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  • in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1685007

    Schneubs
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    Hi,

    OP here.

    Wondering how everyone is doing.
    MonseyIma, would love to hear if your daughter found
    her zivug yet.
    Or anyone else that commented in the past.

    B”H I’m doing very well.

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1554199

    Schneubs
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    Beee-that’s a great idea.
    However, I don’t think the mods would allow such a thing 🙁

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1553982

    Schneubs
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    Update: B”H I am engaged!!!

    Thank you to everyone who gave me chizuk.
    Monseyima, I hope your daughter finds her zivug at the right time, Be”H.
    Same goes for E120, Shopping613, and Shegold96.
    May you all be zoche to find your zivuggim at the right time.

    Bochurim, to you as well. Hatzlacha and bracha to each of you
    on finding your eizer kinegdo.

    May we all share only simchos together, and may we be zoche to see Moshiach B’meheira Viyameinu…


    Schneubs
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    Nobody should be forced or pressured into dating anyone, regardless of age.
    However, if maturity-wise etc both parties are on the same page, why not go out?

    in reply to: THE PURIM (urim) STORY (ory) Fan Club #1491532

    Schneubs
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    Anyone familiar with “Professor Chai and his torah zoo?”

    It seems to be unknown by many, but it also is made by the same people as The Purim Story.

    I highly recommend listening to it!

    in reply to: Marriage? #1486763

    Schneubs
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    I wouldn’t say that I can’t get a shidduch….
    I haven’t started yet, as I’m currently in the middle of taking a course in computers.
    Be”H I hope to get a job in IT, then start.

    Although I am a little nervous about shidduchim, I have come a long way as to accepting that I’m not a full time learner.

    in reply to: Marriage? #1486703

    Schneubs
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    I know of two guys personally that are in the construction business.
    Both are pretty serious guys.
    The first one got married not long after he started.
    The same thing happened to the second one. (he’s currently engaged) He is Bucharian, and his kallah is related to him somehow. I suspect some would say that doesn’t count.

    Is a serious guy in a brick-and-mortar store so different than these guys?
    Both were in-towners in an OOT yeshiva.

    in reply to: Marriage? #1486653

    Schneubs
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    Question-obviously the cost of living and other expenses vary depending on location etc.

    How much do you (the commenters) think a couple needs to start out with?
    How much do you think one needs to make in 5 years? 10 years?

    I know that it will vary greatly, but what are ballpark figures?

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1485891

    Schneubs
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    Thank you again to everyone.

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1464318

    Schneubs
    Participant

    Good morning everyone.

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1464086

    Schneubs
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    This has really turned out to be quite an interesting conversation.
    I hope there’s more!

    Anyone else have anything to add/share?

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1464067

    Schneubs
    Participant

    Joseph-thanks for the cute thought.

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1464070

    Schneubs
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    Thank you for all of the replies.
    I do feel better already.

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1464040

    Schneubs
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    Any other thoughts?

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1463988

    Schneubs
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    There are cities I’m thinking of are on the east coast.
    Don’t want to be specific.

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1463968

    Schneubs
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    Thank you shopping613.

    For example, I own a 1997 Toyota Camry.
    As long as it’s clean and presentable,
    why shouldn’t I be able to date in it?

    That kind of mindset is what i’m looking for.

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1463819

    Schneubs
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    Thank you malach and shopping613.

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1463698

    Schneubs
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    Thank you MTAB.

    That’s one thing that seems to be better in some smaller, more OOT communities.
    Acceptance and more appreciation of Baalei Baatim.
    I’ve seen that personally in a few smaller communities.
    I’m looking for either an OOT girl, or at least someone with that kind of outlook.
    Living more simply, etc

    Sure, we all like nice things, but not everything is a necessity

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1463664

    Schneubs
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    Thanks MalachofCholent.

    Here’s the big question:

    Who here is looking for the same thing in a shidduch?
    (either themselves or someone in immediate family)
    We’ve heard from one mother, and one girl who might

    Anybody else?

    It’s one thing to say that there are those that are, and quite another
    to say that you are.

