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  • in reply to: How do you say Mechutanim in English? #801151
    Pinny
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    Technically, in English, “in-law” means any relative through marriage. http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/in+laws?

    It usually used for one’s child-in-law’s parents, but its more general definition is as in the film title “The In Laws” where it refers to the relationship between the two sets of parents (they are technically in laws to each other.)

    In Hebrew/Yiddish the term “mechutanim” is used the same way — usual usage has it meaning one’s child-in-laws parents but more generally it means one’s relatives through marriage. (“Alle mechutanim – Mazel Tov!” refers to all relatives through marriage.)

    in reply to: How To Address Your Mother In Law #796715
    Pinny
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    When we got engaged, my wife and I asked our parents what they wanted to be called by their child-in-law. My parents preferred “Shver” & “Shvigger” and my FIL & MIL preferred “Totty” or “Ta” & “Mommy” or “Ma”. We have both gone along with their requests though it was sort of uncomfortable for both of us at first. It has been many years since, but as we learned, one can get used to anything, and we are happy to call them what they prefer.

    BTW, my parents, recognizing that “Shver” & “Shvigger” are unusual names to call one’s FIL & MIL nowadays have NEVER INSISTED that any of their children-in-law call them those. They always mention these names to each of their CILs when asked but go along with “Totty” or “Ta” & “Mommy” or “Ma” when they see that any child-in-law is too uncomfortable with “Shver” & “Shvigger”. Therefore, as of now, 2 of their CIL call them “Shver” & “Shvigger” while the rest call them “Totty” or “Ta” & “Mommy” or “Ma”.

    AFA my parents vis-a-vis their own in-laws, my mother has never had a MIL but she called my father’s father “Abba” — just as he (and all the other children-in-law) did. My father calls my mother’s parents “Shver” & “Shvigger’ per their request (which is why I always considered this practice to be “normal” and was uncomfortable at first calling my in-laws “Totty” or “Ta” & “Mommy” or “Ma”).

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