Rebbetzin Yehudit Chana Chaya

Rebbe Menachem Mendel Schneerson, Of Blessed Memory (OBM) was instrumental and convincing that the ChaBad Lubavitch women who are married needed to cover their heads with a Sheitel. It is not a bad idea as others above have spoken about. When I was married ChaBaD Lubavitch in the year 2000 I wore my Sheitel very proudly. It was the very first time in my entire life that I gave myself to H”M and His Son, Rebbe Menachem Mendel Schneerson in my marriage to my husband. Why is it necessary to cover a woman’s head with a Sheitel. It is a beautiful sign of Modesty before G-D and all that He is. Why is Modesty important? Like Rebbe Menachem Mendel Schneerson’s wife, Rebbetzin Chaya Mushka Schneerson (whose Yahrzeit is tomorrow, 22 Sh’vt) she too wore a Sheitel with a Hat, and it showed her obvious love of H”M, Torah, and Yiddishkeit. Someone from outside looking in at us might conclude that it is unimportant and frivolous. This is far from the Truth (Emet) of Torah. There is a story in the Torah about a man who after a battle brings home his found woman from there. He puts her in a room that she stays in for 30 days approximately. At some point she is required to shave her head totally and when the period of time is up (after she mourns and grieves over her lost family and friends) she becomes the man’s wife. Then she can leave the room and be considered part of the family. Why is this important? Because, when you give up your innocence, when you face the prospect of marriage, you are giving your husband a gift. The gift is yourself. With this gift, comes many responsibilities as a new wife and future mother of his children. I had at some point stopped wearing a Sheitel, stopped going to the Mikveh, and led a life that I wanted to live and not be beholden to my husband only. This I now know was very, very wrong. I learned the hard way that to undo my marriage vows like I did caused me even to sell my wedding ring to a jeweler! Chos V’Sholom this never ever happens to you or to anyone ever. I have returned Ba’al Yeshiva (in complete repentance to H”M). I have returned to ChaBaD Lubavitch, but after a lost Ketubah I am permanently apart from my ended marriage. (He refused to give me a replacement Ketubah after all that had happened). Why is the Sheitel important? It is that the husband is the one to who his wife turns to in every need of hers and her children, too. I have not had children at all. I cried a lot over that fact. So, now, like Rebbetzin Chaya Mushka Schneerson (OBM) whose only children were the Chassidim of ChaBaD Lubavitch. I give myself over the the Chassidim of ChaBaD Lubavitch and let them lead me into the future with my plan to afford a new Sheitel to cover my head. Do not be afraid, future and married women, of giving yourself totally to your husband. He, believe or not knows best.

Signed, with love of Torah and Yiddishkeit,

I remain,

Rebbetzin Yehudit Chana Chaya Mushkah, ChaBaD International