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1463528

    Schneubs
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    Thank you again to everyone who has commented.
    I already have a lot to think about.

    But please keep the thoughts/advice/suggestions etc coming!

    Is there anyone who personally feels/felt the same way?
    I don’t think it’s just me.

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1463336

    Schneubs
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    I have had hardships and difficulties in my life.
    Overall, I think I’m doing pretty well, B”H.

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1463238

    Schneubs
    Participant

    Thank you Shopping613.

    Honesty is very important to me.
    I’m looking for someone that I can be completely myself around them.
    Someone who I feel I can confide in.
    I’m usually on the quieter side.
    I’m definitely not the life of the party type at all.
    In yeshiva, I was one of the first to go to sleep.
    I don’t think I’ve really ever had a desire to stay up late like most guys seem to do.
    Early to bed, early to rise, I guess?
    Comes with being a Yekki.
    Along with nightmares of being late to davening.
    (I actually have had nightmares like that)

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1463227

    Schneubs
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    Just finished a half hour of learning Halacha. 🙂

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1463179

    Schneubs
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    Honestly, there is nothing I’d like to do more than start shidduchim now.
    But I feel the smartest thing is to have a viable parnassah before.
    I don’t have a fallback option like others do.
    I know that I can’t be supported financially by my parents.

    I’m from out of town, and went to an established yeshiva out of town.
    I was actually the only bochur from my city.
    To get home I would rent a car.
    I had to pay for that myself (occasionally my parents did give me something towards that)
    I earned money by checking the eruv and learning mishnayos with an elementary school boy.

    I don’t expect (or really want) to be supported by my in-laws.

    Hence, I feel the need to have a parnassah first.

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1463155

    Schneubs
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    It’s so hard to speak to people about this.
    The yetzer hara tells you that somethings wrong with you.
    You must not have enough Yiras Hashem, or else you’d want to learn…
    It feels so hard when everyone’s talking in learning, and it’s basically all above your head.
    Seeing people quote gemaras in their sleep etc…

    It all feels so overwhelming.

    Be”H I hope on putting more effort into my learning.
    Listening to shiurim, Halacha, Mishnayos etc.

    Thank you to everyone for your responses.
    Please keep them coming.

    Thank you

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1463022

    Schneubs
    Participant

    By the way, in regard to knaasim,
    I was referring to monetary fines from the yeshiva,
    to those that came late to shachris.

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1463020

    Schneubs
    Participant

    Shopping613, thank you.
    I agree.

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1463024

    Schneubs
    Participant

    P.S. Recently I have been trying to learn some Halacha on a daily basis.
    I also have been doing shnayim mikra.

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1463008

    Schneubs
    Participant

    I really appreciate the positive responses. Please keep them coming!

    Be”H my goal is to set up a seder with a chavrusa on a daily basis
    that’s enjoyable.
    I think straight out Halacha I would enjoy more.

    If anyone knows of any leads in IT (computer field) I’m very interested.
    My PCS course ends in June, Be”H.

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1462984

    Schneubs
    Participant

    Thank you MonseyIma.

    I agree that there needs to some learning on a daily basis.
    It hurt so much being in yeshiva, watching many of my friends
    learning and enjoying it…

    I’ve always known that learning full time was not for me.
    It’s accepting that there’s nothing wrong with me that’s harder sometimes.

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1462987

    Schneubs
    Participant

    Joseph
    Thank you for your comment.

    At this point, I haven’t started dating yet.
    The only thing really holding me back from starting is having a real job.
    I know that my parents are not going to be able to support me financially.

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1462948

    Schneubs
    Participant

    And what experience do you have?
    (I’m looking for more than a yes and no answer)

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1462947

    Schneubs
    Participant

    I hope it is.
    But do you have any firsthand experience in this regard?

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1462909

    Schneubs
    Participant

    My thoughts exactly MTAB.

    I’m really looking for insights, although encouragement helps too!

    in reply to: Working boys and shidduchim #1462916

    Schneubs
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    NO, definitely not a poem.
    Although I am good at making grammen.
    But that’s neither here nor there.

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