MRUNDERSTOOD

I wonder if my story will help shed light on the differing sides of the fence.

I am a 5″9 man and always wanted to marry a woman loads shorter than me (I know its normally the other way) due to some foolishness from my youth very hard to dislodge, but ended up marrying someone 5″7 (hence Hashem’s sense of humour quip!) Based on the comments made by Sac that COMFORT is a concern and wont go away once married, I can quite agree this is true from experience.

But based on aries comment, especially HASHEM is not looking to pair Barbie with Ken! there’s a lot of emes in her words and her long post of this fetish eventually will go cos its superficial, I also believe is true. And the COMFORT thing for EITHER a man or a woman dating some1 similar height or if the man’s smaller
does seem more of a insecurity problem.

Without wanting to change this to a mental health thread, I find myself “checking” my wife’s height daily to see if the small gap I have is good enough even though Id like it to be more. With a large family now, I also find I can only learn better when shes not around but in her presence do feel this discomfort which affects my learning. I have divorce thoughts constantly.

Although Id like it to be true that its just superficial, why does it bother me so much?