attitude.if my guy wants to go to kollel so be it. if my guy wants to go to work so be it. i dont care as long as his a good frum boy.August 31, 2016 2:39 pm at 2:39 pm #1176776
That sounds like a wonderful plan for Sparkly. I just feel like she should have a serious back up plan just in case the Rambam (or his modern day equivalent) isn’t available.August 31, 2016 4:25 pm at 4:25 pm #1176777Lilmod UlelamaidParticipant
Meno – good point. It does sound like she is being flexible now even if she wasn’t originally -she is open to learning or working.August 31, 2016 4:35 pm at 4:35 pm #1176778HealthParticipant
Sparkly -“if my guy wants to go to kollel so be it. if my guy wants to go to work so be it. i dont care as long as his a good frum boy”
That’s a good qualification! What about age differences?August 31, 2016 4:43 pm at 4:43 pm #1176779
I hope that’s her being flexible and not changing her mind. If you change your mind every two weeks, who’s to say you won’t change your mind two weeks after you get married.August 31, 2016 8:32 pm at 8:32 pm #1176780SparklyMember
meno – because im marrying a guy that i DO like even if he works or doesnt.September 1, 2016 12:40 pm at 12:40 pm #1176781
That’s wonderful. Not sure how it was a response to anything I said though.September 2, 2016 4:03 am at 4:03 am #1176782SparklyMember
Meno – because you said that i would be marrying someone based off what they do and i was saying that i am marrying someone for who they are NOT what they do.September 2, 2016 4:20 pm at 4:20 pm #1176783
“Meno – because you said that i would be marrying someone based off what they do”
I didn’t say that, you said that.
You had said a few weeks back that you felt very strongly about marrying a doctor, and then more recently you said it’s important to you that your husband makes a lot of money to support you and your kids. Now you are saying you don’t care what your husband does.
I would like to make it clear, that I don’t see anything wrong with any one thing that you said.
Want to marry a working guy? Fine.
Want to marry a kollel guy? Fine.
Don’t care either way? That’s also fine.
My issue is that you seem to change your mind quite often, sometimes every week, sometimes more often than that. If you don’t have it figured out before you get married, who’s to say you won’t change your mind 2 weeks after you get married and decide that you want something else.
Please treat this as advice, not an attack. If you’d like to retort and try to convince me that I’m wrong, be my guest, but I think you’re only doing yourself an injustice.
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