sheldy

I think it all depends on the individual. Most people need to have some sort of “like” in order to commit to marrying someone, but there are those (beleive it or not- I know people like this) that marry based on their logic. If they see that a respective spouse is everything they want and everything seems to match but the emotional connection is lacking (obviously the person in question doesn’t repulse them), they might go ahead and marry them. These people are usually the type of people who never felt emotionally dependant on others and in general look at life from a very logical prespective. They are the minority.

Its all relative. I’ve heard that many women like to have a couple for a seuda that they are having boys at so they are not left in an uncomfortable situation… they have someone to talk to while the men talk on the other end of the table. Theres usually not too much fraternizing in this scenario since the bachurim are not usually schmoozing with the wives… So if you’re going to have a meal with another couple- having bachurim is the way to go!