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I have seen a bunch of shadchanim listed on other forums…. so it is worth a shot to try and post it 🙂
So nice of you! Tizku Lmitzvos
AZ thank you for the idea I really appreciate it. I know people were saying that shadchanim can not post any numbers on here….. but I noticed in a different thread the numbers of rabbanim were being allowed through so maybe it is okay to list some numbers of shadchanim/ people who are caring and determined to help!
I think that the the idea shows hakaras hatov and is very nice. Obviously one can’t say a set fee to pay for the dates because it is dependent on the family’s financial status. AZ what I meant was for me personally I would feel uncomfortable to call and shadchan and say that. I would feel more comfortable showing my appreciation once it has ended, which is what I usually do although have never done it in the form of money. Also as someone else mentioned there needs to be a shadchan, or someone who knows boys that is going to be willing to be on top of the situation and work on your behalf…. It is hard to find some shadchanim like that.
While I hear the idea behind offering to pay a shadchan like that it is also interesting in how to go about telling a shadchan that they would get paid for setting a specific person up…… interesting idea though…. Why didn’t any moderator comment on the idea!?!?
THe most important thing for me is someone who has good middos. Obviously no one wants a mean husband but middos are so important to me. And girls (not all but many) notice the little things on the date. Saying thank you to someone who held the door open for example shows someone’s middos.
Also another thing is being genuine and real. Having a rav/rebbe he is close to. Knowing where he is going in life. Every girl will have their own list and things of importance.
BPTotty: There are many guys who are working but in an “ideal” world would like to be sitting and learning. They are associated with the yeshivish world but for whatever the reason may be are working. Someone like that…. who is machsiv torah and makes real time for learning, not a guy who is working but learns occasionally…..
AZ: not getting more names to call as MANY shadchanim have already heard from me/about me. I mean getting noticed more by shadchanim and getting quality dates. I literally do all those things that you just listed….. It feels like I am at a dead end though in terms of shidduchim.
An Idea: I wonder if there is a way for the moderators to be contacted directly and for yeshivaworld to have a specific sections that lists shadchanim, people who like to help in shidduchim, etc….
dont see any list for shadchanim….. where on the site is it?
I go out with boys who are learning for the most part but would be open to a boy whose Hashkofos are more to the yeshivish side and is very machsiv torah. I am between 20-25.
Wow thank you so much!! that would be great. If you are on that list it would be a great way to get in touch with you.
I also heard something about Chosson Bereishis being a zchus for shidduchim although when discussing it with someone over yuntif they didn’t know anything about it and was curious if others had any insight.
Mazal Tov to that bochur!