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flowers it’s so crazy that you’re saying this because that was my reaction after I got off the phone. These shadchanim are so persistent that they can end up convincing you into bad marriage.

I don’t blame the people who had questions the entire time during dating and the shadchanim convinced them now they’re unhappy or divorced!

The key is don’t be desperate they want to make shidduchim and they’re good at it but you’re the one living your life. It’s not like someone convinces you to buy a car or s/t like that!

I said I know from my experience it’s not for me and then the shadchan said oh you don’t know, why don’t you give it a date and see? I said I’m positive the person’s not for me and was polite and firm.

popa how did you know? I found out the answer–you can’t tell anything and it ends up that the shadchan thinks your crazy (because you didn’t give any reason). But you have to do what’s right (Halachicly) and think of yourself in this world.